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I've personally seen quite a number of clients with differing capabilities. In truth it all started with a wonderful young man named 'Big Al'. He lived 8 hours away, suffered severe cerebral palsy and was very sad to be a virgin at 25. When I drove the 8 hours to see him the first time, I had no idea what I was in for. I had no clue that I would be responsible for doing everything. Including using a massive hoist to get him into bed. I suspect he didn't tell me all of this for fear it would scare me away. But I was determined to bring some much needed joy into this young man's life. To me, 'disabilities' are a complete non-issue. I have had clients tell me ahead of time, and I've had more than one never mention anything until I meet them. Either way, we ALL need intimacy and human contact. The body is a mere shell of the truly beautiful soul inside, and if physically some things don't work so well, then just enjoy the journey and worry not about the final destination.

I just wanted to say that my thoughts go out to the people in Boston and to the family's of everyone hurt and killed where ever they are from. there were over 2000 Canadians there as well. i welcome every one to give their best wishes to everyone there and to anyone on cerb who knows anyone there as well. This should never happen anywhere or to anyone in the world.

There is nothing wrong with being in a relationship while you are working in this business. There are more ladies who are dating someone or married in this business than people realize. Like anything else what happens at work, stays at work and outside of the closed door you live your life as everyone else does. Having a partner who supports you and who understands you will only benefit you and your business in the long run. We have to fib as it is 90% of the time with our double life, so having someone who gets it makes it that much easier to feel normal at times. Most of the men we spend time with are married or have a girlfriend, so why shouldn't we have the same personal pleasure?

Each and every one i get to have the pleasure of meeting has the best smile. Posted via Mobile Device

Because I am a full time University student and SP'ing very unpredictably(because also of my other part-time job) For me personally, I am focusing on not SP'ing or Uni in general, but my youth and personal life; but I will say this loud and proud; being a part-time Sp does NOT, NOT, NOT define me and how I am as a young woman!! period!!!!! I can promise you that there are TONS of people whether that be at school, or on the street etc that would NEVER guess of me being an 'SP' no matter how 'beautiful', 'sexy' they think I am!!! However, SOMETIMES there are things left unsaid and with my friends and people at school I do NOT tell them about my 'secret double life' of part-time sp'ing, and whether you are an SP or hobbyist, that may be the right thing for you to do with certain people in your life, while others may very well know what you do and have no problem with it because they know YOU as the WONDERFUL amazing person you are and do not hold that stigma and generalization against you like some people who plain and simple do not understand the real modern day of Sp'ing and hobbyists. Sadly, not EVERYONE will be able to proudly tell everyone what they are doing and get accepted with open arms, as there are a lot of 'haters' out there who no matter what want to look at the negative side, which is why whether or not you are in the dating world you learn to shut certain people out and do only what is right for you!! Whether you are an SP or hobbyist!! Personally, I am lucky to have an amazing person by my side who not only supports me but I support her every step of the way with no judgement of what I do or she does because at the end of the day nobody is perfect no matter who you are!! I think it is ridiculous is someone thinks an SP cannot be in love and have a normal, loving and nurturing relationship!! Everyone is capable and deserving of love, no matter what gender or profession!! =D

Hello tas510: As a fellow disabled member and a longtime advocate of sexual rights I know all too well some of the difficulties you face. The people here have really hit the nail on the head as far as advice. One aspect which hasn't been mentioned thus far, and it can be a sticky one for some people because it in itself can carry a stigma of its own, is the consideration of a potential client on a fixed income, which includes myself. What follows, is my methodology to insure that all needs are met both in regards to myself and the service provider. If none of this is applicable to your situation please do feel free to ignore it. I actually keep a separate account exclusively for service provider dates. [For some reason, overtime this has become known as my "Secret Squirrel Account" :) I can hear the psychoanalysis having a field day with regards to that title.] Having the money separate really does take the pressure off on so many levels. You probably have some idea of what a, if there is such a thing, "typical" date costs after looking around CERB. Aim for that; it may take some time, but you know it will happen. Each letter of introduction send out to it perspective service provider is personalized. I spent a fair bit of time reading the individual's web site and forum messages to anticipate any concerns they may have. This helps encourage dialogue. When it comes to disability, some service providers can be rather shy about asking questions directly. It is a human trait we all share. Encourage people to ask questions in her own words. Provide links to articles related to your particular condition so they can look infomation up on their own, if they want to. Be clear about what you expect and want. [i avoid acronyms to encourage openness and clarity. The huge arraying of these short hands also drive my voice dictation software crazy.] If you are unsure about how to accomplish something, say that too. Sex workers are incredibly creative people who love to explore. I explicitly state in each letter that I am on a fixed income. But beyond that though, I do not make it an issue or haggle about the price. Simply stating that I may not be the most frequent client is sufficient. It keeps things honest and clear. Removing another potential stumbling block to communication. Unless they prefer phone calls as the initial communication. I only contact them directly after a successful dialogue via e-mail has been established.. Finally, do not expect a reply immediately. Some people have a large amount of e-mail to go through. Do not be disheartened if there is no reply. But do keep on looking. One last thing. If you're inclined to be apolitical in this regard. A number of years ago a grass-roots group, here in Vancouver B.C. was formed by disabled persons and health professionals to explore and expand the issue of sexuality for the disabled. The "Equitable Access to Sexual Expression" group. (EASE) Things are starting to rock and roll. They are beginning to open up dialogues all over the place, on many fronts. I encourage you and all interested members to check them out! Here is their face book page. A web site is in the works. Take care, PatrickGC

Check my reco on Evelyne Lemay... "you smile and then a spell is cast...and here we are in heaven" (At Last, by Etta James or Beyonce) However, everyone looks beautiful with a smile on their face......

8 year old Marin Richard losing his life in the Boston bombing yesterday. So sad...

We've had this discussion before, but I am more than happy to reiterate my feelings on the matter. I love to kiss!!!! I find extremely romantic and a huge turn on to kiss a beautiful woman. I don't want to offend anyone, but I will not see anyone who does not kiss. I need some deep, passionate kissing to get turned on...otherwise it's just not worth my time.

Indeed! Well put. When one thinks about it, all great achievements, all the "Eureka moments" which people have shared throughout the ages, all have one thing in common: seeing beyond the obvious status quo and powerful intimate moments. The human body may survive on food, but intimacy and acknowledgment is really the only way the spirit of an individual can grow. This may sound trite but it really is at the core of the human equation. Creativity is always the result of a powerful emotion. There would be no creation without the desire to do so in the first place. Thank you so much for the wonderful post :) PatrickGC Additional Comments: And while this thread is moving along on the main topic lets me hijack it for a moment to mention an issue which is equally as important and more widespread than most people think. Women with Disabilities. Face essentially the same issues discussed here and thus far. Where do they get meaningful, sincere service? This is a call to all the open-minded "Gigolos" out there. There is a customer base just waiting for you! I suspect the reason we don't hear more about this, is because women face more stigma on all fronts in society today. If we're going to be truly just an open in addressing these needs this must be an inclusive topic for all. Did I mention gay, lesbian, transgendered etc.? The full rainbow of lifestyles and orientations... Yahoo for variety, they need service too! Food for thought. .... and now let us continue the thread. PatrickGC "Down with marginalization! Up with inclusion! [and everything else :) ] ."

I am an upfront person and have always told anyone I was involved with about my job and found they were always supportive. 95% of them were secure in themselves to know that this was job and not once tried to interfere in my business. If they couldn't handle it then the relationship was over. I don't do ultimatums and people have to accept others for who they are and what they do. They were also able to differentiate between love and sex which is a huge issue as society has seemed to taught us that the two go hand in hand. Not always. Jealousy and insecurity have no business being in a relationship I'm involved in and I choose to walk away if that were the case. Having said that, your job doesn't define who you are as a person. The men I have been in a relationship with have always had their own identity with their own jobs and careers. I don't like the stereotype of escorts playing sugar momma to many different men and I don't like those who sponge off of women either. I go into a relationship as an equal partner and expect the same in return. I also tell them that I don't discuss specifics about my job and I don't tell and they don't ask details including which sites I advertise on. I keep my relationships seperate from this business and find this works well. I don't discuss what I do with my clients either. However, if I've had a bad day they are always there to support and comfort me which is great. Once again, I don't get into specifics. My serious relationships have all been great in this regard and all you can do is be yourself. Being an escort has played a large role in my life and should I decide to leave the business, it will be my own choice and not someone telling me I should. They have never once tried to make me feel bad as with the stigma attached to prostitution in society. My partners have understood and accepted who I am as a person first and foremost with my job simply playing a role of what I do for a living. Love, respect and understanding are what humans crave.. Sex workers are no different.

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I myself, cannot be in a relationship while doing this line of work. I do not think that this applies to every sp, this is just for me personally. Not judging the so's who can accept this line of work. It's just for me personally, I dont want my future so/boyfriend to accept this line of work. I already know, I am super old fashioned ;) Its kinda sad because I have not had a boyfriend for soooooo long :( And I will be the first to admit..that I do sometimes feel a little lonely...but..this is something I will always fall back on for income, so until I get a permanent 37.5 hours a week career with the FED GOV..or something else just as solid..maybe then I can pursue finding a man to call my own. Being in a relationship is a personal thing. You have to do what you feel is right and what you can handle :)

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I've been paying more attention to the positive stories today...the tales of kindness and goodness that are often overlooked in disasters. I find the media pays too much attention to the blood, gore, smoke and fire, and when a suspect is found, they cover every detail of their life. This only encourages other attention-seeking madmen to create their own act of mayhem. I don't know if any of you are redditors (http://www.reddit.com), but when everything started unravelling yesterday, pages immediately sprung up from people offering everything they could - places to stay, meals, cell phones, frequent flyer miles, hotel stays...the list is endless, and impressive. As someone posted previously...look to the helpers. They're always there, and deserve more praise and attention.

Not to sound arrogant, but anyone who has seen me after an encounter would have to say I have the best smile!! It lasts for days.

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Everyone who takes part in this hobby has their first experience at some point and I imagine most had some level of nervousness going in. I was pretty nervous before my first encounter but the nerves went away pretty quickly. The ladies I've spent time with have all been wonderful at making me feel comfortable as soon as I walked through their doors and my encounters have far exceeded anything I could've hoped for!

I have learned after reading this above.....and a recent highlight post of OD's from the weekend..... that speaking much better French because of consuming alcohol leads to going home from a night out with the taste of a young French girl in your mouth ;)

Bombs are something that really sucks. Prayers please for Boston, Mass..

I too would never hobby if I am in a relationship and vice versa. Btw, from what I read and hear a job with the FED GOV is not that solid anymore :). On a more serious note, I absolutely agree with your last paragraph.

Jenny's back, and she's beautiful! Confirmed sighting today. :)

I've had wonderful clients who were disabled and wouldn't turn someone down just because of his disability or because he's in a wheelchair. If you find someone who interests you, send a message or e-mail to her. Tell her about your disability and what is and is not possible for you. Let her know about your limitations and any special assistance or support you may require for a satisfying encounter. If you need to meet in your home or a wheelchair-accessible place, or if you need nursing care nearby, or if you need help bathing or getting ready for your meeting, please say so. These are all things that can be worked out with a little care and planning. It's true that not everyone will be comfortable. Most of the time, though, an SP will be concerned that she may accidentally do something that might hurt you or that she won't know what you need and when. If you can be clear, explicit and understanding, I think you shouldn't have a problem finding a companion.

I think that following your own heart is all that matters. If it's too complicated for you to work and have a relationship, it's good that you know that. If you can make the separation between work and the rest of your life, that's wonderful, too. One thing that many of us face is when the boyfriend or partner really isn't able to deal with our work. This is not unusual: men don't share very well, most of the time. Some men like the idea of dating a paid companion because they imagine she will be a fantastic sexual partner, or at least the sort of person who will never say no. These are fantasies; reality can be very different. But that's true for all relationships. Even good friendships start out with a lot of idealized expectations. It's when they settle down to the reality of life that we see what the relationship really is or can be. If he can understand that what you do is your job and not a series of relationships, that's best. But if he gets caught up with who you've seen, how many people you've entertained this week, what you earned, appointments you've scheduled for the days and weeks to come, and what goes on in your encounters, you may have a problem. If he's too quick to assume that if you're tired, or not feeling well, or preoccupied with something that it's because of your work, and is interfering with his life, you do have a problem. If he ever makes unkind remarks about you in terms of your work, you have a serious problem and should end the relationship.

Why not? Frankly it should never even be a question. Working in this industry at its most basic level is the same as working at every other job. You work a specific number of hours to achieve the financial goals to sustain a comfortable lifestyle. When you have worked enough hours, the rest of the day is yours to do with as you please. It's a tenet of life to which we have all grown accustomed and to which we believe justify in demanding. In that regard, everyone has the right to personal happiness, to spend their free time doing the things they wish to do and with whomever they wish. It's the same whether you are a service provider, a government worker, an entrepreneur, a bus driver or a waiter. No one else has the right to impose relationship standards on anyone based on their chosen career. You provide a service that fulfills desires and fantasies. For the hours that you are working, you need to present yourself as whatever persona that satisfies both you and your clientele. If that persona is a single, free spirited woman, so be it - she is not the person that goes home to her own personal life. Ostensibly it comes down to your choice of either maintaining Layah as a 24/7 persona or leaving Layah when the work day is done.

Most apologies then, I didn't mean to be repeating what you already know.

Jude, Vienna, and Marie-Soliel are all excellent masseuses and very sexy

I would get a money man. Buy a quaint house, ensure my immediate family is taken care of with a home and no debts. I would set up a fund recurring payout from my investments that would be much larger than any job I've ever worked and stick to that budget I would like to see my money grow. From that point I would live lavishly off of interest for the rest of my life. Buying what I want when I want but within reason. I would donate my TIME to charity as I see fit, I feel it is much more appropriate than throwing money at them, it would also ensure I could help as I saw fit. I would live comfortably and do as much good as I could.

I like them all equally because when I'm with lady and she is smiling it means she is happy and enjoys being in my company. Of course I'm smiling because I am happy I am in the company of a CERB lady and about to have or am having a wonderful memorable escape. My smile lasts for a few days, well sometimes a week or two, or more...:-) because I have memories of that memorable escape...oh if only I could tell my friends, my non CERB civilian friends that is :-) RG :-)

I see DitaDoir is in PEI perhaps she'll be stopping in Halifax, she looks gorgeous, perhaps you should pm her-best of luck.

How can you get intimate with someone without kissing first? I feel it is an important part of the experience, if you jump directly to sex without any kissing its like going to the hockey game just to have the excellent hot dog and not watch the game at all. Kissing as to be included in the meeting for me.

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To sum up the advice already given: "Ask and ye shall receive!". roamingguy, Phaedrus, and royalflush131313 have given you the best advice you need. And Cleo - be gentle. He knows not what he does. But he'll figure it out quickly. :)

This is true... but what you get in a SC that you don't get anywhere else is the ability to pick and choose according to the whim of the moment, and to keep her for a few dances if you like her or to cut it off after one or two if you don't. SCs may be the right level of naughtiness for someone who wants a little extra naked lady in their life, but doesn't want to go so far as to get themselves nekkid with someone, for whatever reason. And finally, going to a SC with friends is less awkward, I'd imagine :) But yeah, if mileage is what you're after, you're much better off with MAs and SPs. IMHO they all have their attractions... which is why I continue to see SPs and MAs and visit SCs.

Depends whether you're actually talking about your profile pic (the one at the top of your profile page) or your avatar (which appears on every post you make). For the avatar: [--]Go to "User CP" (top-left of the page) [--]"Edit Avatar" (under Setting and Options in the menu on the left) [--]And then either provide the URL or an image online, or upload one from your machine. Pay attention tothe size restrictions or it won't work (The maximum size of your custom image is 80 by 80 pixels or 97.7 KB (whichever is smaller). For the profile pic: [--]From the User CP, choose "Edit Profile Picture" (under "Your Profile") [--]Again, supply an URL or upload a pic from your machine [--]And, again, pay attention to the size restrictions. This one can be bigger than the avatar: The maximum size of your custom image is 468 by 200 pixels or 259.3 KB (whichever is smaller).

One quick thought which occurred to me right after Summer's post. Location, are you looking for someone who lives in your city explicitly? There are many members who travel across Canada etc. regularly. Where they live doesn't make a difference to the date and would greatly increase the possibilities. PatrickGC

Thanks for this

So well said Berlin. thank you.

Thanks for the comments and they are greatly appreciated as I'm making a list and checking it twice

I had a session with Enigma a couple of years ago when she visited St. John's. It was certainly not your average experience with an SP, but I say that in a good way. If you are interested in learning a bit about Tantra, and are comfortable with letting her control the session and it's pace, you are in for treat. I would definitely recommend, and am hoping to repeat when she comes back to the Rock.

I agree with Peachy. I am a much happier person because of sex. The other benefit to me for engaging in the hobby is the motivation it gives me to take better care of myself. Since starting in the hobby, I have lost over 40 lbs. I am probably in the best shape I have been in since I was 30....and that was quite a while ago. I now play hockey, ride bike, golf and work out about 5 days a week. Thanks girls and other fellow cerbites. Additional Comments: I don't smoke before sex or after sex...only during sex. Cheers

Isabella left her chips unattended so I ate em!!!

Karina... Spending intimate time with a client or conversely when we spend intimate time with a provider is bound to have emotional challenges. Intimacy comes not only from the body, it comes from the mind and spirit. The greater the time spent with another human being, the greater the bond is that is being forged. Is it wrong? Absolutely not; it's human. Therein lies the challenge. The challenge is fulfilling that desire, that need to requite, to validate. The checklist is infinite but you probably should ask yourself a number of questions. First, does he share the same strength of passion for you? If the answer is yes, it becomes simpler and more complicated. It is however the key in determining whether your feelings are insatiable or open to further provocation. Second, if the answer to the first is yes, are you both willing to make sacrifices - significant sacrifices - to see the relationship flourish or flounder? Men, for the most part, do not share well. Your current career is an avocation that might not be in line with his traditional values; he might not be willing to accept a partner that has intimate relationships with other men. It's a paradox, considering the nature of your current relationship, but it is a clear delineation - a line in the sand. Would you be willing to forego your current position to fulfill a relationship that may or may not work out? Further to this - would he be free to make the choice to be with you, without making significant personal sacrifices? Is he married? Does he have children? Does he have a career? Would his family accept the relationship? The typical client-provider relationship is safe because it is discrete and fulfilled at the end of each session. Guilt is diminished - it's a transaction of the flesh rather than of the heart. When you add emotion, the intimacy is enhanced and the safeguards come down - you genuinely give yourself to him as a whole - but the price to yourself is vulnerability. YOU need HIM. It's a struggle that many people on both sides of the industry face. It can be incredibly beautiful. It can also be psychologically crippling. The best advice I can give? Be analytic. Before you approach him, ask yourself whether you would be willing to make equal or greater sacrifices to the ones you may have to ask him to make. Ask yourself whether you really know him or whether you just idealize him. It's far easier to love the idea of a person than actually live with that person. It's a tough one that each of us has to deal with. I don't know whether I have helped at all or over complicated things - but I do hope that I have given some food for thought. A quote comes to mind, not written by Shakespeare but of that era: "Love is the most beautiful of dreams and the worst of nightmares."

I always chuckle when people ask me if I work out. Of course I do, the best workout on the planet.

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Was there once last june. Had to pay $10 for a champagne room but very dark and lots of privacy. I do not know about the club per say but the dancer I got was very open. Anything goes for a price.