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Sounds like both sides of the story are out. A once "life happens" cancellation is one thing, but serial cancellations, not cool, not cool at all...shows at bare minimum a disrespect for the lady's time, she could be seeing a paying client instead of waiting around for someone who doesn't show up If you want to be treated with respect, you have to treat others with respect too RG

It might be, if you weren't a serial canceler. And almost always last-minute. It gets tiring Jayrock. :(

I am in agreeance with a cancellation re-booking fee and support it 110%. I travel full time and only see a few guests per day, I don't book last minute and I only ask for a deposit when I feel the need too. I understand that life happens and some times you have to cancel, but keep in mind We (COMPANIONS) are running a business and our time is money. When you cancel last minute I'm out the money and still have the same expenses. As it was mentioned your doctor and dentist charge you for cancelling and our business is no different than theirs in regards to time being spoken for and wasted. It clearly states on my website about cancellation and rebooking fees, they have been on my site for over a year now and no-one has ever questioned them. If you don't agree with a ladies policy you should look else where for company as like our donations the policies are FIRM. This is suppose to be a fun and enjoyable past time, but due to people taking advantage of kindness and my time, I have had no-choice but to implement such policies.

Thanks to all that attended and all that supported the night but could not make it out... I do believe that a good time was had by all!!!! It was fantastic meeting all the new faces and reacquainting with all the friends that have been made over the history of these events... it's always a wonderful time to be in a place where you know you belong without any judgment. My special thanks goes out to Angela of Ottawa, without whom none of this could have been possible. Many have thanked me but my assistance was the proverbial tip of the iceberg; Angela was the true engine that drove the social machine. I am so proud to have seen the mountain of toys that we collected, the money and goods that we garnered for the family in Belleville and the spirit of giving that all of us shared last night and in the weeks leading up to the party. We truly are a group of people with heart. Finally... to the unsung assistants that help out at each of these events, my heartfelt thanks. You never get credit, but are always there lending a hand when we really need it. I am of course talking about Shortcake and Loneskater... two of the finest people you could ever meet, and two individuals that I am proud to count among my friends. Merry Christmas to each and every one of you... may the season bring you peace and joy!

I've overheard MPAs laughing at the guys who bring gifts. Sure they like them; what girl doesn't. They'll still laugh and call you a loser behind your back.

What does "Christmas spirit" have to do with the topic at hand Pete? Seems like a needless hijack. Kim

This is an interesting thread. I think SPs and MPs are just like any other independent business woman. As such, they get to make the rules they run their businesses by. If the rules are clear and discussed at the time of booking or available online or communicated by email/ PM (you get the idea), then those are the rules. I may not like them, but as a client, I have a choice. We, as clients, get to vote with our feet and SPs/MPs get to define their working rules. It's the simple. My dentist and most of my doctors charge a steep cancellation fee. I am aware of it and when I book an apt, I am agreeing to their terms. If I cancel last minute or am a no-show (it's happened twice), the fee was raised. Once it was ultimately waived (because of the context) but that was unexpected and I did not ask - I just explained the situation and it happened. The other time, I paid, and after the initial human response of being ticked off, realized it was totally appropriate. These women don't owe us anything - they are running a business. It may often be in their best business interest to be flexible/forgiving, but not always. It's their call. Ok. That's my two cents.

To all of the people that I have met on this trip to Ottawa, I truly had the greatest time here:) I will be leaving with the fondest memories of the time we shared. I laughed, I was romanced, inspired and will leave with an urge to come back back for more! As for the social is more than I could have hoped for! I felt so welcomed by each of you, Thank you for that! Till we meet again, stay happy, healthy and hope you Holiday season is filled with joy and love! xoxoxo

Thanks Angela,Old Dog,Loneskate,Shortcake and others that helped made this event a fine success! I am proud to be a cerbite the thought and caring people within this community is unbelievable. Thanks Shortcake for the beautiful Christmas tree decorations ....the memories of these ornaments will put a smile on my face every Christmas here on in! It was a pleasure to meet new and old friends again! Merry Christmas to everyone! Have a safe and happy holiday! Angie & The Naughty Girls xo

Can't find the original source for this, but it amused me anyway :)

Christmas spirit folks!!... can we now sing....Jingle Bells,perhaps we can dash through this thread ;) Dashing through the snow In a one horse open sleigh O'er the fields we go Laughing all the way Bells on bob tails ring Making spirits bright What fun it is to laugh and sing A sleighing song tonight Oh, jingle bells, jingle bells Jingle all the way Oh, what fun it is to ride In a one horse open sleigh Jingle bells, jingle bells Jingle all the way Oh, what fun it is to ride In a one horse open sleigh A day or two ago I thought I'd take a ride And soon Miss Fanny Bright Was seated by my side The horse was lean and lank Misfortune seemed his lot We got into a drifted bank And then we got upsot Oh, jingle bells, jingle bells Jingle all the way Oh, what fun it is to ride In a one horse open sleigh Jingle bells, jingle bells Jingle all the way Oh, what fun it is to ride In a one horse open sleigh yeah Jingle bells, jingle bells Jingle all the way Oh, what fun it is to ride In a one horse open sleigh Jingle bells, jingle bells Jingle all the way Oh, what fun it is to ride In a one horse open sleigh

How can you say it's a private matter if you keep posting about it publically?

I had the pleasure of seeing Mary yesterday. She opened the door dressed as I had requested, and man she looked hot and I knew I was in for a good time. She was easy to talk to, pleasant personally. She has a way making you feel like you the only man in world that matters. way beyond GFE with a touch of PSE. She is very accommodating and has a open menu. she did any request I had in a blink of a eye and she truly enjoyed the encounter as you know the tremor a women has in her legs when she is having fun, the ones you cant fake, she had those. It was a really good time and I will see her again. I can't recommend her enough. Be good to her and she will be great with you

What RG said about Isabella is exactly the way I feel about them both. RG you are a very special person and I feel blessed to know you :)

It may happen (and I emphasize may) sometimes with some SP's/MA's, but for him to categorically post as if all MPA take gifts and then laugh behind the clients back, uncalled for. Just posted, IMHO to make out the ladies as money grabbers, and the clients who gift give as losers. He should look to the top of the CERB page next time, you know, the part which says if you do not have anything nice to say...Please don't say anything at all I stand by my original post, and fully understand why he got the negative rep points he did RG

This is a unique situation because of the prepaid arrangement. There was a level of service being provided before the arrangement began. This level continue through the first half of the arrangement, as I expected it would. A pattern existed. As I said in the previous post, I respect her right to change her services. But in doing so, she changed the essence of what was originally agreed to, thereby altering the arrangement. As well, I was only given 4 hrs notice of this change. And as I said, in this circumstance, there should have been a sharing for the responsability of the cancellation. I fully intended to go through with the appt. that day, until I received the pm. My cancellation was a reaction to her action. Though I apologize for this poor example, at this moment nothing else comes to mind. Sp's expect to be paid in cash. If a client told you 4 hrs before the appt. that they didn't have enough cash and would pay you with a combination of cash and Canadian Tire money, I suspect the SP would not agree to this and cancel the appt. It was not the terms of the original agreement. Where I feel she took advantage, is because she was already in possesion of my cash due the the prepaid arrangement. As well, historically, I had been able to talk to this person about anything and everything, and we had discussions about other financial arrangements that were agreed to be fair for both parties. There was conversation, dialogue. In this situation, I was not given the courtesy of either...just told. As I said...it was a unique situation.

Don't be so harsh about explorer69's post, there is SOME truth to it. Ladies don't always get gifts from only their favorite clients, they get gifts from some they don't really care for for one reason or the other. And yes, I've heard comments similar to what he says above. It's not the norm but it does happen now and then. And they do not talk about only guys who bring gifts, they probably talk more often about the ones who don't in my experience. Truthfully, can all MAs say they have never had anything bad to say about a client? And you have never told another MA or perhaps a longtime trusted client who you consider a friend? Maybe in a perfect world this wouldn't happen but we haven't reached that on earth. I know in my job, like many of us, I have to be nice to unpleasant people all the time. And my colleagues and I talk about our experiences. And yes, we do have some laughs and probably called some of them losers or worse. While some MAs may seem angelic or saint-like, they are human. I'm not naive enough to think that I have not been talked about, everyone can't like me, that's just the way it is. A successful MA will be able to put aside her personal preferences and make a client feel like they are treasured and liked. It doesn't mean it is always true, but it's part of the experience some pay for. You can say the same for an escort, not to single out MAs. It's a tough job that I couldn't do and kudos to you all. But I don't beleive for a second that what explorer said is not true, I have heard it myself several times. Was it a great idea to post it? That's another debate ......

When life's got you down on your knees and is continuously hoofing you in the ass and kicking sand in your face....what motivates you to get back up, grab life tightly by the balls and and say "Screw you life! I'm not taking your shit lying down anymore!!" ? This can be certain music, maybe a movie, maybe a book. Maybe a person...anything really. For me, the Rocky movies do it for me every time. Especially this scene from the last film And also a little known movie called Always Outnumbered Always Outgunned with Laurence Fishburne. And as for music...these songs always get me going: Still Unbroken - Lynyrd Skynyrd Life Won't Wait - Ozzy Actually Ozzy's new album Scream has a few pick-me-up songs, like Let It Die http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FT-m_rlrNMc, Let Me Hear You Scream http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p5JJy8Z4dNM&ob=av2e and Fearless Refuse/Resist by Sepultura - Ac/Dc Thunderstruck http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RukUetw0hAM&ob=av3n The Razor's Edge What A Wonderful World - Joey Ramone Million Dollar Moment - Headstones:http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GH-QYUz7JAQ I'm Your Boogie Man - KC and The Sunshine Band And I did mention the Rocky movies....so laugh if you want but I can't leave out Eye Of The Tiger, http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VgSMxY6asoE, No Easy Way Out and of course Gonna Fly Now :)

I came across this on tumblr, posted by a young artist.. and it can apply to anyone... I read it and it made me feel good... so I thought I'd share it..

Visit the rest of Canada that i have not yet seen, spend more time with friends and to enjoy teh year to its FULL potential....

Out of curiosity how do you think she took advantage of the situation? She was upfront with her change in what she chose to offer, someone who wanted to take advantage would have made him show up and then tell him. And for the reccord a cancellation fee can be more than $50, as it is at our discretion.

the selfish version of me woud like the following :D and i have been so goood all year :icon_redface:

Peace and quiet is on the top of my list! Followed closely by rowdiness and glee, and then I wouldn't mind some snow, some mulled wine, and some new music and good poetry to occupy my time.

I will do no such thing...it is a private matter, and will remain so. Also, my choice of friend's is my business. End of rant!

More poutine, visit Russia, reject my 28th birthday! xxoxooxoxo Amelia

i guess I must have a poor imagination - or a lot of luck!. I need nothing and want for nothing: so many toys and so little time to play with them. I don't believe I would make the Naughty List, although not for the reasons Cat gives. I have had a great year and a fantastic Fall. I would like a white Christmas though - and maybe not to have to work over the Holiday. Here's hoping you each get what you would like.. Joyeuses fetes, CB

I believe SP's are entitled to cancellation fees. In principle, I agree with everything that has been said so far. I will however share a recent experience where I believe I was treated unfairly. An SP, who I had spent a generous amount of time and money with, had agreed on a pre-paid arrangement. Half way through this arrangement, I had booked a 2hr appt., 2 days in adavnce. The morning of the appt. (4hrs before we were suppose to meet), I received a pm indicating a change of service from her. Though I respect her right to do so, it was unexpected. As a result, I cancelled my appt. for that day to reconsider our long term arrangement. Because she had my $, she withheld the full 2hrs. booked. Understand, I had no intention of cancelling when I woke up that morning. I cancelled because of the pm relating to change of service. The SP did not consult me in what was considered fair, she simply impose her fee on me, taking no responsibility for the situation or it's effect. I have since received the balance of my $, and consider the matter closed. It should be noted, the SP had no cancellation policy on her website, nor was one discussed relating to the prepaid arrangement. In my wildest dreams, things were going so well when we started this, I never thought one would be necessary. But because she had my $, I felt I was taken advantage of. Lesson learned Truth be told, had I felt I had been treated fairly, I would have released her from the balance of the financial obligation. I considered her a friend, still do. Clearly, every situation is different. Fairness is what is agreed upon by two...not what is imposed by one.

Being all excited because is time to open the box with the awesome advent tree that I bought to decorate my place to only find a bare tree and a bunch of bags with all the stuff you have to put on it, looking at the box and reading 'CRAFTY advent tree' :icon_redface: so I had to spend an hour and a bit more looking at the pattern and putting my tree together. Ah well, at least now I get to put candy on it :tongue:

I had a blast again. This was a great party and very well organized! It was wonderful to reconnect with some acquaintances and to meet some new friends too. I was surprised at how many maritimers we had in attendance. Maybe it's time for an east coast social. I'm sure we could fill a few carloads of cerbies from Ottawa and have a little road trip. (or maybe this is just an excuse to go see Sophia?) Thanks to the organizers. You donated huge amounts or your time and energy and it was very much appreciated. Woody

I've cancelled very rarely (1-2) and provided more than 24 hours notice....and as such I wouldn't be inclined to pay anything. If I cancelled inside 24 hours, then I'd acknowledge a lost revenue opportunity and reimburse accordingly. I'd expect a similiar consideration if the shoe was on the other foot...as it were. Peace MG

It shouldn't be a tough at all, if your spidey sense is tingling in regards to her age...stay away. Don't get caught thinking with your little head 'cause it ain't gonna help you if she is underage and you end up sharing a cell with a guy name Mickey!

Thanks Angela and Old dog for organizing this event!:bigclap: I'm glad i've got to meet some of you in person or reaquint with other and that Santa let me sit on his lap!:milleunenuit: I'm sorry if i didn't stay much long a beautiful lady drag me out lol

Please - such questions are not appropriate here. And this has been discussed in countless threads. If you're looking for FS, see an SP. MPs are MPs. And if there are any that offer FS, (a) they wouldn't reply here and (b) nobody here would say so. It's really a good idea to read threads on CERB before posting such questions. Out of respect for the ladies and the hobbyists.

Well I could say the standard and get lost in the crowd with my singing ability, or the fact that I can cook/bake, or even my great head-giving skills... But, I'd rather share my Weird Talent. I do really good impressions of different animal sounds. I can do a monkey, pig, cat, and probably a lot more but I haven't wasted my time trying yet. lol. We all have a Special Something, don't we?

Wrapping my tatas around a nicely oiled cock is my specialty!

There is a donut type device you can buy in sex shops that takes care of this problem nicely. :icon_smile:

A great BIG thank you to Angela and Old Dog for their efforts in putting together last evening's event. As well, thank you to those who worked behind the scene to contribute time and everything that is needed to make such an event as successful as it was. Well done, bravo! :bigclap:

Darling Santa, I have been an extremely good girl this year and here's why I deserve to get my secret gift wish. 1. I haven't beaten anyone that didn't deserve it. 2. I haven't abused a single Honda this year. 3. I rescued a dog. (Yes,he's still alive!) 4. I quit smoking. 5. I didn't write a tell all book. 6. I stopped throwing water balloons off my balcony at drunk teenagers. 7. I stopped most of my OCD house cleaning behaviors. 8. I haven't left anyone tied to my bed longer than the agreed upon time limit. 9. I stopped messing with delivery men by wearing nothing to the door. 10. I no longer terrorize unsuspecting men in bars by leaving with their dates after they have paid for the drinks all evening. My secret wish: I want my Volvo to be finished. Yes, she is still being refurbished. I want her to have Ontario plates, registered and insured in my name. That way, I always have somewhere to live! cat

Not on your life. Not this woman. As far as some people saying, "Well, that doesnt sound very fair." What is fair? In my relatationship it IS fair, and it is up to the two individuals in the relationship to decide what is fair for them. When I come home after spending time with a hobbyist I am bringing in something for the family. If he were to return home from hobbying empty handed, it is not the same thing at all. Business is business and personal play time is personal. I don't share.

For anyone who thinks they are going through some crap

Lol @olddog...that's the way to lighten up the thread and back onto bbbj's .... Seems to me that if you want safety then you play safe and study the risks (not opinions). If one prefers to give or recieve bbbj then hopefully they are doing so with knowledge and safe practices.

One that I like and have always remembered : Courage does not always Roar.....sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying.....I will try again tomorrow :)

This chart should give you a pretty good idea: http://healthnurse.wordpress.com/faq-about-sexual-health/sti-risks-chart/

I think the first thing you need to do is take stock of your life, your marriage or relationship, your work, your unfulfilled longings and desires. What is it that you really, really want? Are you absolutely certain that you can't get it at home? Is it that time has gone by and you think it's too late to turn up the heat or add a little spice? Are you ashamed or embarrassed to want whatever it is that's ruling your fantasies--so much so that you can't face the prospect of telling your partner but you can discuss it with a stranger who you can be pretty sure will be receptive or, at least, not judge you? What about your emotional life? This is the tricky thing! If you're feeling that you miss romance, heated intimacy, the chance to share something secret, passionate and beautiful, something that you will always remember in a hazy, golden sort of way... If what you really want is to fall in love, however temporarily or even frequently, you need to sit down and work through things very carefully. If you're wanting a way to relieve a bit of stress, engage in some kind of kinky play or fulfill a fantasy, that's great. We can do that. But if you're feeling emotionally unfulfilled, you're setting yourself, your partner and possibly your paid companion up for a lot of grief. The companion will probably send you packing in fairly short order, if she's smart. You and your family will have a lot to sort through and it won't be pretty. In other words: work on your relationship or get out of it as cleanly as possible before you start to play because you will definitely get caught. Your boundaries won't be firm, you won't think straight, you will make assumptions about yourself, your partner and your companion that no reasonable person would make. You may imagine that you can get away with it but, trust me, that's your first self-deception. However, if you want something that's simply fun, no-strings-attached, valuable, but not a replacement for any of the key life needs that everyone has, then you must be very, very careful about everything you do. Elizabeth pointed out the importance of thinking of your partner as THE most perceptive woman in the world. Elizabeth is wise: listen to her. Women always know their partners better than anyone else does and just about always better than the men themselves. We're wired that way. I always know a great deal more about my clients than they're aware of. Always. The ones who are too obsessed with keeping details to themselves and revealing nothing at all are, in my books, unsafe potential clients. Fortunately, these are rare. Most men trip up all over the place. If they're having trouble lying to me, it's pretty much a sure thing that the women who know them well aren't fooled unless they want to be. A couple of my finest regular clients were up-front with me from the outset. They told me who they were, where they worked, what they do, etc. and expected me to help them keep everything private. We've gotten along nicely for several years, perhaps because they didn't have to juggle too many lies and deceptions.

Don't keep a record of anything and with every lie you have to tell, make sure there is a substantial amount of truth to it, for it is easy to tell the truth without changing your story. Don't elaborate on any story, don't offer extra details, and don't shy away from eye contact. Above all, weigh the risks. If it isn't worth the risk of being caught, don't do it.