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In light of a recent post concerning a member going through the toughest part of life-losing a loved one. I thought I would start a thread that hopefully will help those of us going through or who have gone through the grieving process. I realize this is a tough and personal subject as we all grieve differently but in the hopes that this thread will bring comfort to some I ask you to share your ways of getting through the grieving process. In my time of need I wrote alot of poetry, went on alot on very long walks, talked alot to friends, family, to anyone who would listen. I just tried to keep busy because when I found myself alone or still I would feel to much pain. This thread is meant to support those who have lost a loved one-human or pet-love is love.

OK maybe not my life but........ So I decided a little while ago that I would contribute a post on my experience as a newbie, learning the ropes as a hobbyist in the escort biz. My initial thought was that I would wait until I had a few experiences before I wrote it. As this is not a recommendation post, i changed my mind and thought it would be best to do it a soon as I can after my first experience. I'm hoping this may help other Newbies but remember, as is our pursuit of the SP/MA on this site, my experiences, needs, desires may vary from yours. So for a couple of years now, I've been online looking around. I'm married and never really knew what i wanted to do. First I went to a few sites that are supposed to be adult oriented hook up sites. Even ones that are geared to the married crowd. None of these sites seemed to pan out. The last year or so, I starting looking at BP and the escort section. I saw some very nice ads but I was always concerned with what was actually out there. I hear things from shows or around. Guys making appointments, showing up, beaten up for their money or not getting what or who they wanted, ect. Also I had a poor perception of this The other issue is always money. For the most part I can be on a tight budget. Bills, Kids and my other hobbies come first. However, recently, my desire to pursue this really increased. I starting looking at BP more thouroughly. Still some of those nagging concerns were there. But as I looked around, i started taking notice of a couple of SPs who mentioned CERB. I didn't know exactly what it was but I didn't feel like going to yet another site. Maybe a couple of weeks later, I finally said, screw it what is this CERB Well if that wasn't the best move ever. I jumped right in. Created that membership, looked around, read what I could. I learned a great deal. More importantly, I started to feel more comfortable.The reviews, Cowboys Diary even made me more comfortable with BP. So the concern is still monetary. I can't usually just drop $200-$300. At the same time, I'm not looking for the quickie $80-$100 rates either. This hobby is expensive. (Just a quick note: I have no issue with what a SP charges. It's a Niche market with security risk ect and you are more than welcome to set your desired rate, what you feel comfortable doing an so on. But my ability to pay those rates can be a challange. A challange I hope I can overcome on a semi regualr basis) Now luck would have it that it is tax season and I got back a chunk of change. Another issue is finding the time. Between work, family time, playing hockey ect, when could I get away. Well it isn't as big an issue as i make it out to be but I can't just go and see a SP when ever I feel like it (ie I'm really horny). I had big plans/dreams for this. Take some of that new found money and try and see 4 or 5 or 6 SPs in the next month or so. I also added a new weekly budget item to raise the funds on a regular basis. We call it the well encrypted "Misc" fund. Well plans don't always work out the way you want them. First off daddy needs a new set of golf clubs. So you see, I'm in a bind. I can't see all the girls I wanted to. I think I'm actually a really nice guy. I feel bad that I may choose this SP but not that SP. It is really difficult. Now money still may play a part in my selection. There is a range that most of the SPs seem to have. Usually no more than an $80 difference. The $300 and up range is too much for me. There are a couple I wouldn't mind seeing so one day, I may save up for them but there are too many SP's at a better rate. that way I can see more So finally the day is coming. I have my excuse to get away and now I have to decide which one. Certainly I have my own insecuriities. I am over weight (Although being tall and a bit athletic I've been told I carry it well ;) ). Also a little hairy. I know this is a service industry but I still am a bit shy about my looks. But as I look around and see reviews, I finally set up the time and day. So the one thing i am worried about now is the whole built up anticipation. In my own fantasy world, I picture this going a certain way. (And I'm sure I thought I would be god like). Well reality never matches fantasy. I'm going to be disappointed or worse, she is. Well I had to give myself a good talking too. Go in, relax, enjoy the hour for what it is, not what you fantasize it to be. Finally, just know, she will take good care of you I won't go into any details about my first encounter except to say that it was everything I could hope it would be. (And I'm pretty sure I was god like ;) ) My only problem now is, do I continue with the slightly too large list of SP's I want to meet or do I just keep going back to the same one because it was awesome

I scrub my entire body once a week with a homemade mix of organic olive and coconut oil, brown sugar and essential oils of my choice. It literally makes your skin glow, silky to touch, flawless and make it look 5 years younger. The oil nourishes your skin and the sugar scrubs it, while the essential oils bring a therapeutic effect. I told this to one of my gent, and now to every visit this is our ritual to mutually scrub our body :) We go in my huge roman tub, light the candles and put Buddah Bar music in the background. The view of our bodies covered in oil under this subtle and warm light is quite exciting. The body-to-body massage is a pure delight! Once we are done, our skin is really sensitive from the exfoliation, which enhances every kisses and caresses. Mmmm! My favorite essential oils for this type of sensual play are a mix of ylang-ylang, sandalwood, coriander, orange and black pepper.

My best prank happened to be the one I pulled this morning here on cerb. I'm still laughing at how many people fell for it! lol http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?p=443243#post443243

Aside from hobbying and masturbation, what is your secret indulgence of all time? My secret indulgence is watching the "The Real Housewives" series. Not just one... all of them and I never miss an episode. I admit it now! LOL!

In early September 2012, there was a point that I actually thought that post 5000 was never going to happen. In fact, I wasn't really sure that morning would happen, at least for me. Labour Day weekend is supposed to be eventful. It's when we say goodbye to summer and get ready for the colder months ahead. Pack away the summer stuff and bring out the long sleeves. Close down the cottage. Make plans for the air conditioner and the patio furniture. My labour day weekend began with a sense of draining. I had no energy. Walking was an effort. A shower required a nap after. Drying my hair took my breath away. I knew something was wrong, but my stubbornness said, "sleep it off, it's been a tough summer and you are just run down." It was more than that. I had a major heart attack. It was weird... no sudden chest grasping pain... just a sense of draining... like superman with kryptonite. That's when CERB stepped up. I mean it. CERB saved my life. Isabella Gia and Barrhaven Woody came over and took me to the hospital. They waited with me in the waiting room and stayed there until they knew I was being cared for. But it didn't stop there. I was in hospital for a week. Woody came to visit. Isabella came to visit and then came again with home cooked food. Cat and one of her kittens came to see me daily. Bethany, Phaedrus, Luxe and Alger all came bearing cups of coffee, muffins and most importantly, love. Alger left work early to come and pick me up at the hospital to take me home. When I got there, Boomer and Mister T had made food and left it in my fridge. Angela had gone to get my prescriptions. There were messages from Annessa, Nicolette, Gabriella, Samantha, EMB, Meg, Sara, Malika and Dorinda... and a very special message from Amelia ;) I was in tears. You have no idea how much I love my CERB people. It's more than that though. My CERB people are not just relegated to a small hidden part of my life. They are central. I am actually tearing up writing this... but they are happy tears... I have had so many visitors and so many messages It's hard to mention everyone... dammit. There are so many people that have made a difference and still make a difference in my life. You all make a difference whether you think so or not. So to everyone I have mentioned above and these few more, I give my thanks, my love and my friendship. Areez, Wendigo, Jazzitup, The General, AreJayEll, Lee Richards, Andy of Halifax, Toine, Spud, Notch, RG, Melly, Touch, RoyalFun, Scott, Steve, Silverado, Lone Skater, Mr Nice ... great guys. The best. Passion Vitto, Julie Wilde, Georgiana, Nathalie, Sami, Nikki Thomas, Emily, Emma, Cindy, Peachy, Soleil, Penelope, Katherine, Sophia, Alyssa, Cleo, Jasmine J, Jazy, Kimmy, Evelyne, Kianna, Chantal, Claire, Berlin, Alexxandria, Shortcake, GeGe, Alanna, Kerri, Ava ... damn... there are so many.... but you ladies in particular fill my life with joy every day. I wish I could write the name of every person that has made this time less difficult.... but threads have a finite amount of space... and I am getting sleepy. If I missed a name it wasn't out of spite... it's because I am old. Anyhow... this thread is for you. You have made my life worth living in these past few months and years... you make me smile, you make me laugh and you make me want to share a bit of myself with all of you. And I am going to say it, unabashedly, unashamed and without any hesitation. I love all of you.

As a new member I have to agree with Wellie and Isabella. Being new on a site does not make you un-trustworthy as is implied. I have just found this site today and do not know anyone on here. How do I build my Lyla reputation up without it taking forever? Still new to this so please feel free to reply with any helpful info.

I am surprised this is still going on and on and on.... After I read Emilys' blog, I didn't need to read anymore on the subject. She is eloquent and insightful.

Hi Jenni First, welcome to CERB and joining our community :-) To build your reputation, contribute to the various threads. Make posts, participate. It is a way for people to get to know you. And remember,not everyone agrees on everything, but as long as your posts are respectful, and positive contributions you'll do fine. Also, don't sweat the reputation points, you'll find as long as your making positive contributions, you'll get points, either from getting a post nominated, or receiving a comment/reputation point or getting thanks Good luck And again, welcome to the CERB community RG

I'm okay with the "Hi" text but please don't text me at 1 am after you have woken me up. You really want to think I'm going to carry on a convo half asleep and pissed off? This happened last night and took me forever to go back to sleep even though I had the phone on silent. I could hear the vibration where it was charging on the floor. If you're texting me "Hi", please ask if it's the lady you're look for and then get straight to the point if you have questions or would like to book an appt.. I don't mean this in a rude way but sometimes we are doing other things and contrary to what some people might believe, we don't sit around looking pretty all day waiting for someone to call us. I don't like each individual text of "Do you offer this?" and then 10 other texts with a laundry list of services. This is so time consuming you just may as well call me but some guys just do this to waste an SP's time. Then those guys are branded as a WOT in my eyes. For those who actually do want an appt, just getting to the point is the best way.

And if you want an interactive, super hot duo....me and Nicolette! :)

For my skin this..... For the big head this...... clean shaven ........ For my other head down there this ..... and this ;)

Going to Randall's later tonight to look through a gazillion wall paper books to choose some wall paper for my new place!!!!!! I am talking real excitment :milleunenuit:

There is also Nicolette Vaughn-she is in Orleans too :) http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=127680

Nope, there's something about waxing that makes me cringe. That said, I do keep the boys shaved real nice and clean. Been shaving the fellas for quite a few years now and have not had any accidents or injuries. I use a high quality disposable and a nice heavy shave gel. Then, after the shower, moisturize the area with a good skin lotion. Presto! Nice soft smooth skin :) I recommend shaving around 12 to 24 hours in advance of a session, and usually do it the day before. Why? I like to shave nice and close, and inevitably you will cause some skin abrasion or some miniscule nicking and damage, which you might not even notice. Giving some time allows the skin to heal over nicely, which gives me some added piece of mind in terms of any skin-on-skin contact, like when she has my balls in her mouth. :) Word of caution about moisturizing the area.. If you do so, make sure you shower again BEFORE your intimate time with the lady. Some years ago, I learned that some moisturizers contain enough oil base to cause condom failure!! After the second time this happened, I realized that the residual moisturizer was causing condom breakage. Thankfully we had no bad health consequences, but it was a lesson for me.

Good Hygiene always makes for a very nice time. Good Hygiene + Manscaping = My clients hitting the absolute highest mark on my YMMV scale. Always makes for an awesome time.

If I may interject, I love manscaping! Makes for better blowjobs. Hehe. And for razor burn or those pesky itchy red bumps, there is a product called "Bikini Zone" that works wonders.

I met with this wonderful lady for the first time this weekend. Wow, she is truly amazing! I seemed to have been on a run with younger girls lately and I think I had forgotten how nice it is to spend time with a mature, intelligent lady who really knows how to treat a client. We started with a very relaxed, get to know each other while we enjoyed coffee, moved on to an incredible session in the bedroom and then followed up by more great unrushed conversation. A repeat is definitely in the cards.

Hello Gentlemen, -My name is Maya,im a greek olive lol,tanned olive skin, 125lbs,5'3,long curly black hair. -Im an Xxperienced MA,fun,down to earth,open minded -I am also Xperienced in Toy play...Prostate Xxxplosion!! Pm me! -Rates for Toy Action: 30mins with door fee 150 total-200 hr total!!!- My weekly schedule Monday 330 11pm Thurs 330-11pm Friday 11-11pm Sat 10-9pm Sun 10-9pm Contact number: 613-274-7073 Upscale,Licensed,Private Showers,Free Parking,discreet location. ----Hot New MA ServicesPm me for info!! ----Je parle francais aussi---- Thank you for viewing my profile and hopefully ill meet you soon for some filthy fun Bisou,MAYA XOX view the full image. .Click this bar to view the full image. __________________ __________________ __________________ __________________ Call Angel's Touch 613-274-7073 to book your sexy time

Soliel and Emily are well worth seeing. Giterdun

The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything they just make the most of everything that comes along their way. Never allow someone to be your priority while you're just their option.

Perhaps you should direct these providers to the STI health nurse or experts. I can't remember the last time any expert said to not use lube in the condom, in fact everything I had read or seen says that it is recommended. It helps not just with sensation, but helps the integrity of the condom to not get breakage. I can't imagine an sp not finding out the facts about this. What they can NOT use is oils or oil based lotions in this manner. Additional Comments: I was also going to say that the topic originally was about bbbjs in general, and also about asking do sps feel pressured to provide them. I take this also to apply to sps who provide them due to this pressure as well as sps who do not provide them being pestered for them even after they have said it is not available. If every second enquiry is asking if bbbjs are available, any sp is eventually going to figure out that if the answer was 'yes' every time, she'd most likely get more appointments. It also reminded me, when someone said that cbjs should cost less than bbbjs, well, here's the thing, out here at least. bj only sessions tend to be not just the cheapest service available, they are most often done bbbj. 40 bucks, 50, maybe 60, come in, get off, get out. So how much less is a cbj only session supposed to cost? Another thought came to me reading some of the comments here, which basically is if you as a client do not want an sp to provide bbbjs only because she feels pressured to do so (not that she would ever let you know that), then stop asking for them. When you contact her, don't ask, just accept what is provided. If she offers it, turn her down and ask for a cbj. If you really are uncomfortable with an sp's motives for providing any higher risk activity, then be that guy who doesn't do it, doesn't ask for it, doesn't accept it. See what happens. And fwiw, lets see what happens to the laws around prostitution in Canada. Licensing is getting to be more common, regulations of the business may not be far behind. If/when that happens, you can bet the number one thing covered by regulations is Occupational Health and Safety, and there is no way that uncovered services of any kind is going to be allowed, meaning only that if it is it won't be advertised and it won't be something people can ask for before showing up for the appointment. (given that services that are not permitted will likely still be available that is, what should change is what is in ads)

I value my health too much to want anything bare backed and would prefer a provider that has the same attitude. I think there is a growing complacency about STDs in society.

While you may not ask or even find justification necessary, I have encountered patrons who have been... Judgmental, at best, with regards to dancers not having anything else "going on" (be it schooling, another job, or a child). Of course, there are also those dancers who use the justification as a hustle, or simply come up with wild cover stories out of boredom because they also want some entertainment. As with most things that come out of a dancer's mouth during your time in the club, you shouldn't read too much into them. ;) Just enjoy the interaction or thank her for her time and let her move on if you can't.

Does she work in a spa or private residence? is there a massage table or bed?

I'm a bit of a peevy person in that there are a number of things that could get to me depending on the moment. Usually, it just results me shaking my head in disbelief. However, today it's people who think that S----T rolls up hill. Having to walk out of my office gather everyone into the boardroom and proceed to lecture highly educated "adults" that I am not a babysitter and should you require babysitting services you should be on the groundfloor in the day care and not around me. Further should you continue to demonstrate the requirement of babysitting someone is going home with their belongings in a box. I never even got a chance to take the first sip of my morning coffee. Perhaps that was the reason for my lack of tolerance.

As I move through life I sometimes hear or read things that touch me in a profound way. They change my perception, thought process or the way I behave. I love those little gems that come out of nowhere as if they were made just for you. I wanted to share a couple of mine and hope others might do the same so that maybe more of us can't enjoy an "AHA "moment. Here are three of my more recent ones: It's a challenge to see every problem as a lesson and approach it positively asking what can you learn from it but to do this gives us power by helping change our perception and then problems that arise, shrink in size. Honesty and full disclosure are two separate things. Honesty means what you say is true and to me this is very important. Full disclosure means to say everything there is to say. I own my information so if I chose not to share it because it has no impact on you, I'm not being dishonest I'm simply indulging my privacy. A secret shared between individuals that has no bearing on anyone else and is not told, is NOT dishonesty, it's privacy. I am finding more people think full disclosure is honesty and when you don't share everything, it's dishonesty. This is untrue. Children are people and individuals. They are not property. They deserve the same respect you would grant any adult and they will learn and give respect as an adult. If you wouldn't do/say something to an adult than don't do/say it to a child, find a better way. We give more patience to older people trying to maintain control than we do to those learning it when it should be equally important and deserved. It's a difficult lesson to put into practice but worth it.

and bacon, and ice-cream, and sausage, hot dog, poutine... the list goes on and on.. yes, why???:frown:

Why is it that all food that is bad for us tastes sooo good,ie:sugar

I like Lee because he knows how to graciously admit when he's been had. :lol:

Wild or not, you don't leave a living being wounded to die slowly over hours. days or even weeks..... There are surely more humane options than leaving these dogs with wounds to slowly die from like the pictures one can find on Paw Tipsters or Northern Manitoba pet rescue. How would we like it if this happened to us?

Old Dog, you are my Yoda. Congratulations on 5,000+ posts of humour and wisdom with a dose of humility and humanity. I look forward to reading the next 5,000.

I like Roamingguy because he is a caring person. :)

Gina does a great job. If you give her an idea of where to look for those knots, she grips and rips. Emily at Bodycare also does a fantastic job. When I am all knotted up, she is the cure.

Why is it that when I looked out the window this afternoon I saw snow flying?? Dear Omnipotent weather god... it's FUCKING APRIL. Stop!!! Thanks, OD.

I like Meaghan because she is a friendly and helping woman. I just read one of her posts about running a cat rescue and it touched my heart. I like her even more now!

If they advertize as an agency type service and they can't put in the effort to set up a web page, you really can't expect much. Maybe I'm wrong and this will generate a response from some who run or who are involved with agencies but cumon....not much of an add.....all they have is a photo of a phone number.

No dog that hasn't been imprinted on by humans as a very young puppy can be rehabilitated as a pet. It sucks but those 2nd and 3rd generation wild dogs are just that, wild. They are as close to a wolf pack as you can get without being wolves. Try and turn a full grown wolf into a pet that has never been around humans. It doesn't work. There's a big difference between a stray and a pack of wild dogs. One can be rescued, the other can't. It sucks but the only answer is to put them down if they are a threat to people and to properly spay and neuter pets so that the problem doesn't come back.

The supreme happiness of life is the conviction that we are loved. Victor Hugo

Well I once had an ex-wife who loved me, and licked me and kissed me and stuff.... Then she got all self important and bossy and stuff and then got distemper I do believe... and began to bark lots, often barking in circles and not making any sense, and I swear she was drooling and wanted to bite me.... Finally enough was enough so one day she handed me the newspaper and I handed her separation papers..... She drove me nuts !!! Does this count ?? ;)

I've had 2 cerb members advise me.......wasn't a pleasant experience...pm for more details

Intense multi-orgasm masturbation session. :biggrin: Then nap. :aol_diddle:

My name is PassionVitto I have been a member since August 2012 I am an addict because the first thing that I do in the morning is log in to Cerb.. And last thing i do in the day before going to bed is Log in to cerb.. I am an addict because I am always looking forward to reading some interesting posts from my fellow members... I am an addict cause I look forward to open my profile and find new messages on my guest book, my inbox or picture comments :). And everytime I have a notification I have a smile in my face.. How mamy hours do I spent on Cerb a day?? Are you prepared for it?? Well I come on at 6am and get off at 9pm.. Take breaks while I am busy relaxing with playdates hehe... And while at the gym... Ok ok also when I am in the shower unfortunately my phone will braek if I bring it in with me lol... So conservately speaking... 8 hours! I log in from my blackberry, from my tablet.., from muy computer... I love CERB because it has shown me a hole new perspective of how adult entertainers such as myself and the gentleman have so much to share, how friendships can be made, and how much respect for others opinions is valued! I love Cerb because all the members have welcome me with open arms. I join because it was a tool to advertise my services, but I am still here because is way more than that, is a great community where we all share stories! I am an addict, and I admit it! Thanks for listening! Vitto

I guess I'm a lover, and Loving it :)

That would make ME "Perfect" :)

Mmm... Loud high heels. :-) The sound of power, to my ears. :-)

As a hobbyist, my first choice is either the Delta or the Best Western, but the Delta is my preferred venue. The location of the elevators, the number of floors over which to disperse traffic, and the general business of the place all contribute to (for me) a greater sense of security.

I actually want to add a BIG thank you to all the members who have started posting quality posts. In the last 24 hours I have seen 10 times more moderated (new member) posts and a lot of good quality comments coming in! So to all those who are sharing and contributing thank you. I know I am venting a little as it upset me with the people complaining. I felt I missed the most important part of this and that was to thank all the people who needed the push to post and have started to join in the conversations and community. Welcome.

I always felt that those that want or demand this type of service are actually already infected, angry that they are, and want to spread it around. Conversations I've had are typically "you don't know ME from a hole in the ground, you know I work in this industry, why would you think I am clean?????" I know I am clean, I get regular testing, but they don't know that. So, I go with the assumption that they are infected and stay as far away from them as possible. I am also noticing an increace in clients that don't even think they have to pay extra for this service. I should automatically give them this service because they are so special...WTF I have a neighbour who was on a break from her boyfriend. She wanted to meet new guys, and would actually go see strangers, give bbbj, cim, and bbfs because in her words "it tastes so good, and I can't get pregnant". I was horrified that she seemed to think this type of behavious was not dangerous and I had to give her a lesson in STI 101. She ended up getting back with her boyfriend, and of course he found the videos she made of these various guys she was giving it away to. It seems that there is a mentality out there that "I can't get it, so I will do what I want". Thank you OP for starting this thread. I know many sps that really can't believe how things have changed and the pressure we feel to give services we don't want to do because if we don't we won't get clients. I say, if it means I will never see another client because I want to live to be a horny OLD woman, then at least I still have my fingers and toys and water pressure to help me out. Stay safe everyone - don't do something you realize will jeapordize your life and wellness. xoxo meaghan

Ok...thanks. I have a better understanding now & I do agree 100%. You ladies are great!!