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I've personally seen quite a number of clients with differing capabilities. In truth it all started with a wonderful young man named 'Big Al'. He lived 8 hours away, suffered severe cerebral palsy and was very sad to be a virgin at 25. When I drove the 8 hours to see him the first time, I had no idea what I was in for. I had no clue that I would be responsible for doing everything. Including using a massive hoist to get him into bed. I suspect he didn't tell me all of this for fear it would scare me away. But I was determined to bring some much needed joy into this young man's life. To me, 'disabilities' are a complete non-issue. I have had clients tell me ahead of time, and I've had more than one never mention anything until I meet them. Either way, we ALL need intimacy and human contact. The body is a mere shell of the truly beautiful soul inside, and if physically some things don't work so well, then just enjoy the journey and worry not about the final destination.

I just wanted to say that my thoughts go out to the people in Boston and to the family's of everyone hurt and killed where ever they are from. there were over 2000 Canadians there as well. i welcome every one to give their best wishes to everyone there and to anyone on cerb who knows anyone there as well. This should never happen anywhere or to anyone in the world.

There is nothing wrong with being in a relationship while you are working in this business. There are more ladies who are dating someone or married in this business than people realize. Like anything else what happens at work, stays at work and outside of the closed door you live your life as everyone else does. Having a partner who supports you and who understands you will only benefit you and your business in the long run. We have to fib as it is 90% of the time with our double life, so having someone who gets it makes it that much easier to feel normal at times. Most of the men we spend time with are married or have a girlfriend, so why shouldn't we have the same personal pleasure?

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Because I am a full time University student and SP'ing very unpredictably(because also of my other part-time job) For me personally, I am focusing on not SP'ing or Uni in general, but my youth and personal life; but I will say this loud and proud; being a part-time Sp does NOT, NOT, NOT define me and how I am as a young woman!! period!!!!! I can promise you that there are TONS of people whether that be at school, or on the street etc that would NEVER guess of me being an 'SP' no matter how 'beautiful', 'sexy' they think I am!!! However, SOMETIMES there are things left unsaid and with my friends and people at school I do NOT tell them about my 'secret double life' of part-time sp'ing, and whether you are an SP or hobbyist, that may be the right thing for you to do with certain people in your life, while others may very well know what you do and have no problem with it because they know YOU as the WONDERFUL amazing person you are and do not hold that stigma and generalization against you like some people who plain and simple do not understand the real modern day of Sp'ing and hobbyists. Sadly, not EVERYONE will be able to proudly tell everyone what they are doing and get accepted with open arms, as there are a lot of 'haters' out there who no matter what want to look at the negative side, which is why whether or not you are in the dating world you learn to shut certain people out and do only what is right for you!! Whether you are an SP or hobbyist!! Personally, I am lucky to have an amazing person by my side who not only supports me but I support her every step of the way with no judgement of what I do or she does because at the end of the day nobody is perfect no matter who you are!! I think it is ridiculous is someone thinks an SP cannot be in love and have a normal, loving and nurturing relationship!! Everyone is capable and deserving of love, no matter what gender or profession!! =D

Hello tas510: As a fellow disabled member and a longtime advocate of sexual rights I know all too well some of the difficulties you face. The people here have really hit the nail on the head as far as advice. One aspect which hasn't been mentioned thus far, and it can be a sticky one for some people because it in itself can carry a stigma of its own, is the consideration of a potential client on a fixed income, which includes myself. What follows, is my methodology to insure that all needs are met both in regards to myself and the service provider. If none of this is applicable to your situation please do feel free to ignore it. I actually keep a separate account exclusively for service provider dates. [For some reason, overtime this has become known as my "Secret Squirrel Account" :) I can hear the psychoanalysis having a field day with regards to that title.] Having the money separate really does take the pressure off on so many levels. You probably have some idea of what a, if there is such a thing, "typical" date costs after looking around CERB. Aim for that; it may take some time, but you know it will happen. Each letter of introduction send out to it perspective service provider is personalized. I spent a fair bit of time reading the individual's web site and forum messages to anticipate any concerns they may have. This helps encourage dialogue. When it comes to disability, some service providers can be rather shy about asking questions directly. It is a human trait we all share. Encourage people to ask questions in her own words. Provide links to articles related to your particular condition so they can look infomation up on their own, if they want to. Be clear about what you expect and want. [i avoid acronyms to encourage openness and clarity. The huge arraying of these short hands also drive my voice dictation software crazy.] If you are unsure about how to accomplish something, say that too. Sex workers are incredibly creative people who love to explore. I explicitly state in each letter that I am on a fixed income. But beyond that though, I do not make it an issue or haggle about the price. Simply stating that I may not be the most frequent client is sufficient. It keeps things honest and clear. Removing another potential stumbling block to communication. Unless they prefer phone calls as the initial communication. I only contact them directly after a successful dialogue via e-mail has been established.. Finally, do not expect a reply immediately. Some people have a large amount of e-mail to go through. Do not be disheartened if there is no reply. But do keep on looking. One last thing. If you're inclined to be apolitical in this regard. A number of years ago a grass-roots group, here in Vancouver B.C. was formed by disabled persons and health professionals to explore and expand the issue of sexuality for the disabled. The "Equitable Access to Sexual Expression" group. (EASE) Things are starting to rock and roll. They are beginning to open up dialogues all over the place, on many fronts. I encourage you and all interested members to check them out! Here is their face book page. A web site is in the works. Take care, PatrickGC

Check my reco on Evelyne Lemay... "you smile and then a spell is cast...and here we are in heaven" (At Last, by Etta James or Beyonce) However, everyone looks beautiful with a smile on their face......

8 year old Marin Richard losing his life in the Boston bombing yesterday. So sad...

We've had this discussion before, but I am more than happy to reiterate my feelings on the matter. I love to kiss!!!! I find extremely romantic and a huge turn on to kiss a beautiful woman. I don't want to offend anyone, but I will not see anyone who does not kiss. I need some deep, passionate kissing to get turned on...otherwise it's just not worth my time.

Indeed! Well put. When one thinks about it, all great achievements, all the "Eureka moments" which people have shared throughout the ages, all have one thing in common: seeing beyond the obvious status quo and powerful intimate moments. The human body may survive on food, but intimacy and acknowledgment is really the only way the spirit of an individual can grow. This may sound trite but it really is at the core of the human equation. Creativity is always the result of a powerful emotion. There would be no creation without the desire to do so in the first place. Thank you so much for the wonderful post :) PatrickGC Additional Comments: And while this thread is moving along on the main topic lets me hijack it for a moment to mention an issue which is equally as important and more widespread than most people think. Women with Disabilities. Face essentially the same issues discussed here and thus far. Where do they get meaningful, sincere service? This is a call to all the open-minded "Gigolos" out there. There is a customer base just waiting for you! I suspect the reason we don't hear more about this, is because women face more stigma on all fronts in society today. If we're going to be truly just an open in addressing these needs this must be an inclusive topic for all. Did I mention gay, lesbian, transgendered etc.? The full rainbow of lifestyles and orientations... Yahoo for variety, they need service too! Food for thought. .... and now let us continue the thread. PatrickGC "Down with marginalization! Up with inclusion! [and everything else :) ] ."

I am an upfront person and have always told anyone I was involved with about my job and found they were always supportive. 95% of them were secure in themselves to know that this was job and not once tried to interfere in my business. If they couldn't handle it then the relationship was over. I don't do ultimatums and people have to accept others for who they are and what they do. They were also able to differentiate between love and sex which is a huge issue as society has seemed to taught us that the two go hand in hand. Not always. Jealousy and insecurity have no business being in a relationship I'm involved in and I choose to walk away if that were the case. Having said that, your job doesn't define who you are as a person. The men I have been in a relationship with have always had their own identity with their own jobs and careers. I don't like the stereotype of escorts playing sugar momma to many different men and I don't like those who sponge off of women either. I go into a relationship as an equal partner and expect the same in return. I also tell them that I don't discuss specifics about my job and I don't tell and they don't ask details including which sites I advertise on. I keep my relationships seperate from this business and find this works well. I don't discuss what I do with my clients either. However, if I've had a bad day they are always there to support and comfort me which is great. Once again, I don't get into specifics. My serious relationships have all been great in this regard and all you can do is be yourself. Being an escort has played a large role in my life and should I decide to leave the business, it will be my own choice and not someone telling me I should. They have never once tried to make me feel bad as with the stigma attached to prostitution in society. My partners have understood and accepted who I am as a person first and foremost with my job simply playing a role of what I do for a living. Love, respect and understanding are what humans crave.. Sex workers are no different.

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I myself, cannot be in a relationship while doing this line of work. I do not think that this applies to every sp, this is just for me personally. Not judging the so's who can accept this line of work. It's just for me personally, I dont want my future so/boyfriend to accept this line of work. I already know, I am super old fashioned ;) Its kinda sad because I have not had a boyfriend for soooooo long :( And I will be the first to admit..that I do sometimes feel a little lonely...but..this is something I will always fall back on for income, so until I get a permanent 37.5 hours a week career with the FED GOV..or something else just as solid..maybe then I can pursue finding a man to call my own. Being in a relationship is a personal thing. You have to do what you feel is right and what you can handle :)

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I've been paying more attention to the positive stories today...the tales of kindness and goodness that are often overlooked in disasters. I find the media pays too much attention to the blood, gore, smoke and fire, and when a suspect is found, they cover every detail of their life. This only encourages other attention-seeking madmen to create their own act of mayhem. I don't know if any of you are redditors (http://www.reddit.com), but when everything started unravelling yesterday, pages immediately sprung up from people offering everything they could - places to stay, meals, cell phones, frequent flyer miles, hotel stays...the list is endless, and impressive. As someone posted previously...look to the helpers. They're always there, and deserve more praise and attention.

Not to sound arrogant, but anyone who has seen me after an encounter would have to say I have the best smile!! It lasts for days.

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Everyone who takes part in this hobby has their first experience at some point and I imagine most had some level of nervousness going in. I was pretty nervous before my first encounter but the nerves went away pretty quickly. The ladies I've spent time with have all been wonderful at making me feel comfortable as soon as I walked through their doors and my encounters have far exceeded anything I could've hoped for!

I have learned after reading this above.....and a recent highlight post of OD's from the weekend..... that speaking much better French because of consuming alcohol leads to going home from a night out with the taste of a young French girl in your mouth ;)

Bombs are something that really sucks. Prayers please for Boston, Mass..

I too would never hobby if I am in a relationship and vice versa. Btw, from what I read and hear a job with the FED GOV is not that solid anymore :). On a more serious note, I absolutely agree with your last paragraph.

Jenny's back, and she's beautiful! Confirmed sighting today. :)

I've had wonderful clients who were disabled and wouldn't turn someone down just because of his disability or because he's in a wheelchair. If you find someone who interests you, send a message or e-mail to her. Tell her about your disability and what is and is not possible for you. Let her know about your limitations and any special assistance or support you may require for a satisfying encounter. If you need to meet in your home or a wheelchair-accessible place, or if you need nursing care nearby, or if you need help bathing or getting ready for your meeting, please say so. These are all things that can be worked out with a little care and planning. It's true that not everyone will be comfortable. Most of the time, though, an SP will be concerned that she may accidentally do something that might hurt you or that she won't know what you need and when. If you can be clear, explicit and understanding, I think you shouldn't have a problem finding a companion.

I think that following your own heart is all that matters. If it's too complicated for you to work and have a relationship, it's good that you know that. If you can make the separation between work and the rest of your life, that's wonderful, too. One thing that many of us face is when the boyfriend or partner really isn't able to deal with our work. This is not unusual: men don't share very well, most of the time. Some men like the idea of dating a paid companion because they imagine she will be a fantastic sexual partner, or at least the sort of person who will never say no. These are fantasies; reality can be very different. But that's true for all relationships. Even good friendships start out with a lot of idealized expectations. It's when they settle down to the reality of life that we see what the relationship really is or can be. If he can understand that what you do is your job and not a series of relationships, that's best. But if he gets caught up with who you've seen, how many people you've entertained this week, what you earned, appointments you've scheduled for the days and weeks to come, and what goes on in your encounters, you may have a problem. If he's too quick to assume that if you're tired, or not feeling well, or preoccupied with something that it's because of your work, and is interfering with his life, you do have a problem. If he ever makes unkind remarks about you in terms of your work, you have a serious problem and should end the relationship.

Why not? Frankly it should never even be a question. Working in this industry at its most basic level is the same as working at every other job. You work a specific number of hours to achieve the financial goals to sustain a comfortable lifestyle. When you have worked enough hours, the rest of the day is yours to do with as you please. It's a tenet of life to which we have all grown accustomed and to which we believe justify in demanding. In that regard, everyone has the right to personal happiness, to spend their free time doing the things they wish to do and with whomever they wish. It's the same whether you are a service provider, a government worker, an entrepreneur, a bus driver or a waiter. No one else has the right to impose relationship standards on anyone based on their chosen career. You provide a service that fulfills desires and fantasies. For the hours that you are working, you need to present yourself as whatever persona that satisfies both you and your clientele. If that persona is a single, free spirited woman, so be it - she is not the person that goes home to her own personal life. Ostensibly it comes down to your choice of either maintaining Layah as a 24/7 persona or leaving Layah when the work day is done.

Most apologies then, I didn't mean to be repeating what you already know.

In honour of her return to this country, I would like to nominate Malika Fantasy as CERB Goddess of the Day! I've missed her very blunt and witty posts over the past few weeks! Welcome back Malika!!

Absolutely, kissing is a part of being intimate with a woman, and I love to kiss and be kissed.

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Well, I just came back from the gym and it got me wondering about one of the great aspects of sex and that is the calories you can burn and also the benefits it has on the human body. We are constantly bombarded on T.V., the Internet, radio, etc about try this diet, or this exercise program. Yet, I have not seen how sex burns about the same amount of calories as running 3 km's and how it is a great form of exercise! Geez, if you have sex twice a day your burning close to 750 calories and walking around with a smile on your face! I don't see many joggers smiling after they finish a session! Also, when you're in a committed relationship sex can start to fall away in terms of the amount you get each week or month and I could never understand that? Maybe because it is so easy to get, or people get lazy, I don't know, but it is a good form of exercise to compliment your other forms of working out. So, I say "here's to sex and the calories that it burns" and may you have many a great workout today!

I must add that NOT disclosing specifics of what happened on an encounter with your client is not the same as keeping secrets behind your partner's back. IMO, keeping a secret means you have done something you would not want your partner to know about and hiding it due to guilty feelings and/or shame. If an SP's significant other demanded to know what transpired with every client, I suggest she run away and fast! Jealousy and insecurity creates violatility and that is not good for any relationship. Mutual respect, understanding and communication are qualities in each partner are what makes a relationship successful. I am grateful to have had all of those traits in men I have personally been involved with.

Communication is key. Be open and honest about your mobility and what you are looking for. I've had clients with a range of mobility and communication was important for both sides. Good luck in your search!

What RG said. I'm sure any well-established SP hereabouts will be great. They're all lovely people (at least, the ones I've met) and any of them would doubtless be happy to give you a gentle introduction to the possibilities that are out there... So, find someone you like the sound of, and go for it!

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Meh. It's all good RG. I have just met a number of people like him in my past life that had absolutely no idea what planet they lived on. On another sucky note, I just had a jealous husband threaten my life and limb. Catching up with friends can be dangerous - but now I know two things are for certain: Neither of us will be sleeping with his wife, one by choice (me) and one not by choice (him).

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I agree that with communication to get familiar with the disability, it wouldn't be a problem for me either.

I feel it only ads to ladies success to have a supportive partner. After a trip/tour it is very nice to come home to a clean home and a nice dinner. Any person that runs a high stress business whatever that is can only benefit from support at home.

She may have. We can only assume to know based on what he shared. Which was his side and reasoning of the events.

This lady here...LOVES her bras :) and needs them too :boobies: I have ginorm breasts, that are pretty solid and firm which I think is due to me not letting them hang out all the time...I know this differs from what the article says, but I am going to keep on doing what works for me & my girls ;)

I have dated three women who worked in this business. Only one of those three situations caused problems. Two things I saw that attributed to that was: She could not keep her working experiences to herself, always talking about what she did to this guy or that guy or what they did to her and the stuff she really liked. That caused jealousy on my part. Especially if she did stuff that we weren't doing regularly in our own relationship. Second, she always used me as an excuse to not work, because she said she didn't want to hurt my feelings for not being with me enough. At the same time when we were together she took calls and di last minute dates. The other two relationships were great!, Why? Because the work was kept discreet, no discussions. Our time together was pre-determined so there were no interuptions from phone calls, or last minute appointments. Our time together was our time. I never imposed on their working days either. Keeping those two simple things in mind, a relationship while working was do-able.

Well, it's been far too long since I posted here! So, someone I haven't given a tip o' the hat to yet... EmJ! So, what do you want to know that you don't know already? She's smart. She's funny. She's hot. But you can get all that from reading her posts and looking at her pics, so you don't need me to spell it out for you. And, of course, she's very religious... You can visit the temple if you like... but you probably won't see too much of it, because the High Priestess is terribly distracting... Anyway, we're very lucky to have her here on the board! Hopefully she'll stay with us for a long time to come.

Nice response. And nice of you to thank this lovely lady for taking the time to respond to your post and try to give you some great suggestions on how to go about finding reputable Asian providers in your area. I thought it was very helpful information, as a lot of people might not know all this stuff already. She even gave you specific recommendations for ladies and links to their websites! If you are already so well versed in how this works, and you can't help yourself by doing a little bit of research and thinking with your big head for a few short minutes, then don't ask for or expect other people's help. You can't expect everyone else to do all the leg work for you.

Vitto. Sigh. Vitto. Vitto is easily one of my favourite people here on CERB. She's sweet, she's funny, she's thoughtful... and she is MUY MUY CALIENTE. Even better?? She loves bacon sandwiches!!!! Take a look at her posts - she is always there trying to give a smile, add positive vibes and keeping things happy. This woman is absolutely beautiful on every level!!! Kudos to you my sweet!!! Here's her page: http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/member.php?u=73095 and here are the accolades: http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=69954

For me kissing and general soft intimacy is absolutely central to a positive SP experience. Without it the experience would feel "dead". If I had to choose, I'd take sensual kissing and cuddling over intercourse.

I have been to both Angels and Paradise along with other spas in the past and there has never been an issue with shower protocol. In a lot of cases I have appreciated the few minutes alone in the shower before being joined by someone. It allows for the opportunity to wash away a lot of the accumulated dirt and grime depending on where you are coming from. I would not expect any of these fine ladies to have to deal with the build up of the day. I would expect that an MA joining you in the shower would be more along the lines of "sensual sudsing" rather than something approaching a level of basic grooming. There is some "dirt" that I would rather deal with myself... That being said I would suggest as others have that you "communicate" your desires to the MA in question. I, for one have never had an MA turn down an invitation for "sensual sudsing", it just helps to set the mood and the anticipation for whats to come! There is one MA with an incredible set of dimples that comes to mind... Rodehard