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I wanted to take a few moments to thank not only the gentlemen but the entire Cerb community for one of the best changes I've seen since my return to the hobby ( had been gone since 2008 )... During the pre-chatroom era ( circa 2005-2008 ) I was often chastised for being an SP who wasn't a size 0. I'm a size 12. You know who else was a size 12? Marilyn. I don't need to write out her last name, you know damn well who I am talking about. Over the last few months, I can see that the diversity of cerbites has increased greatly, which shows in cases like preferable women's sizes no longer being a biased, one-sided affair. Even if women my size are not your cup of tea, the respect shown concerning "to each their own" is staggeringly exceeding my expectations. Thank you cerbites for believing in "all women are beautiful in their own way" !!! An especially BIG thanks to the mods also, as this chastisement was allowed to take place on "the other board" which is the main reason for my switch to this one only :) I love your no tolerance for BS! ________________________________________________ FOOD FOR THOUGHT: 1. Marilyn Monroe's body measurements: Height: 5'5 Weight: 118-140 lbs Bust: 35-37 inches Waist: 22-23 inches Hips: 35-36 inches Bra size: 36D 2. Dove's "REAL BEAUTY" campaign: http://www.dove.ca/en/Social-Mission/About-the-Movement.aspx 3. Definition beau·ti·ful adj. a) Having qualities that delight the senses, especially the sense of sight. b) Excellent; wonderful. beauti·ful·ly adv. beauti·ful·ness n. Synonyms: beautiful, lovely, pretty, handsome, comely, fair All these adjectives apply to what excites aesthetic admiration. Beautiful is most comprehensive: a beautiful child; a beautiful painting; a beautiful mathematical proof. Lovely applies to what inspires emotion rather than intellectual appreciation: "They were lovely, your eyes" (George Seferis). What is pretty is beautiful in a delicate or graceful way: a pretty face; a pretty song; a pretty room. Handsome stresses poise and dignity of form and proportion: a very large, handsome paneled library. "She is very pretty, but not so extraordinarily handsome" (William Makepeace Thackeray). Comely suggests wholesome physical attractiveness: "Mrs. Hurd is a large woman with a big, comely, simple face" (Ernest Hemingway). Fair emphasizes freshness or purity: "In the highlands, in the country places,/Where the old plain men have rosy faces,/And the young fair maidens/Quiet eyes" (Robert Louis Stevenson). 4. Most importantly: BEAUTY LIES WITHIN THEY EYE OF THE BEHOLDER

I'm not ashamed of me being a companion. I have come to terms that people in my life will either continue to love me or leave. The most important adults in my life know and they're still here and in my life and that is what counts. I have been having an inner battle with myself to tell my select group of friends that did not know what I do besides my other "vanilla" business that I run and this weekend I did when we were having a gathering at my home. Were there lots questions? Oh Yes. Concerns? Oh Yes. Do they still love me? Yes they certainly do! Being a companion allows me the freedom to do as I please, I'm the boss. I now get to take care of my Mom and put my sister through Dalhousie, where I went. There's six including me that I am financially responsible for and that is what I chose, it's not always easy but I love my family, my life and being together under my/our one roof. My family loves me. I have have family that does not know and I feel the time is almost here when I do say something, we BBQ and camp a lot together in the Summer and they can't run from me out in the wild, I have no problem answering any questions that they may have. The ones I know I'm soon to tell, knew that I was a companion in the past, so why would it matter now. I'm older and much wiser. I do wish I could be 100% open and show my face again but I have been blackmailed, slandered and harassed in the past and I fear that could happen again by those three people. Anyone that knows me as a "friend" or personal friend, knows I am a mother of two growing boys and I don't believe they are at the age where I could or should tell them. My chosen professions allows me to be the best Mama possible, volunteer at a number of places and my sons school and be a present involved parent. I love being a companion and wouldn't have it any other way. When I finally get over the fear of being blackmailed and the threats of being outted to my sons, they will be prepared the best way I possibly can but not until then. I may just come out 100% and tell the blackmailers to go suck the big one because I don't give a sweet shit anymore. With that said, I have no shame and never did. I have fears but not for me but my children. There are many wolves in sheeps clothing out there, I'm just blessed to know who they are and have developed the radar through experience to detect them. There is no room for shame in what we do, if you want to keep it private that is your right but what we do doesn't make us bad people, it's made me ever better in every aspect of my life! All my love and support to the providers and hobbyist, Lexy

As Samantha's wonderfully articulated message indicates, people do not usually enter in the sex trade for healthy well thought out reasons. More often than not there is an act of desperation on some level. Since the stereotypes are so ubiquitous in our culture if someone told me that they wanted to get into the sex industry I would treat their statement as a red flag that something serious was going on. Being a client for many years I have met people working in the sex trade on all levels from drug addicts in the survival of the sex trade to the "Madame" conducting business in nicely furnished surroundings. Of the people, after considering all the ramifications, that freely choose this profession, and this is my own personal opinion, they must have an above average work ethic. Unlike the rest of the employment sector these entrepreneurs have no support aside from [if they can find them] peer groups. On top of that they almost by default have to become activists and well-versed in the criminal code and legal discourse. I have never been ashamed of being a client or of the people I date and can afford to be extremely open about it. The two main reasons for this are: I'm single. Physically disabled. Having Cerebral Palsy means also in this context that I can come at the issues from a slightly different angle outside of the typical stereotypes. And it's been my experience that public opinion is slowly very incrementally changing in regards to sex work. Most people I talk to will privately admitted after a long discourse with them, that maybe some of their assumptions are based on erroneous information. But they are, as yet unwilling to speak out publicly. PatrickGC

I love me some "B.I.G" women!!! Screw all the people who are haters and embrace the fact that you are beautiful. :)

I'm glad your feeling more appreciated, I'm sorry if there was a time when you didn't feel acceptance or appreciation for your beauty. In this business, an in life there is room for all types, ages, all personalities, intelligence and motivations. I'm glad that message is becoming a strong one in commercials, society and boards like this. Why some try to make others feel less than I will never understand and unfortunately it is usually women. We are far more critical of one another than men are of women. I have been called a rusty old hag, by a woman on this board, some have said my legs were crooked, my hairstyle was stupid, lol, I didn't realize hairstyles could be stupid. All parts of my body have been criticized and made fun of and all these criticisms and comments were by other women, yes other women in the business. It happens and sadly often. I've learned that its pointless to try and understand hate and dislike towards others and specific types the important thing to know is that beauty is as much internal as external and yours, mine and hers is all wonderful and should be celebrated, accepted and appreciated, as there is no other like it. Embrace yourself for being you, unique and special just the way you are:) A big thank you to those who want and accept different types because wouldn't it be boring if we all came from one mold:)

I'm not ashamed of the choices I've made or how I live my life, including seeing escorts. I love the company of women and I've met many wonderful, strong and self determined women in this industry who I would be proud to call friends. Shame, guilt or self loathing would involve behaving inconsistently with my sense of identity. You can only do that for so long without developing unhealthy emotional and pyschological problems. Having said that like most people here, I keep this choice private for all the reason cited. It would be hypocritical to say that I would be opposed to any of the women in my personal life becoming involved in the sex industry. At the same time I'm also not naive and I realize that participation in this industry involves unique physical and emotional health risks as well as safety risks. The sex industry is one of the few jobs you can enter with no training at all. I don't mean sex technique either, but rather basic health and safety training and how to handle "difficult customers". That has to be a concern to anyone who cares for those close to them because there are unique and serious risks in this industry. While the CERB community is a positive one in which men and women generally view each other as equals and women are treated respectfully, this is not representative of the industry as a whole. I would want anyone close to me to understand the range of conditions and clients in the industry and the associated risks. Having said that if they were considering joining the military or becoming a coal miner I would want them to consider the risks unique to those jobs as well! In general my experience is that most men are "good men". That observation seems to be confirmed by the comments of most of the women on this Board about their clients. I'm happy to hear that. However I've seen what men are capable of when sex is combined with inequitable authority, intimidation, physical strength and vulnerability. I've intervened to stop a rape in progress, fired men for sexual harassment and sexual assault in the workplace and been a juror in a trial involving the rape and physical assault of a sex worker. In addition, looking at some of the comments on other industry boards it's clear that many customers are mysoginists. Men like this will be clients or potential clients and that has to concern anyone who cares for the women in their lives. Hell, they could be friends, lovers or husbands and that concerns me too! As much as most of society sees the treatment of sex workers and women in general as separate issues, I see them as identical. The bottom line is that I would not "tell" anyone how to live their life. The more mature a person is the more confidence I have to have in their decisions. I would however encourage them to speak to women who have managed to be safe, healthy and successful in the industry. There's a limit to how much useful advice I could provide from the client side. What I can give is unconditional love and support and if anything more care and attention if this is their choice.

Unfortunately, this is not something that I am proud of, , most probably for the fact that it goes against the morals and lifestyle that my family lives by and tried to pass on to me ;) And honestly, its just not family either, I would not share this really with anyone, accept for those I meet as clients, and a few select sps too. I guess you could say it is the shame that holds me back and keeps me from publically exposing myself as an sp. I am envious at times of those who are open about it, as I imagine that the freedom that comes with this job matched with the freedom of exposing your true self and not caring what anyone else thinks aside from those who count, must be so personally rewarding. The one thing I am proud of though, is that I have remained to be my true self and not change for anyone or the money. I have always kept a level head, stuck to my restrictions, been selective of whom I spend my time with, only see clients when I feel to, and put my money to good use, which allows me to not only support me and my child, but also allows me way more time with her than if I were working shifts. I get to do and see a lot with her, and this make our relationship awesome. And that is something I am very proud of ;)

While some of us tough old cocks like to roost with the tender spring chickens, we're not so spring chickeny ourselves. In my case, 20 years of abuse has taken its toll on some of my joints. I tried Big Pharma's pills and I didn't like the side effects, but there are lots of natural remedies if you're willing to invest the time, money, and ritual: turmeric, ginger (very effective), fish oil, etc. I do all this and more, but was puzzled regarding a recent prolonged flareup. Then I read an article that vegetables from the solanaceae family, such as potatoes, tomatoes, eggplants, etc., can cause joint pain in those susceptible to it. I was eating (organic) potatoes and tomato sauce almost every day! I abruptly stopped eating these foods and, wouldn't you know it, a couple of weeks later and my joints are (practically) fine! Now, back to the spring chickens! :P

I felt the same way, hence my cerb name. That feeling of emptiness would just get worse and worse, eating everything inside. You are a stronger man than me, to go so long with that emptiness inside you. A combination of loss after loss and that emptiness inside building up left me severely depressed and suicidal. With professional help I learn to get over the grief and came to realize that the emptiness was a lack of intimacy. Companion is the right word cause to be honest sex had nothing to do with it. Guys may think I'm insane but I've had wild threesomes and nothing felt the same. Only real relief is when it's intimate and meaningful to me, did it ever help. To confess I've been on dates just to be held and to connect. For that I used to be a shame, but not anymore, why should I be ashamed for something I need to live? So your not alone feeling empty, and stay strong there is nothing worse than to watch someone die slowly, just cherish every moment like it may be their last.

I know that you ask the gentlemen, but I just can't help but answer anything remotely close to a fashion questions. Anyone will notice a lil' glam. Whether is be a "wow" leopard print, a bright red or pink lipstick that oh so in the season and right paired accessories, I believe it gets notice. I nice look on a man gets noticed too! I'm a sucker for casual yet clean and modern look on any man. Nice dress shoes, a bright colored chemise buttoned up with dark jeans and optionally paired with a neck scarf or vest... MMMMMM... Yummies! Don't get me wrong either! A T-Shirt can go a long why too when matched with a neutral color or same color hat or shoes that gets same "I'm checking you out hard!" Both make me droll! Although.... clothes always look better on the floor! :) A mani/pedi and great hair always finish off any outfit nicely too, no matter what the sex. Guys if you haven't had a mani/pedi yet, You Gotta Try it! It's Awesome! Looking good makes you feels good! Most probably influencing they way one carries themselves when they feel good, with confidence, poise and positivity. So do the small things get noticed? Ummm... Most definitely yes!!!

Ashamed? Maybe at first when I started, because of all the social lack of acceptance taboos and we all know about it! Yes I don't have to announce it with screaming voices, but if anyone is to find out, oh well you don't like me because of my work, too bad so sad! Maybe they should think about their sense of friendship,because if you accept people for what their job is and not for who they are as a person, then I don't want you as a friend! And I ve got so many new friends here who wants more! ;) xxoo

Claire Heavens and PassionVitto are the new hot duo in O-town... what can be better than Passion in Heaven yay! Blonde and the brunnette! cant get any better! all thanks to Al from Quebec who brough us together! Thank you Al! It would have never happend if it was not for you!

Violet wands are modern electrical sexual or kink stimulation toys. They are used for the application of low current, high voltage (min 35 kV to max 65 kV typically), high-frequency, electricity to the body. They are most commonly used in BDSM though erotic sensation play is also possible with them. A violet wand typically consists of a hand held "wand" made of plastic which encases a high voltage electrical transformer. The base of the handle has a permanently attached electrical cord which plugs directly into a wall outlet. Though use of a GFCI is recommended with some wand designs, to protect from surges. The wand has an intensity level control and sometimes an on/off switch, usually located near where the electrical cord is attached. Some models operate on an electromagnetic disruptive discharge circuit while others are powered by electronic circuitry (called solid state wands) or combinations of the two. Various electrodes are inserted into and used with the violet wand to provide the sensations. A violet wand electrode is usually made of clear tempered glass which is sealed and evacuated and back-filled with a noble gas, typically argon and sometimes neon, in a process similar to the manufacturing of neon signs. The high voltage current causes the plasma inside the electrode to excite, emitting a glowing color when the wand operates and through which the spark emits. The appearance and process is identical to plasma globes, though the net discharge is higher in order to create spark streamers external to the glass which cause the desired sensation to the skin. A violet wand creates shock sensation when there is a gap between the electrode or the attachment and the body. As the wand is held near to the body, the spark will jump, providing the sensation. Full contact with an accessory creates a slightly warm sensation, but a violet wand provides a wide range of physical sensation properties with different settings and attachments. Some typical uses for a violet wand include temporary or permanent branding of the skin for Body modification, electrically charged impact with paddles or other conductive implements, electrified touch or massage, or erotic stimulation of the genitalia. Violet Wands can be used anywhere on the body but should not be used around the eyes. The following 'terms for techniques' were standardized by the International Violet Wand Guild c. 2005. Direct Users employ a violet wand by using various accessories which emit sparks for different physical sensations and purposes. These accessories include electrodes made of glass or metal and other conductive accessories and attachments. In-Direct Utilizing a body contact accessory the person holding the contact becomes electrified to the touch. Any part of the body can be used to pass the arc to the recipient. Additionally the person holding the contact can utilize any conductive material as an accessory. Reverse Users employ a body contact accessory by attaching it to the bottom subject, which electrifies the 'bottom' partner, and then conductive accessories are used by the top partner to electrify the bottom. Extension Using an extension handle and cable, allows the most net discharge current to pass to the subject. Extension handles are used with many electrodes and accessories. Branding Through the use of certain condensing electrodes, violet wands can be used to effectively "brand" or cauterize a design on an individuals skin which makes them popular in body modification. Violet wand brands can be semi permanent or totally permanent and are an easy and inexpensive method of "scarification" (the act of intentionally scarring ones own body) often used by professionals and avid enthusiasts alike.

I have a kit, and I'm in the process of learning to use it safely. It's a lot of fun! I got to sample a demo at Sexapalooza this year and couldn't resist getting one :D

Great post Peachy! I totally agree with you, as an older woman i do like to look sexy but dont want necessarly the younger look...i like to keep it classy! I do notice what a man wears...but i will mostly notice a yummy smell...major turn on!! take notes gentlemen ;)

I found your post interesting and had to google to find out more I hope this added info is helpful What are nightshades and in which foods are they found? Potatoes, tomatoes, sweet and hot peppers, eggplant, tomatillos, tamarios, pepinos, pimentos, paprika, and cayenne peppers are classified as nightshade foods. A particular group of substances in these foods, called alkaloids, can impact nerve-muscle function and digestive function in animals and humans, and may also be able to compromise joint function. Because the amount of alkaloids is very low in nightshade foods when compared with other nightshade plants, health problems from nightshade foods may only occur in individuals who are especially sensitive to these alkaloid substances. Since cooking only lowers alkaloid content of nightshade foods by about 40-50%, highly sensitive individuals may want to avoid this category of food altogether, while non-sensitive individuals may be able to eat these foods, especially in cooked form, without problem. Green and sprouted spots on potatoes usually reflect high alkaloid content, even though the green itself involves the presence of chlorophyll, not alkaloids. For this reason, sprouted areas should always be thoroughly removed before potato cooking, or the potatoes should be discarded altogether. Nightshades--a description Nightshades are a diverse group of foods, herbs, shrubs, and trees that have fascinated scientists, doctors, and nutritionists for centuries. "Nightshade" is actually the common name used to describe over 2,800 species of plants, many with very different properties and constituents. All of the plants, however, belong to a scientific order called Polemoniales, and to a scientific family called Solanaceae. To give you an idea of the diversity associated with this group of plants, consider the fact that tobacco, morning glory, potato, and tomato are all classified as nightshades. Pharmaceutical nightshades Nightshades are actually more famous as drugs than as foods. The best-known nightshades when it comes to pharmacy include mandrake (Mandragora officinum), tobacco (Nicotiana tabacum) and belladonna, also called deadly nightshade (Atropa belladonna). Nightshade vegetables and fruit The most famous food members of the nightshade family include potatoes (Solanum tuberosum), tomatoes (Lycopersicon esculentum), many species of sweet and hot peppers (all species of Capsicum, including Capsicum annum), and eggplant (Solanum melongena). Less well know, but equally genuine nightshade foods include ground cherries (all species of Physalis), tomatillos (Physallis ixocapra), garden huckleberry (Solanum melanocerasum), tamarillos (Cyphomandra betacea), pepinos (Solanum muricatum), and naranjillas (Solanum quitoense). Pimentos (also called pimientos) belong to the nightshade family, and usually come from the pepper plant Capsicum annum. Pimento cheese and pimento-stuffed olives are therefore examples of foods that should be classified as containing nightshade components. Although the sweet potato, whose scientific name is Ipomoea batatas, belongs to the same plant order as the nightshades (Polemoniales), it does not belong to the Solanaceae family found in this order, but to a different plant family called Convolvulaceae. Nightshade spices The seasoning paprika is also derived from Capsicum annum, the common red pepper, and the seasoning cayenne comes from another nightshade, Capsicum frutenscens. Hot sauces that contain hot peppers should also be considered as a nightshade food. It may be helpful to note here that black pepper, which belongs to the Piperaceae family, is not a member of the nightshade foods. Ways in which nightshades may affect health Alkaloids - The chemistry of nightshades Most of the health research on nightshades has focused on a special group of substances found in all nightshades called alkaloids. In chemical terms, alkaloids are easy to identify because they all have at least one ring-like structure that contains the element nitrogen. Plants produce alkaloids as a regular part of their biochemical activity, and these alkaloids are primarily designed to help protect the plants from insects that would otherwise eat them. Four basic types of alkaloids are found in nightshade plants. These types are: (1) the steroid alkaloids, which contain a fairly complicated fused ring structure and are found in most food nightshades including potato and tomato; (to compare the value of one of the most notable steroid alkaloid -solanine-in the foods in which it is most concentrated, please refer to Table 1)(2) the tropane alkaloids, all originating from the simple amino acid ornithine and found in fewer of the overall nightshades, but more extensively researched due to their strong drug-like properties; (3) the pyrrolizidine alkaloid and (4) the indole alkaloids, both important groups from a drug standpoint. Table 1 VegetableSolanine contentmilligrams per 100 gram servingCommon peppers7.7-9.2Eggplant6.1-11.33Potatoes2-13Effect of steroid alkaloids on the nervous system The steroid alkaloids in potato - primarily solanine and chaonine - have been studied for their health effects in two areas. First is their ability to block activity of an enzyme in nerve cells called cholintesterase. Many of the alkaloids found in nightshades possess this kind of activity, called cholinesterase inhibition. If the activity of cholinesterase is too strongly blocked, the nervous system control of muscle movement becomes disrupted, and muscle twitching, trembling, paralyzed breathing, or convulsions can result. The steroid alkaloids found in potato have clearly been shown to block cholinesterase activity, but this block does not usually appear strong enough to produce nerve-muscle disruptions like twitching or trembling. Effect of steroid alkaloids on joint health A second type of problem potentially related to the potato alkaloids involves damage to the joints caused by inflammation and altered mineral status. Whether alkaloids can contribute to joint damage of this kind is not clear from current levels of research. Some researchers have speculated that nightshade alkaloids can contribute to excessive loss of calcium from bone and excessive depositing of calcium in soft tissue. For this reason, these researchers have recommended elimination of nightshade foods from the meal plans of all individuals with osteoarthritis, rheumatoid arthritis, or other joint problems like gout. Effect of nicotine alkaloid on health Just as there is no firm research evidence for the impact of the steroid alkaloids in nightshade foods on the nervous system or joints, there is also no solid research evidence for impact of the more drug-like alkaloids in nightshade foods on body systems. But to the surprise of many people, nightshade foods do contain very small amounts of drug-like alkaloids that have long been fascinating to medical and drug researchers. Consider, for example, the most famous of the one-ring type alkaloids (monocyclic alkaloids) found in the highest concentrations in tobacco (Nicotiana tabacum): nicotine. This alkaloid is found not only in non-food nightshades like tobacco, but also in the food nightshades including eggplant and tomato. But there is one important difference here: while alkaloids like nicotine are definitely found in nightshade foods, the amount involved is dramatically less. Even in the case of eggplant, which is the food nightshade that appears to have the highest nicotine content after tobacco, the amount of nicotine is far lower than the amount found in tobacco. In the case of green tomatoes, which also contain nicotine, the amount is even less. The levels of nicotine in all nightshade foods are so low that most healthcare practitioners have simply ignored the presence of nicotine in these foods as a potential compromising factor in our health. At the World's Healthiest Foods, we both agree and disagree with this conclusion. While we agree that the amount of nicotine in nightshade foods is very, very small, it still seems possible to us that some individuals might be particularly sensitive to the alkaloids found in nightshades, and that even very small amounts might compromise function in the bodies of these individuals. Increased alkaloid content of green and sprouting potatoes It's important to point out that green spots on potatoes, or sprouting on potatoes, usually correspond to an increased alkaloid content, and this increased alkaloid content is one of the main reasons for avoiding consumption of green or sprouted potatoes. (The green color itself is chlorophyll, and helpful to our health, but unfortunately, it's also accompanied by the increased alkaloids that we can't see). Interestingly, in one study conducted with hamsters who were fed the sprouted portions of potatoes, increased alkaloid content did not seem to impact the nerves or joints nearly as much as the digestive system itself. The researchers focused on damage to the stomach and intestines when trying to understand the problems caused by ingestion of potato sprout material, and concluded that there were reasons to avoid this material based on digestive system evidence alone. A bitter taste in potatoes after the potatoes have been cooked is usually a good indication that excessive amounts of alkaloids are present. The effect of cooking on the alkaloid content in nightshade foods

I wouldn't say I necessarily notice the "details" per say, but you can always tell when a lady is "put together". I'm not usually going to come right out with a "great shoes" or "I love your hair" kinda compliment because that's just not me. But it's all part of the "look" and I defiantly notice when a lady has the "look"! There is nothing sexier than a woman who has her shit together and that usually includes hair, make-up, nails, outfit, etc. but it's not he hair, nails and make-up that makes it sexy, it's the confidence that usually radiates from a lady who has taken the time to do all these things. So do I notice the the little things women do to feel sexy? Not exactly, but I definitely appreciate the effort they put into it to allow that ass kicking confidence I love to shine through!

I don't know if I've ever been ashamed of doing this. I did have a lot of reservations, and I was much more guarded in the beginning. I still am to an extent, but I don't, nor have I ever felt a pang of shame due to visiting and SP or MA. Just because the topic popped up about imagining a female family member doing this, I thought I'd add my thoughts. My cousin is a remarkable girl, and we're quite close because of our age. She's is as good as a sister. And I don't know if this would be an odd thing to say, but if she ever told me she was an SP, or MA, I think I'd be happy for her. The thing is, and this is an assumption that I've made so forgive me for being so bold - SPs and MAs here know that they are desired. It is a contributing factor for you ladies to be in this business (Again, complete speculation, just reasoned logic). It is that sort of confidence in oneself that I wish she had emotionally. I mean she is just a fantastic person, intelligent beyond anyone I know, and a career on steroids. But after a couple of bad relationships, her self worth and outlook has been shot. I always get the sense that the ladies here are quite sure of themselves. Everyone has doubts and those bad moments with everyone, but for the most part, I'm always in awe for how women her have taken the leap to get into this business, and thrive. Sex between consenting adults isn't bad. And money passing hands doesn't cheapen it (in my humble opinion). I'm not ashamed, and should I find out that my cousin somehow decides that the industry was for her, even part time, I'd cheer her, and never check out this website again (Do NOT want to run into her pictures). The only thing I was ashamed about was certain fantasies I've had. I've kept them to myself, and finally started to get the idea...wait a moment, I have carte blanche access to live all those fantasies out, wtf are you waiting for?!?

This is so true, and it goes back to what I said in my earlier post - society is a slave to convention. It's perfectly acceptable for a guy to go downtown, talk to a lady, buy her drinks (while spending lots of money in the process), and then get lucky... or not! lol. There are no guarantees in the civilian world, yet the hobby offers up an honest monetary exchange for a service. It's essentially the same as the millions upon millions of transactions we deal with on a daily basis. The only difference here is the type of service being offered. Throw that into the equation, and suddenly all bets are off. Go figure... Similarly, it's perfectly acceptable for a couple to spend money on one another in the course of dating, only to arrive at the same end as paid companionship. Also, since we're talking about getting screwed, don't get me started on the amount of money which changes hands in divorce court! :icon_eek:

I do understand your point of view, especially since I started at the bottom almost five years ago and had to earn every single point (in 20 point increments, no less!) I was merely suggesting that we should not get hung up on appearances, and focus on what really matters. However, in the interest of fairness - perhaps mod could top up the senior member's rep points. In other words, if new members are accorded 5000 points, while older members were not afforded this luxury then long time members should now receive a "bonus" 5000 points, or whatever the number happens to be, to even things out. How does that sound?

My dear this is definitely not something to be ashamed of. To do what you do to support you and your child and to be able to spend time and have a good relationship with her. This tell me you are a great mom better than most I've seen and there is no one who can says otherwise without lying through their teeth.

Well a sounds like a strange highlight but it is only because it made dad happy. Dad had his 84th birthday, and had a little party with his wife and friends. He was happy because he thought he wasn't going to make it to his 84th, and the highlight of the day, first time since he told us of his cancer, and cancer aside, dad seemed happy, so that is a highlight RG

I think guys notice as they pick us, for all our glory. Weather that be for our looks, attributes, clothing, or lack of, ect, ect. But I'm sure every guy notices something different, some may notice individual details, some a whole package. Alot of how they view us may be determined by the females in their lives. I'm a glam gal, love all that goes with it, I wake up natural, live in my world natural, but if I'm going to be sexy for someone I want the whole package, nails, hair, makeup, lingerie,high heels, all these things make me feel sexier and more prepared to want to be intimate and its fun to get all "dolled" up. It is about a total package and a total package as I see it involves glam. But to each their own. I think where things become blurred for guys is in the thinking that natural is just that no makeup, uncomplicated hair, ect, as some pictures depict in magazines, but what they don't know is a lot of these so called natural "looking" girls have spent more time in hair and makeup than a lot of the glam girls. All in all it doesn't matter what someone else notices or likes as we all have to portray ourselves as we see fit and are comfortable with, guys noticing our efforts is a bonus:)

Lol - this is why I always carry my toothbrush with me!! Love the benefits that come with fresh breath!!

I've often asked myself that. I'm a girl who has to talk to a guy before anything else happens (I like to get a vibe from him) but I hate when they ask me to justify what I'm doing, mostly because it goes hand in hand with "trying to save me". Lots of girls lie because they are sick of hearing how they deserve better and should be doing more with their lives. There is a good portion of guys who want to hear how much we hate our jobs and how they are doing us a favor. I don't take those guys. I love my job and anyone who wants to degrade what i do will be trouble in the back usually. Just my 2c Megan

Sometimes....its just a matter of chewing gum. ;-) Fresh breath always gets rewarded with me ;) Slurp ;)

I'm not ashamed in the slightest. WHen people ask me what I do for a living, I tell them, I'm an escort. My family knows, my friends know. When I tell someone what I do, and they think they can leer at me in response, they learn quickly that being an escort does NOT mean they can touch/grope/be inappropriate with me. I am a woman who loves what she does, and who knows that everything has it's context. As such, there ARE times when I won't say what I do, because I dont' want it to all become about me. For instance, at my sisters upcoming wedding, I will not tell people what I do. Because, unfortunately, if I did, I know there would be gossip/stares/sneers, and I would be mortified if I caused anything like that on my sisters day. Which unfortunately would happen if I was honest. Society forces me to be dishonest sometimes, but for the most part, I am welcomed and respected when I am able to be honest. My friends responded with shock, but quickly the shock turned to understanding, and in most cases, respect.

At Fat Bastard BBM, all of our providers have been trained in the arts of multilingual seduction. Phaedrus: AnCay Iay Eesay Ouyay AkedNay? (Phaedrus is the master of Pig Latin.) Lee Richards: MmmGRRRRrrrMMMmmmZZZGGgggggggRRRRrrghhhhhh (Lee has been studying Neanderthal for years. The sentence above is delivered with a hint of a Homo Erectus accent) Andy of Halifax: Niiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiizzzzee Titzzzzzzzzzzz laydeeeeeeeeee (Andy has been returning to his Maritime roots, inspired by Alexander keith and the consumption thereof.) And I, well I can barely speak any language. Most instructors have asked if all of my dialect comes as a result of substandard "second language" training. I was in fact raised by wild dogs in the wilds of southern Ontario... so I do communicate quite well in the language of my canine forebears....

I think it could benefit from a few more contributors.

Happy Birthday Royal Fun ! Have a good one :)

It's finding that other gentleman that poses the challenge. In this kind of situation you don't have to be gay or bi but you DO have to be comfortable being around someone of the same sex and knowing that occasionally parts might meet in the heart of the moment. You also have to make sure that the two men in question will get along. Would be nothing worse than them having some sort of conflict personality wise. Personally, I love this set up and when it works, it's amazing. Definitely worth inquiring about. Good luck with your search!

LOL, you pay the bill and I will show up! ;)

Happy Birthday Royal Fun Enjoy your special day RG

I absolutely notice ... clothes, overall appearance, nails, hair, shoes. I grew up with older sisters, and spend a lot of time being dragged around to clothing and shoe stores as a kid. My sisters are all quite a bit older than me. I have a fine appreciation for such things as a result. Porthos

Congrats on your 200 posts!! You really are a great contributor!! Kisses, TXXX

I usually make a comment on small things that I noticed if I have seen a SP/MA before. But it is hard to comment on new things if I have only just met the Woman for the first time :). But I usually like to comment to the woman on her hair or make out or clothes especially if I noticed that she has gone out of her way to make her self nice and sexy for me. I appreciate the little touches that the women go thru to make themselves beautiful for me.

I also have been thinking about trying this. I'm very curious as to what it would be like with a TS SP. It's been something on my mind for a while now. Once I meet the right TS lady and grow the balls to do it, it should be exciting!!!

I saw Stand Up Guys yesterday. Awesome movie! Surprised it didn't get more attention. Any fan of Christopher Walken and-or Al Pacino should definitely check it out!

I have experienced unrequited love in life ...both in and out of "the hobby" I suspect everyone has, or will in at least one or the other... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JNQ0GkGN3yM

Well you'd think if they start all of a sudden just starting people at 10,000 rep points without them being earned then shouldn't the other existing members be given the same free 10,000 unearned rep points?

Great line from a Nick Lowe song that applies. "... you've got to be cruel to be kind." Sometimes being subtle doesn't work. Subtle messages don't register when a person doesn't believe that there is a problem. There is no kind way to tell a person that they are malodorous. Nope. But in her own way, Cat tempered her response by NOT identifying the party. She merely alluded to the fact that ONE of the respondents was making an egregious error in suggesting that he did not have an odour problem. If that gentleman can self identify and feel that he was not singled out, all the better. He gets the message, applies the requisite amount of anti perspirant/deodorant and he is good to go. No harm, no foul. No bullying. Deliciously subtle but direct. Cruel? Meh. Kind? Absolutely.

Cerb gentlemen are that exactly GENTLEMEN! They know how to treat a lady, they respect us as providers, as friends, as women!!! They are definetely in a different league from the clientele you get from other advertising sites, even thou there is still some gentlemen that have not yet discover CERB, but certainly you guys here are the BEST!

This is a topic very near and dear to me and one I hope you all won't mind if I ramble about for a few :) As the subject of my post suggests, I firmly believe in there being a difference between lust and love, as well as arousal and attraction. And it is VERY easy for us, as human beings, to blur the lines between the two. I speak from experience when I say that... as I have blurred them in my past. LOVE is a choice. It is something that we CHOOSE when we commit ourselves to one other person for the rest of our lives. It is born out of history, respect, unconditional admiration and acceptance. Out of knowing things about the other that no one else knows. About seeing them at their worst, their most vulnerable, and believing that is when they they look their most beautiful or most handsome; Their most attractive. It comes from complete openness, complete honesty and complete trust. With it comes a desire to be a better person - for yourself so that you can be better for THEM. It comes a complete freedom to be yourself, no matter WHAT that entails - because you know that no matter what you say, or do; no matter how grumpy you get, or how crazy or silly, at the end of the day you are welcomed into the loving arms of your CHOSEN partner. LUST is a feeling. An intense, passionate feeling. It is born from newness, from sexual desire, from excitement, anticipation, anxiousness, intimacy and arousal. It is all encompassing, it is amazing, it is FUN. The reality of this is though, lust fades. Even in a relationship with someone you plan to spend the rest of your life with (because you've made that CHOICE to do so), lust fades. This is why marriages ebb and flow, have their ups and downs, and often fail. Too many people believe that if the lust is gone, then the relationship is over. What they FAIL to see, is that if you make a CHOICE to love someone, and ride the rollercoaster through the next down, the next CLIMB is better than anything lust could ever allow you to experience. The CHOICE to love someone is a conscious choice that requires great effort, great committment and great amounts of work. The FEELING of lust is involuntary. It just happens. It is beautiful and natural and wonderful. But it just is. Let's face it: Being with someone we've CHOSEN to love, vs an SP/client that we LUST for is very different. Even the SEX is different. Sex with someone we lust for is fun, yes. It may even be intense, or passionate. It may leave you reeling, thinking about that person and longing to see them again. It envokes all kinds of strange thoughts in your mind that you are left trying to make sense of. But really, it IS just sex. It is erotic, enjoyable and wonderful -- as is the connection that precedes it. But it does nothing for the soul in the long term. On the flip side, SEX with someone you've CHOSEN to love, and have a history and committment with is the kind of sex that relaxes you and makes you feel all warm and loved inside. The kind of sex that makes you want to stay in bed all day naked. The kind of sex that can make you cry because its as much of an emotional release as it is a physical one. The kind of sex that makes you want to crawl inside them and you still wouldn't be close enough to them. NO SP or client could ever replace that very thing with someone you've CHOSEN to love. And that is why although the client/SP relationship may be good... no, GREAT experiences, nobody will ever be better, or replace the ONE person you've chosen to let in your heart. No matter how good the physical connection between SP and client, they will never replace that very same thing in your bed.

Great work, and nice posts in the social groups, too! Thanks for your contributions.

I still do not know about this thread, i mean i would be beyond ecstatic if any lady was turned on by me so i do not think is an issue at all. i do know that i am not even close to being a sex god note even by a long shot, but i do my best to make the lady feel special and hope that she gets turned on by it. it means i am doing something right. :)

I will add to this. If you are doing it for the money, better think again. Unless perhaps you think taking half the fee is a good for the lady and yourself. Even then Half the fee means you both have to work 2x's the appointments then otherwise. That is if you are only representing the one lady. But if you have 10 ladies I suppose you will live comfortably, but the one lady now has to work extra appointments to even come close to what you would make off of 10 ladies. If I tried to make a living off the small donation that my ladies offered me as an agent, I would starve. I never agree that the agent should make the same or more than the ladies who work there. There is much much more to this then posting ads and answering phones. Do you have the experience needed to make an informed and safe booking? Can you screen safely? The responsibility of ensuring the ladies safety is paramount...or should be. Time management, people skills, finance balancing, knowledge of the law and a lawyer paid yearly, everything that a business requires. If you feel that security is one thing you will be best at, then you may need to consider this again too. I only have one bodyguard, that is .....911. Clients that book threw an agency have to be able to trust the agent. You need a good reputation to build that trust. My client come in 2 forms, the hobyiest who books and the ladies I work for. My clients trust me, and know that the ladies are being treated fairly with me. They would not want to book with me if say: I was taking half of the ladies hard earned cash, or if I were a man, or if they never heard of me.

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