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To add to this: Telling someone's parents about being in this profession is something many women still have not done, even if they've been around for years, and even if they're 'out' in other ways. There are many reasons for this, and they are reasons I can't even understand, because I'm lucky enough to have told my mother and she said 'Oh! Well that makes sense!', and she is completely supportive of me. The key word I used there was LUCKY. I am so lucky, and happy, to have a family that supports my choices no matter what they are. Not everyone is like that, and that's why I can't understand their reasons for not telling - and neither can YOU. A persons relationship with their parents is something that is individual to that person, and that person only. How many times have you met parents that seem really cool, and they back you on something you do, but then when their child does it, they flip? Or, how many times have you seen a confident person cower at the mention of their mother? This is all just to say again, that someones relationship with their parents is theirs, and theirs ALONE. Please don't ever think you have the right to step in on that. If anything, tell your friend that you feel awkward about keeping it from her parents, and let HER decide her response to that. That is all you can do.

Frankly, I would expect that you would not share it with any friends and family, not just most. If she wants to share, that's up to her, you should have her back.

Let me put it simply, if a friend ever betrayed my trust in such a fashion there would be more than hell to pay! Your feelings of discomfort around her family are of no consequence.

I think you have received some clear advise, and there is an obvious consensus. A promise is a promise. If her parents ask you, you simply need to say "I don't know" and "if you have concerns, you really should be speaking to her" Porthos

I totally believe in the law of attraction and the key for it to work is that, to believe. Yes, repeating what you want many times helps if you really think and believe it will happen. More like repeating is affirming it will happen and in fact you have to decree it like if you already have it and even thank (whoever you believe in or even the universe) for it. You can also have a vision board with pictures/images of what you want. In my case, I have a notebook kind of a diary when I paste images of what I want/need and the reasons why I want that in my life. Something to also keep in mind is same as if you believe and keep repeating good things will come, bad things too so as difficult as it is do not repeat or think about the negative in your life, just like we have to act as we have what we want the most we also have to go on like what we need to get rid of is not there anymore. Peachy thank you so much for this thread because as much as I believe in this problems sometimes make me forget so this just reminded me and inspired me to not allow that to happen or at least to really try hard :)

Don't tell her parents. Ever. That is her decision, and hers only. That is the only way to handle this.

I would strongly advise against informing her parents. If anyone should tell them it should be her, otherwise you are breaking the trust that this woman has placed in you.

I know you mentioned that this is more geared toward the SP(S). But the way I see it, you have agreed not to tell most of her friends and family. Keep your promise to her, when the family asks, deflect the question. Sometimes a white lies is a better way for everyone. -- my nickel worth (again. them cent is goner.) Areez.

I've always thought having sex on a beach is way overrated. It sounds way better than it is. Have you ever gotten sand in your pussy? :( It ruins everything. Or woken up with sand in your teeth the next day? Ew.

I completely agree. It isn't your information to tell and she would benefit more from having a supportive friend than one who expressly violates her trust. Her parents questions aren't your issue and they should be speaking with her directly if they have concerns.

She trusted you enough to tell you, and to keep it secret. Your loyalty should be to your friend, not to her family/friends. Keep her secret a secret. Trust once broken is hard to get back and you would be breaching her trust by telling her family/friends If your friend's behaviour is giving her away, tell her, and tell her it is making others suspicious. But keep the secret a secret And just to put the shoe on the other foot for a minute so to speak. What if you told a trusted friend that you see professional companions. You trust the friend well enough to share your secret, but don't want your family to know, be it wife, children or parents. You tell him never tell anyone. And he lets your family know your secret. How would you feel towards your friend after that RG

I believe in this too. If you manifest negatiive things in your head, it's like a self fulflling prophecy. Negative thoughts envoke negative behaviours and then it's downhill from there.I have turned away from negativity in my lfe or those who live for drama. It's like having garbage in your house that you forgot to take out and ends up stinking up the place. No thanks.

FYI. I google image searched a couple of the pics 24-7 uses in there ads and they were totally bogus.

I'm not sure how reliable the results are relating the the fields the men work in. The men surveyed were all on ashleymaddison, correct? So most of those fields seem to be male-dominated. It may be that men in other fields are more likely to be cheating with co-workers than going online to find an affair. I suspect men in other occupations actually cheat at around the same rate.

I am a firm believer in positive energy, any energy really. It attracts. Be negative and that's what you'll receive, be positive and that's what you'll receive. So if I want something positive to happen I concentrate on it, work towards the goal and what will be will be.Most of the time the outcome is great and what I had hoped for. If there is negativity and harm being pushed my way I take a deep breath think positively, remain positive and continue on in my direction. Because I believe when negativity is ignored no harm will come to the one its aimed at but will to the one that's aiming!

I now realize after the 2 years I've been here that nearly all hobbyist's I meet want a mutually satisfying experience, thank god! I love it and get excited at the thought of a man wanting to come by and explore my body while I explore his. The sensations are wild, hot and delicious, never should anyone EVER feel guilty about enjoying anything so natural and beautiful. My favorite position now is laying back while a man slides his cock down my throat as he fucks my pussy with a dildo and plays with my clit. How lucky are we to get paid for such exciting scenarios! Feel guilty NEVER, enjoy, ALWAYS! :)

I would also add that you don't say anything to a persons family, friends or coworkers, it is up to them how much they choose to disclose and when. One factor no one has mentioned but it's important is that this is essentially a part of her sex life, yes it's a paid part and it's her work but it involves sex and not everyone has a family they go and discuss the intimate details of their sex life with. My parents would not wish to read the details of when I had sex with another person, they would not feel comfortable knowing I engaged in xyz with a particular person the other day and especially knowing the details of it along with photos of me in next to nothing were available for all to read on the internet. It's simply not how my family talks about or deals with sex. If someone were to share that information with my parents it would forever damage the family relationships, partially with me but also with each other simply because I know how they communicate and it would become a giant elephant in the room. So yes they would ask, like all parents they would want to know simply out of worry and concern (at least if I were 19) but they would be happy to hear that their worries were unfounded, denial is a well used tool in my parents toolbox. I know this, I am comfortable with this and understand that dynamic but if someone didn't know this and shared information with them I would be upset simply because they hurt people that I love and needlessly. This may not be the situation in your friends family but the point is that we all have unique family dynamics, some of us know how to engage in them and some of us do not, still it is through growing up with these families that we gain that experience and we are the best ones to handle these situations not an outsider, well intentioned or not. If you are approached you can simply tell them that you believe it is best to discuss family matters with family, no matter what the issue is because you would not want your parents to come to your friends asking about you, whether that be asking about your dating life or your schooling. Tell them it would make you uncomfortable and you don't want her to feel uncomfortable either.

I am definitely on board as a believer in the power of the mind, the importance of feeling and envisioning what you want, and positive energies. The mental is important, but it is utterly useless without the physical. To me, the power of the mind goes hand in hand with the power of action. Normally, things aren't just handed to us because we want them, and too many people expect them to be. And more important than knowing and envisioning what you want, is doing what you want and going after what you want. The key to turning dreams into reality is making shit happen. Doing whatever it takes to achieve your goals. Physically going out and fucking doing it. Not stopping in the face of failure. Not letting people tell you that you can't do it. Not being afraid to fail, and not being afraid to succeed. I have always been a confident person, but a light went on in my head a few years ago in a busy time in my life, and I realized that I truly do have the capability to handle ANY situation that arises in my life. There was no need to ever fear possibilities and outcomes, because I can handle all of it. To me, being fearless is the key to it all, and the ultimate goal that I keep as a constant in my life.

Dreams take lots of hard work and at times luck and sometimes the chase for the dream is more full filling than actually achieving it as it can be anti-climatic at times. I have achieved many of my dreams thus far and it took vision, discipline, hard work, support from my family and a bit of luck. I have a few big dreams left that I want to achieve and if I can reach them then I'll be the happiest and luckiest guy on the planet!

Manifesting is a very real and very simple and powerful thing. The not so easy part is our mental chatter. The negative stuff manifests MUCH easier than the positive so even a few simple negative words spoken in our heads can create outcomes we don't want. Manifesting needs to be a focused intent but it's SO worth it. It also allows you to be kinder to yourself, to recognize the beauty in yourself and others and to be more positive in general. Once focused, good things start to happen which makes it easier to do which precipitates more good things. I try to be positive, thankful and non judgmental every day. Some days it's easier than others. I try to limit my venting or complaints as this creates negative energy which then feeds on the positive. As was mentioned, picture yourself already in the situation of having whatever it is you desire. See it, feel it, embrace it fully. One trick that goes hand in hand with this is after you have determined what you want, and you picture yourself in the situation or having it, see if there are any negative reactions to it. For example, if you want a million dollars, see if any negative thoughts crop up about the extra trouble it might cause or the extra work or people looking for handouts. If you notice these negative thoughts, imagine the worst case scenario for it IE: people who wouldn't give you their time before come looking for a hand out which will make you feel uncomfortable or upset. Take this thought and picture what would happen if you were to become upset. Maybe you lose those people or they call you a name and blackball you. Can you deal with that outcome? If so, you have just de-energized the negative thought thus allowing you to create more positive thoughts easier....end result. Easier Manifesting. Everything is energy and we can direct energy. This is a scientifically proven fact. Direct it correctly and you can create a wonderful existence. LOL sorry, this is all very close to my heart so I tend to get carried away!

I hate the term "john." It's demeaning! I go with client, almost always.

Don't say anything. I may be pretty out as far as being out goes, but I still get to decide who to disclose to and who not to. It's a safety issue--I don't know who is going to react positively or negatively and in some cases, I'd rather not take the chance. I don't know this woman or her parents, but please don't tell them. Not everyone has a good relationship with their folks and she may never be able to tell them and that's ok. If they're asking, tell them you don't know and to take it up with her.

I,d just like to send out well wishes to those affected by the severe flooding in Alberta and let them know our thoughts and prayers are with them !

There are a couple of factors here that need to be addressed. I've been thru this dozens of time with girls and the consistent theme every time with every family/loved one is exactly the same each and every time. It's a betrayal of trust. They don't have to like what she's doing but they have to be able to TRUST THAT SHE WILL TELL THEM THE TRUTH! Being honest with them may very well have long term ramifications but most of the time the loved ones will come around to a degree once they see she is safe and not on a self destructive path. They may never approve or support her decision but at least the basic trust hasn't been diminished. Once they suspect, the game is up. If she doesn't come clean, she is risking permanent damage to a foundational relationship. As for your part in it, you need to remove yourself from the situation. It's going to bite you in the ass no matter what happens. Her parents will never trust you again if you deflect, they will be angry you didn't tell them sooner if you spill. This is on her and she needs to fix this. If she is mature enough to decide to become a sex worker then she needs to own it and handle herself like a grown up and honor the people who love her enough to tell them the truth and remove you from the equation... cat

This all boils down to respect on BOTH sides. Everyone's time is valuable and worth something. Yes, sometimes things happens: sickness, accidents, people getting in the way but this can be handled respectfully, with notice and an apology. If it becomes recurrent, there is loss of respect and each party must decide if they are willing to accept that. I have felt bad every time I have needed to cancel and have offered something to make up for it later. If I can't offer the best of me, I respect someone enough to cancel. If there are things going on that can't be handled or I'm personally not doing a good job at balancing, then I need to respect myself and others by not scheduling appointments. If that becomes an issue, the onus is on me to fix the problem(s). Being upset by this is completely legitimate and it sucks when it happens. If it's something that can't be helped, chalk it up to life. If it ends up being more a respect issue (or lack thereof) then whoever is in the non respected issue needs to respect themselves and move on. There is also something to be said for communication. If you feel comfortable with the other ASK what's happening. Maybe it's something that can be overcome. We're all just people.

My thoughts and heart go out to everyone there...I have many good friends in Alberta...please take care. My prayers are with you. Maybe we CERb people can do something... big hugs!

You know, its perfectly fine to not have any kind of love or attraction for bbw`s. But I am puzzled as to why you even bother to take the time to respond to a bbw thread that is asking for references for bbw service providers, only to indicate that you do not know of any and that you are also not attracted to them. Please note, I am not offended by the fact that you are not attracted to us- just get a little offended when people go out of their way to indicate something negative on something that is supposed to be positive :)

Congratulations Jade. I'll always remember your post "My Darling Lover..." Very beautiful.

The choice between CIM and COF is a very hard choice to make, and really just comes down to the mood of the situation. COF is naughty like a sexy porn star actress getting her face sprayed with hot cum and looking up at you in an ohhh so sexy way, licking her lips. CIM on the other hand is sooooo HOT to feel your cum pumping into her sexy mouth and throat and seems to be a more slower intense orgasm for me. So to sum it up, I love both but it depends on the mood of the lady and the situation, but both are great.......BUT dont forget guys, after she brings you over the edge and brings you to orgasm, its our time to get down there and return the oral favor and lick her pussy (which will be nice and juicy by this point).......MMMMMMMM MMMMMMMM GOOD

Not sure if you can only talk about bad locations that you had used yourself but in a previous job I worked at a university preparing chemical compounds for the university labs. We often worked in the evenings as the labs were usually too busy during regular school hours. The lab we did most of prep work was on the first floor with a door which open up to a little park. On the other side of the park was the main student pub. One hot spring night we had propped open the door which looked out on the park to get some fresh air and hear the music coming form the student pub. That night we were preparing a compound that is very sensitive to light so we had the lab lights turned off. It also was a rather strong smelling compound so when we worked in the lab we also wore gas-masks even though most of the time the compound stayed in the fumehoods. At some point in the process we had to let the reaction run for an extended period of time, so my co-worker and myself went and got some coffee. After about an hour, we came back, donned our gas masks and enter the darkened lab. At which point all hell broke lose. Here is a very rough version of what happened - as the two of us, wearing full chemical safety gear, enter the lab we noticed two figures in the corner near the door facing the little park ... there is some hard fucking against the wall going on as the two of them are literally growling at each other. - then she notices us and screams - her male partner looks back towards us but can't make us out so he turns on the light - my co-worker and myself scream to not turn on the light or at least try to scream since the gas masks muffle our voices so much - the lab lights turn on and we get to view an incredibly busty young lady pinned up against the wall by her very good looking fuck buddy - more screaming and yelling from them telling us to get out - more muffled screaming from us yelling at them to turn the lights off - chemical compound in fumehood reacts to light and starts to burn giving off an unholy red glare - our two lovers while screaming at the top of their lungs, de-couple and sprint out the back door - my co-worker and myself quickly move to deal with our little chemical fire from hell We finally get things under control and lucky for us there was not any major fire damage to the lab. While cleaning up our lab, we discovered our little lovers had left behind the following items: - a lacy set of purple bra (size 32D) and panties - a nice floral summer dress - a pair of grey shorts with the wallet still in the back pocket (10 bucks and sufficient ID to know it was one of the senior members of one of the junior Liberals - one sandal (men's size 10) We reported the incident to security and sure enough they knew what we were talking about as some one had called in reporting two students "streaking" through the campus parking lot. The little streakers were in custody. Later one, one of the security guys dropped by to pick up their stuff, we gave him everything but the bra and panties, we told them they had been burned in the fire. Later we pinned the bra and panties up to the lab safety board with a sign saying "No fucking in the labs". As much as having great chemistry makes the sex better, having sex in a chemical lab will probably end badly.

I Love Love Love My Bum

Went to Ribfest in downtown Ottawa about 8:30pm. Tons of people, long lines for the food. Then all the kitchens began to run out of ribs-can you believe that? I'm happy for them tho that business is good. Will try tomorrow. Went to a fast food place just to fill a hole. Not a happy Friday night but at least there's ALWAYS CERB.

Let me see if I understand. Sex is a positive energy and my cock is often firm so does that qualify as a firm believer in positive energy? Cause maybe I should listen to that head more often:) lol

I always hope the pleasure goes both ways. But mostly I'm posting with a chuckle because I misinterpreted the thread title at first and thought it was about something awful. It's the difference between: "A client turned me on!" (awesome!) and "A client turned on me!" (oh no!) I thought it was the second one. Ah, language.

Let's hope Canada takes care of their own and sends emergency help, funds and medical care. It may not be a tsunami or tornado, but I sure hope the government sees the crisis and lends the hand here, as it does to so many other nations in crisis. Our poor neighbours! :-(

Before the members here get upset at you for some of your questions I am going to step in with some advise. You should probably spend some time reading past posts here as you would answer all your questions and not offend anyone. You will upset people here with comments like "Is it safe to go down on an SP or make out?". I assume by "Safe" your referring to STD/STI's and this is a silly question to ask that would be offensive to some. If you pick up a lady in a bar or a dating site or just in random it would be no less/more "SAFE" to go down on her. The fact that most SP's always use condoms for sex some would argue that it may statistically be safer but no one can back up claims. The truth of the mater is that anyone can have a STD/STI at any time and not even know it themselves. Educate yourself from HEALTH sites and know your risks (This is a general rule for life). Also, remember that SP's are not looking for "Friends outside of the business" sure it happens at times but don't every expect it. They are running business's and most people like to keep personal lives out of this line of work.

Lawyers are too busy screwing their clients to have time to cheat:) well most of them.

It's a great event, and I attended last year. Good to see a possible date as I will be going to Halifax this summer and will make an effort to attend again.

I absolutely adore this thread. It is so refreshing to see so many fine gentleman gathered in one place. I can only speak for myself, but I genuinely enjoy the time I spend with my clients. Some are absolutely incredible - some less so, but still enjoyable. If I wasn't enjoying myself and feeling as good as my clients, then I shouldn't be doing this. I have always said the moment it stops feeling amazing, and stops being fun - is the moment I quit :) And men - there are some ladies, myself included, who also get off on YOU getting off :) xoxo

So I'm driving home from work, and the guy on the radio comes on about this survey, and I think, I fit in to this survey!! I thought it would be great fodder to see what a CERB survey would produce.... So, where do you fit?? My answers at the bottom!! What does a cheating husband look like? According to a new survey by AshleyMadison.com -- a dating site for married people looking to have affairs -- he's likely in his 40s, been married for over 10 years and has two children over 10 years old. Of the 11,453 fathers surveyed (all of whom have accounts on the website), the largest percentage of would-be cheaters work in the IT/Engineering field, a career that's moved up on the list since placing fifth in 2010's survey. Here's the full round-up of occupations that harbor the most cheating husbands: IT/Engineer (10.6%) Financial Industry (8.2%) Education (6.5%) Doctors (4.6%) Lawyers (3.8%) What about cheating wives? In May, the site polled 2,865 of their married female members and found that the typical cheating married woman was in her 30s, married for five years or less and had a daughter under three years old. She is also likely to be a teacher, a stay-at-home mom or work in the medical industry, according to a representative from Ashleymadison.com I started late 40's. I had 3 kids over 10. I am in the Financial Industry. This is just for fun, so all good comments please!! It should be interesting!!!!!

Watched the movie "Sinister" last night. I enjoyed it and would say it was a good thriller/suspense film. It gave me goosebumps several times (haha), usually a sign of a good flick :)

this question is for hobbyists. do you want to know if your service providers are turned on during sessions? i feel bad for getting turned on sometimes by one of my clients during sessions because its suppose to all about you and making you feel good.

Cat made a post in another thread awhile back which seems germane to this thread. Here it is, copied/pasted and reposted for discussion Thanks Cat for such good contributions And here is the link to the thread http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=59279&highlight=john RG I had a wonderful conversation with an SP and we were discussing the Ontario COA proceedings. She defined hobbyists in a clear, concise manner that I had never considered before. The term "John" implies someone who is intentionally anonymous to the SP. That's where the term John came from. The purchaser is never identified and if there is violence or issue, he is not held accountable because the SP cannot identify him. The term client is applicable to someone that initiates a business relationship with an SP, providing his name and information to verify who he is, thus allowing us to take precautionary steps to ensure our safety. I have always felt there is a huge difference between a client and a John, I simply never defined why. Her clarity was dead on. This article is offensive to me on every level. I don't know where they find these guys or what questions they asked to elicit such responses. cat

I'm 100% a summer person. If I had my way it would snow lightly for a week around Christmas just for the right holiday mood, and be a balmy 25 degree the rest of the year. I don't *quite* hibernate in the winter, but I definitely have more jump in my step when the hot sun is out.

Areez, This does happen from time to time. I understand your frustraton. It hasn't happened to me in a long time. I remember once having a regular provider in Winnipeg. We saw each other every couple of weeks, and then suddenly cancellations started. There was no reason for it. Our relationship was always friendly and professional. As it turned out, there were a lot of things going on in her life, things that made keeping appointments difficult. At the same time, as a regular, I was definitely feeling taken for granted. As if there was an assumption that I could be cancelled on because I would rebook. We'd been seeing each other for well over a year at that point in time. You really have a couple of options. The first is simply to move on. The second is to open a dialogue. I would only suggest this if it is a regular. Simply contact her and say you haven't appreciated the repeated cancellations, but you are somewhat concerned a) that you might have done something to upset her or make her feel uncomfortable or b) that there she might be having problems in her life. Without needing details, you could simply indicate that you would still like to see her, and ask her to contact you when she was better able to keep appointments and see you. If the lady's not a regular though, I'd just move on. Porthos

Atlanta Rhythm Section Imaginary Lovers http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XAOUUx53wwQ RG

Perhaps it's all in the delivery, but I actually often ask who if someone tells me they are waiting for someone. Not because I think it's a lie, but because if she doesn't know you're there or that you're there for her specifically, I can go get her or at least let her know that you're waiting for her. I've had girls do that for me, so it's something I try and do for others as well.

Nice thread! Every1 wants to feel studly even though the majority of sp's wouldn't give us the time of day without the cash. In my lifetime ive had 7 gf;s that would consider me the king of eating pussy but only 2-3 of my 11 or so sp's have been genuinely receptive. I dont take it personally and chaulk it up to the women being "sore". Plus on a onetime encounter its hard to develop a rapport in a measly hour or so. I've been with sps that were completely dismissive (usually the frenchies) and women who made me feel godly and 1 that blew my mind as to how much that I "hopefully" turned her on. Personally I would just prefer honesty and hell despite my age teach me how you like it. being a man were easily pleased and if youre happy we'll be happy.