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My surgery is done. We think the cancer is gone. We'll know for certain in early June. I was released from the hospital this afternoon. Everything went wonderfully. Right now my goals are pretty basic. Things like walking all the way down the block and back. Can't pick up the largest dog for a while. Not driving for a while but that'll come. And as for that Great Diversion that Time and Companionship can bring? That's not going to happen for a little while. When I first get back, it will be in a slightly different manner but, over time, there is reason to believe all things are possible. So play safe, kids. If not before I hope to see you at the next Social!

If ladies wish to share nudes of any sort they will probably be already posted on their website, ads or gallery here. However if sending a nude means getting your business, I think I will pass. As will many others. Yet if you are inquiring about nudes because you are a collector, I'm sure if you help fund a ladies photo shoot, she would have no issue making sure you received the photos you seek. Just for the record, anytime you start a post with, Im sure Ill get flack, it never ends well.

So this guy decided to make a chat profile as a pretty female just to see what it was like. Quite interesting. https://np.reddit.com/r/truecreepyPMs/comments/3298o8/this_is_a_post_that_some_of_you_are_asking_me/

As Brad stated earlier, the OP simply asked if it would be okay to ask, which is one of the purposes of this site, no? To try and better navigate this world and show the people who work in the industry the respect they deserve? It's difficult to do that if you don't seek clarification when you're unsure of the usual boundaries of the business. Once we start condemning people for asking these kinds of questions, we drive the discussion underground. I for one prefer these things to be out in the open, where we can all learn more about them, and hear from people within the industry about not only what they think on the issue, but why. So while it did seem like a no-brainer to me that the majority of sp's would scoff at providing more intimate photos of themselves, I think this is a better site when people are genuine seekers, and not just regurgitating the same info we can all find by reading the stickies.

Oh have any of you seen this? It's a girl who decided to accept every compliment given to her online rather than just brushing it off or downplaying it... the results are equally dismaying... http://www.buzzfeed.com/rossalynwarren/this-is-what-happens-when-women-actually-accept-a-compliment#.lbDZY4vDKj

Well I'm sure the ladies of Lyla are just lining up eagerly awaiting the chance to send you pics on the chance you might give them your business Actually I'm quite sure the ladies do just fine without having to send you pictures at all RG

I'm sure there are many but shouldn't you be more concerned about their credentials rather than their sex appeal? After all, buying a house is a serious transaction and I know many agents and none of them would like their time wasted:)

In my experience, guys who want nu des are tire kickers, collectors or otherwise a complete waste of time. So if you ask for nu des, that is the impression I get. It's not a good first impression to make.

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I hope you didn't take offense to my comments. I was careful to say that I was not referring to your intentions in particular. I have known you to be a respectful commenter in the past and I don't think that there is anything wrong with respectful open discussions. I was therefore trying not to sound judgemental in my response. We "dark siders" have to stick together after all. As a businessman, whenever any question like this is asked, I always go to the immediate question "why would they?". A business is always run on the notion of mutual benefit. Otherwise it is a charity. There may be reasons I have not thought of that it would be adventagious for her. A thank you gift for a regular perhaps. I can't speak for the ladies. It just doesn't seem like there would be much benefit to her in my mind. I guess the answer to the question "is there a correct way to ask this" is: it depends. Some will find the question offensive no matter how you ask. Some may not. Some may even comply. I wouldn't risk it myself with those odds though.

A couple busy but most wonderful days full of so many amazing and wonderful instances and experiences. Lots of laughter to boot!! Blessed indeed!

Thanks. I think it's hard for everyone to remember that bitching often reflects worse on the bitcher than the bitchee. :) And yes the second half is great. Especially as applies to unsolicited advice, which is something I find to be at the top of my list of peeves. As for the article, yeah it is depressing. Women are told that we should have higher self-esteem and that we are all beautiful, but when we start to act like it then we get slammed down again. Ah, what a world, what a world.

when the ladies have photos done, they are done at an expense that runs into the thousands. I know that from experience. A photoshoot costs a lot to have done. On this site, we are not allowed to post those type of photos. We can get close to that, but we do post photos that are in taste, and give an edge of mystery. After all, isn't that what an encounter with any of us ladies is? A mysterious trip to wonderful? There are other sites where those sort of pics are posted, but with c-36 coming into play, most of us have cleared out our websites to conform to these new laws. Guaranteed there are ladies that will send out those pics to you, but in my opinion, it completely takes away the mystery. Just as with clothingless beaches, no mystery. Whereas a scantily clad beauty in a bikini makes you wonder what is under that :-) It isn't that the ladies on here do not want your business, but a lot of us will not send out pics through text/email due to the fact that we have no idea where those pictures will end up. On our sites, and on here, we have control over the pictures. Pictures have been distributed to other areas without our permission, so this way they are controlled.

Wow. That's really depressing. This sort of thing is generally known as "The Greater Internet Fuckwad Theory". Off topic but BTW, Kate, I love your signature. It really made me think about my own behavior. I tend to be a bit 'bitchy' sometimes and talk down about others. Framing it as pumping myself up at their expense puts it into a different perspective. I enjoy the rest of the quote too: "To speak ill of others is a dishonest way of praising ourselves. Nothing is often a good thing to say, and always a clever thing to say." If only I could learn follow the second half as well.

Why not contact CMJ directly to ask them? No better way to hear it "from the horses mouth" is the english expression, no?

I know this has been already mentioned time after time but OMG Please do NOT call/text to book a time and then like 5 minutes before the scheduled time you cancel....I do underatnd that life happens and sometimes it cannot be helped and I do thank you for at least calling to cancel but when it happens frequently from the same person its frustrating and very annoying and defiantly a BIG turn off I am working on ways to deal with and not.deal with this issue ....if you book and cancel.please at least have the decency to pay a.cancellation fee for time wasted thank you xo

The last one is awesome, Royalfun! A great find!! Here's our own lovely Maraena, with thanks and appreciation

These are more like highlights of the week - First, having a fantastic lunch with a hobbyist friend a couple of days ago; we had so much fun interacting with a friendly and beautiful waitress; Yesterday, having a beer and a bite to eat with another hobbyist friend while watching the Masters Golf tournament and a Blue Jays baseball game simultaneously on TVs in a sports bar; Tomorrow, having lunch with a new hobbyist friend whom I have not met before -- we'll have so much to talk about! :icon_biggrin: Life is good!

Being back in Saint John, the sun is shining and the snow is melting :)

I have pretty good abs, if no one minds me saying:)

It would also limit what you could do in your future and where you could go. Just as an example the US would not allow you to travel there if you are identified as a sex worker in Canada, if you had another job and did this part time you would not be able to travel for your work to the US and that would certainly limit many people in their careers. Then of course there would be the many Islamic countries where you could be put at real risk for being a sex worker. Unless of course you think that this information would be kept confidential... but in this day and age that is an increasingly difficult promise for governments to make even if they do believe strongly in the individuals right to privacy and Harper has not been the best advocate for the rights of sex workers nor individual privacy.

I think you're conflating two situations here. There's also an issue with visibility. The ladies (and guys) to whom the new laws make no difference are the indoor workers, especially the independent ones, and their clients. They can still meet and have fun much as they did before. Different aspects of what they're doing may now be technically illegal, but that makes no difference. There are inconveniences (advertizing has become trickier, as has screening) but these can be worked around, especially by an established escort. We hear a lot from those people here, because those people make up the bulk of the population of this board. The harm, as with most laws like this, is visited primarily on those without the resources to work around the laws; in particular, the street workers. I don't suppose advertizing is an issue for them, but screening is another matter entirely; the new laws have made potential clients more nervous, which makes it that much harder for the street worker to make sure she's not getting into a car with the next Robert Pickton. The sex-work organizations are far more cognizant of these problems than the likes of us; in particular, we don't hear from the people most affected by the new laws because they don't post here. I am also unwilling to call it. This will play out over years, not weeks or months. I do not see this, particularly. Sure, there were changes when the new law went into effect, and adjustments will continue to be made, but I don't see anything major. LE continue to do occasional sweeps to generate some headlines and convince the pearl-clutchers that Something Is Being Done, but they did that with the old laws too. There's a lot of bad jobs out there. What you're talking about here is less sex work in particular, and more wholesale changes to society. It's time to make a confession: I'm guilty of exploiting someone else's economic circumstances. I pay a woman, on a regular basis, to do something that I'm ashamed to say I just can't face doing for myself, and which I'd certainly never do for anyone else unless I were truly desperate. I don't know whether she enjoys it, or whether it's what she wants to be doing with her life; I don't know how much of the money I give her she keeps and how much goes to the guy who I call to arrange her visits. She cleans my house.

What annoys me is the myth that addicts, trafficking victims, assholes and predators are the sum total of this industry, or even a majority. A dark side that exists? Absolutely. A significant problem? For sure. The whole story? I still maintain that's crap. Unfortunately there's a significant abolitionist lobby dedicated to propagating that particular lie, and historically they've been ahead of the pro-sex-work organizations in terms of audience and mindshare. But as I said, that's changing, slowly. This is true, but that doesn't mean these things don't happen, or even that they aren't common. It just mean that society doesn't know what's going on. Also true, but it won't happen on its own. That's why the pro-sex-work organizations are so important. But that doesn't mean these stories are the mainstream; all the documentaries prove are that they exist. So why don't we get documentaries about the good stuff and the happy people? Two reasons, I think: the abolitionists have a lead in their propaganda war, and more importantly, a documentary about happy people who are content with their lives makes for really boring television and nobody would watch it. Netflix and cable companies exist to make money; boring documentaries that nobody will watch will get canned. Only if you're trying to do the abolitionists' work for them. What should get the spotlight is the truth, not the outliers that tug at the heartstrings. Alas, the truth is often rather dull as well as being hugely detrimental to the abolitionist lobby's goals, so it gets overlooked. Where to start with this? First: what most sex-work activists are arguing for is not legalization, but decriminalization. There's a big difference. As for the pimps... sure, perhaps they're excited by the prospect of coming out of the shadows, but I'm not sure they've thought this through. They're successful at the moment precisely because of the criminalization of the industry, which has two huge consequences; it keeps many potential entrepreneurs out, thus removing competition for the pimps; and it keeps the women working for them scared to go to anyone who might help them improve their situation. As soon as the industry is either decriminalized or legalized, these advantages vanish; other people will come in to set up agencies and brothels that will give the escorts somewhere else to work, and women who are abused or coerced will be far more willing to report that to LE now that the threat of being prosecuted themselves has been removed. It's not about sweeping anything under the rug; it's about making life better for everyone, especially those who most need it. I fail to see the relevance of this to the present conversation. We're talking about sex work. Nobody has proposed raping children. You could probably get away with throwing out a red herring like that on an abolitionist forum; here, you'll be asked to explain yourself. And thus do a few bad apples screw things up for the majority of decent people. Life is like that.

Does anyone know if Bethany has permanently retired from the business? I see that she has not been on since late November, and her website does not list any availability.

There is comment on the web site of Angels Touch which is favourable, if you like that she is beautiful ( and I agree ) then you should "just do it" and visit her. ;)

I saw this today and am guessing there's a few people here that will be able to appreciate it:

Having a long distance friendship with a lot in common for a while now that just seems like it could go in another direction in the most positive way. :) Posted via Mobile Device

I kind of agree with his theory. A) Guys love their own dicks so why wouldn't someone want to see it? B) Guys want girls to send them nude photos so it seems logical to send them what they think they would want. Honestly, B) is probably behind so many relationship problems in general. People tend to do things for others that they would want done for them. Unfortunately that's often not what what they actually want. I want sex. Wife wants thoughtful little things. She gives me thoughtful little things, I (attempt to) give her sex. Neither of us are happy. If you can crack the code of doing for others what THEY want you to do, you're golden.

And the beat goes on...... Peace MG

Hmmm, isn't it strange how, when an issue of morality or the public good is on the table it causes "grave concern", but when a politician slips their hand into your pocket on a two billion dollar proven ineffectual tax grab, they act decisively and strike like lightening? If someone pointed out the tax benefits of a new and more appropriate law, THEN we might see politicians act.

Well up to a minute ago I was watching TV... now I am anticipating Bianca's trip out east. :) Sent from my Passport using Tapatalk

7 new lyla friends today! Looking forward to getting to know them better.

I find it funny when I read on some review boards that the session felt rushed and she was a clock watcher when they only booked for 15-30-45-60 minutes. I mean, isn't it the time they paid for? If you feel like you need longer not to feel rushed or you would like to spend more time with the lady, by all means, book a longer session. I also think there's a huge difference between someone reserving a lady's time for 30 minutes and finishing on time versus booking an extended dinner date and going over. If I offered sessions of two hours or less, especially the short ones under an hour, I would definitely finish the appointment on time with the expectation of being compensated for the extra time (for example, 30 minutes). Basically, the longer the session booked, the more flexible I am with my time, within reason. Jenny, don't let people intimidate you or push you around by saying you're being a clock watcher.

without kissing seems unnatural to me. Occasionally (VERY occasionally), I meet a guy who doesn't want to kiss and I respect that, but to me it's just a natural part of the whole experience.

I get exactly what you mean but I have to tell you I often have to ask ladies I have seen before to remind me of their rates.... but never location or services. On the rates I confess to not being as good at remembering rates... I will usually check the ladies website if she has one but when they don't I ask. Sent from my Passport using Tapatalk

I have my Habs Jersey all ready to go, in the past couple of years the first series has given us some of the most exciting hockey of all the playoffs, I can see this happening again this year, my remote will get a workout for sure.

Go flames go!!!! So damn excited they are in the playoffs!!!!

Just had a thought. Let's reverse the situation and ask the same question. Would you as a client, who I assume values discretion, send a picture of your face to a complete stranger who may or may not end up meeting you? Be sure to send a pic. everytime you get asked to!

Disrespect is disrespect... I see nothing wrong with asking repeat canceling client to either pay a deposit or pay full in advance. Just my Opinion Sent from my Passport using Tapatalk

I agree, that's just a question that should never be asked to any of the ladies. Not a great way to start an introduction or possibly ruin a relationship and I would even say it's disrespectful. If any particular lady wanted to show nudes, she would, either in her ad or her personal website. So if you don't see any in her ad, etc, that should tell you something right there. So to all of you beautiful ladies out there, thank you for posting the pics that you do. And there's nothing wrong with a bit of mystery now is there! Bottom line, be respectful guys.

From my perspective when this happens unless it was a blatant B&S or there was a dangerous situation or illegal activities ie. money stolen etc then you need to just chalk this up to one of the risks of the hobby and move along. I understand that when things like this happen we hate to feel like someone has taken advantage of us but the reality is there is not that much you can actually do about it. On CERB / Lyla we restrict ourselves with good reasons to an environment that focuses on the positive so with few exceptions this is not a place to air dirty laundry... I think someone suggested that there are other sites where if you were so inclined you could go and freely air your dirty laundry but I would suggest to you that if that is your plan then keep in mind that the reality is that this becomes a "he said" "she said" and those discussions often don't come out positive for either side ... the end result might just be that other ladies who you may want to see may choose to not see you as they don't want to risk a similar situation in their future. The bottom line is there are risks associated with participation by both clients and ladies... ladies see bad client who treat them bad or short pay just like clients see ladies who might act inappropriate.... both need to move on. I am a big believer in Karma... whether it is a client or a lady that acts inappropriately it will ultimately come back to them as our actions represent us in the world and try as we may most people will in the end actually see us for who we really are. Just my Opinion Sent from my Passport using Tapatalk

RG's right. This is not the place to post a bad experience. However, Cowboy's Diary is a fantastic resource in Ottawa for reporting bait&siwtch, ripoffs, etc.

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At the risk of going all Debbie Downer on you... I'm going to anyway. I think that society's current expectations of clients are very low, but this is profoundly connected to society's impressions of sex workers. Unfortunately, the average person's vision of a sex worker is probably very negative. She might be a drug addict working for her pimp/dealer, or a trafficking victim at the mercy of the gang that got her into the country, but the general impression is of someone who is at the mercy of a person (or people) who control her activities, income, and entire life; she's turning tricks for their benefit, and she'll never see any of the proceeds. And that's before you even consider the idea that she may be underage... long story short; she's desperate, on the fringes of society, and she'll do what it takes to earn a few bucks to get her through the next day. That, in turn, feeds society's opinion of the client; he's a guy who just wants to get his rocks off. He doesn't give a damn about the well-being of the provider he sees; he doesn't care where the money goes. And he doesn't care that the girl sucking his cock may be, in the eyes of the law, a child. Society expects him to take what he can get; if he can, he'll rape a provider if he thinks he can get away with it. Long story short: he's an asshole, exploiting the vulnerable, and society expect him to behave as such. Now, everyone reading this post knows damn well that the impressions I've just outlined are absolute crap, and are in no way representative of this industry. Most of the ladies involved are doing exactly what they want to be doing, including a lot of the ones who have entered the country illegally. Most of the clients are, whatever their tastes in terms of age, not looking for someone under the age of majority; most of us would care if we met someone who we felt was being coerced in any way, and a lot of us would make an effort do something about it. Most of the ladies are not on drugs. Most of them are not under the control of anyone, even if they do choose to work for an agency. And most of us are also aware that not all sex workers are female, and not all clients are male. All of these things are... things that society as a whole doesn't get. The fundamental problem is the invisibility of the industry as a whole. I suspect that almost every adult in the country knows folks who are involved in this industry, as either clients or providers; they just don't know it, because none of us have neon signs on our foreheads. These things are changing, slowly; I've noticed over the past few years that sex workers' organizations have become more visible and have begun to get their message across in the mainstream press. This is a long, slow task (think of turning around an oil tanker) but they've made a good start, and people are - slowly - beginning to notice, and get their heads around the idea that there are a lot of sex workers out there who are strong and independent people who are doing exactly what they want to be doing. Clients are still much lower profile, despite being far more numerous, but I hope that will change. The recent changes in the law were designed in part to inhibit that, but I'm optimistic that eventually, reality will shine through. It'll be a long fight, and like many of these fights it'll take a generation or two and the road will be far from smooth. They say that a lie can run around the world before the truth has got its boots on... but when the truth starts kicking, the game's almost over. We'll get there.

Slight hijack... for those guys who don't feel inclined to leave extra in the envelope for whatever reason, writing a reco usually seems to be appreciated. It helps the rest of us out, too :)

I'm sure there's a market for this sort of thing, but I'm not really sure what one would learn from it. I mean, besides the basics such as 'Chapter 1: Locating Your Own Penis' etc. The thing is everybody's different. A sex tutor might teach a man what makes her happy, but that might not be the same thing as what that man's wife wants. So I think what's best is to learn to articulate your sexual preferences, not feel ashamed of them, and not feel like you're being criticized when your partner makes suggestions.