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Some thoughts, in no particular order. Firstly, people come and go all the time. That's the nature of the beast. And when people leave, they don't all go the same way, or for the same reasons. Some simply fade away, either by accident or design; some go cold turkey and quit suddenly. Some like to go out with a bang; some take the time to bid the rest farewell; and some simply exit as quietly as possible. Some want ensure it's hard to come back; some wish to leave the door ajar. All of this is really a personal choice, and I think it's up to us to simply accept and respect the choices that people choose to make. People leave for all sorts of reasons, too. Perhaps they just got bored. Perhaps circumstances changed, or they no longer like the way things are. Some get the boot. Some choose to share their reasons, some don't, some may give some reasons and not others... and, perhaps, some can't say anything at all. When all's said and done, I see little benefit in second-guessing people's reasons for leaving. It's nice when people choose to discuss those reasons - especially the people I care about - but I'm not going to spend a great deal of time speculating on the unknown. Of course, while everyone who leaves is a loss to the community, that community is constantly reinforced by new arrivals, too. There are now-absent voices that I miss, and there are those I never heard... but there are also newer arrivals who add huge value, depth, wisdom, empathy, sexiness, fun and downright silliness to our discussions. On the nature of the discussions we have here: I think there's a very fine balance between the suppression of legitimate, mutually respectful debate, and the suppression of unpleasantness, and I think it's well-nigh impossible for any forum to hit that balance all the time. In fact, given the existence of people who react badly to having their opinions challenged (not pointing fingers, just saying they exist), it may well be impossible to find it at all! And that's before you even begin to consider that many of us might consider the right place for that balance to be in radically different places. All in all, I think Mod makes a pretty good fist of a clearly impossible job. It should also be said that in general, people who don't like the way things are run here - or anywhere else, for that matter - will simply leave. We've had people leave CERB because they didn't like the way the board is run; some because they felt muzzled, some because they felt it was hostile. And I've heard people speak here of other boards that they've left, for similar reasons.

Lol, I had no idea this thread was going around, I really don't check CERB very often except when I'm travelling to Ottawa or Halifax... anyways, I'm glad to be the inspiration for this thread, and I appreciate the kind words that so many of you have said about me. <3 Truth is, I'm extraordinarily lucky in a lot of ways, and I'm always accepted as female without any reservations or questions. I have friends, colleagues, and professors that I've known for years who haven't the slightest clue as to my medical history. Frankly, unless they're going to see me naked, I don't think it's necessary to share the intimate details of my past, so in my day-to-day life (and my activism for the most part) I simply don't bring it up. It's really only relevant to those that I plan to sleep with, and I find it can often become a distraction that takes away from the other issues in the discussion. My anatomy isn't the least bit relevant in regards to my belief that sex work should be entirely decriminalized, and when I talk about the topic in public forums, I'd rather the focus remain on the laws themselves. In terms of my own identity and how I perceive myself, I consider myself a woman first and foremost, with "tgirl" as a subordinate category under the superordinate category of "female". I think of tgirl as a similar term to "lesbian", insofar as both terms refer to a woman of a particular alignment or persuasion, but both fall under the broader category of woman. I really don't like the term "shemale", though, because that's usually meant to mean a person of a "third gender," who identifies as neither male nor female, but somewhere in between. I know that some people use this term to refer to themselves and I certainly respect their right to do so, but it's never felt like the right term for me, and I don't use it to describe myself in any way, shape or form. I'm just a girl with a unique anatomy and unique history, in a unique location on the amazingly-diverse spectrum of sexuality. As for surgery, I think of that as a private issue that I don't really discuss publicly, although I'll go as far to say that it's definitely on my TDL, as soon as the time is right. But in my personal and public life, I'm already accepted as the person I know myself to be, and that's a lot more important to me than my current anatomy. I'm also legally female in every respect, having changed my name and all forms of ID quite some time ago. Fortunately, I don't experience systemic discrimination due to my status, although that's unfortunately not the case for many of my trans friends. As a provider, it's extremely important that all my potential clients are aware of my services before making an appointment, because it's not fair to expect them to have a complete grasp of all the different terminology within the industry. I would feel bad if someone's lack of awareness led them to arrange an appointment where they're expecting a certain service, but not able to enjoy it. I think that's something that all providers should make a priority when arranging a get-together, just for ethical reasons, but for me, it's a safety issue as well. I've been fortunate that none of my unaware clients have ever reacted violently or negatively, but I know it's happened to others who aren't so diligent when making arrangements - and sadly, the law often gives a free pass to those who commit violent acts, and tends to blame the trans person for supposedly acting in a deceptive manner. :( Anyways, I hope that some of what I've written makes sense, and I'm happy to have been the inspiration of this discussion. From the posts above, it seems that at least a few people have expanded their horizons through this post, or at least learned a few new words and won't be likely to experience any unexpected "surprises." ;) Given that my long-term goal is to decrease the stigma experienced by sex workers, I truly feel that providers who are honest about their services and genuine in their approach can only help society view us in a more positive light. By trying to avoid misconceptions, I'm just doing my own little part to make that goal a reality someday, and I love how CERB has so many providers and clients who are doing their part as well. :)

I usually ask for a reference from another independent courtesan in the industry before confirming an appointment. I do this for safety reasons, but also because I trust the women here to look out for me and advocate on my behalf if necessary. Every-time I have asked for a reference, I have received prompt and lovely e-mails, PMs, and messages from the courtesan(s) in question and I've been delighted to hear my perspective client is a respectable gentlemen. Not all references are as beautiful, but that is what screening is all about. I'm very reluctant (in fact, I refuse) to accept references from agencies. More often then not, they don't have the necessary information I need to properly screen my potential patrons. I'm also reluctant because I don't know the woman personally, and often it isn't the provider in question that I will speak to but rather the agency owner/manager. I know not all agencies are like this, but if a service provider asks for a reference from an independent provider, there are usually very good reasons for this. Please respect our wishes and don't provide us with a reference from an agency. I'm not speaking on behalf of all independent ladies on CERB, but I know a lot of us feel similarly. Lately a lot of my perspective clients have offered agencies as references. There are other things we can do to screen and you simply need to ask. This is advice I would like to give to all the newbies out there :) the more experienced gents should know better ;) Fondly, Nat

Change is inevitable. Of late there have been a number of high profile people who have made decisions to either leave Cerb or to adapt their role within the community, and it has caused me to consider again why people do quit and make the decisions that they make. Most recently is WIT, whose leaving I know has left many of us feeling a sense of loss. Less then a week prior to WIT's decision, Spud 271 left. I had met Spud at socials in Ottawa and always enjoyed his humour when we were face to face but I also enjoyed his writing and his posts. Previous to them Pistol Pete chose to limit his participation in Cerb by declining to write threads or comment on threads and restricting himself mostly to reccos. Prior to that stevecurious left and when that happened his departure was for me the first time that when a member announced his leaving that I felt a sense of loss. Steve later reconsidered and has again become a valued member of this community. I am sure there are many others who have left for a whole variety of reasons. First let me say that I am not wishing to delve into the whys and wherefores that may or may not be reasons for which some of our notables have decided of late to leave CERB. I do not want to be speculating or have this thread be used to air speculation. It is a thread that I have had in mind for quite a while but from a purely personal perspective. I know of course of women that have left the board, but will restrict myself in this post to the male side of it, because of the mixed feelings that I have myself, about myself. The rationale for joining and then for leaving is no doubt unique for everyone. I have been a member of CERB since January of 2011. In that relatively short period of time I have seen people come and people go and of course I have seen many a reference to well respected members who were well established on CERB and left before I ever even heard of this board. I have learned many things from CERB, but in reality I have learned many things from the PEOPLE of CERB, as it is the people that make this community what it is. Some will think I am sure that my thinking is ass backwards, but when I think first of what I have learned I think of life lessons, not sexual encounters. I think of stereotypes and how they have been shattered, at least for me. I think of the law and what I have learned and about aspects of the law that I had never even considered previously. I think of the semantics of the business. I think of trans gendered people. I think of respect, both given and received. That list could go on and on and on. My world has changed in the last year and a half, much more than probably most of you can appreciate, and most times I think that it has changed for the better, because of the circumstance that I found myself in. Of course I think about the sex - about the beautiful women that I have met. I think about the very special experiences that I have had, and I have had many. I think about that special `relationship` that I have developed with some of you, both men and women. I think of friends that I have made, and I do consider them friends. And I think of quitting. I did quit once, about three months after I started here. That quit lasted for all of twenty four hours. As soon as I wrote it, as soon as I stated it publicly not in a thread but in one of the social groups, as soon as I clicked on submit, I knew that I had made a mistake. The mistake was that I did not have a plan in place of what it is that I would do to replace the void that Cerb had been filling for me. So, I reversed that decision, really fast, and have been here ever since. So why then do I continue to consider quitting? Reality is a huge issue. What is real? What is fantasy? What is role playing? What is make believe and what is illusion? You know what, that can become very confusing for a client. I am real. I honestly think that I act and write and behave in the Cerb world both online and in person as I do in the rest of my world. I am not used to interacting with people for whom that is not also true, but I know that I do here, very commonly, and for me that is the Catch 22, because that is probably a fundamental truth/requirement of the business, and oh yes indeed, I do know that this is a business. There are many threads on this aspect of Cerb already. I said above that I have broken out of my stereotypes, and that is largely true, however the one big one that I have NOT broken is the feeling that I must have something "wrong" with me for paying such large sums of money for social companionship, and for me it is the social companionship that I have cherished the most. What is most curious is that I don't feel that way at all about any other male member of CERB, only towards myself. It causes me to question myself, which I suppose is a good thing ultimately. I am old fashioned, and yup, probably old too. I am not going to take up the bar scene and be picking up women in that way. Reality check. It just isn't going to happen. I am not asking women out on 'dates' in the non-Cerb world for fear that that would be construed as a desire for or have the potential for a long term relationship. That's the old fashioned part of me. So I might leave CERB in a heartbeat if I had a solution to my dilemma but I do not have a solution, I don't see a solution and until I do then here I shall remain, as it has been an awesome experience and an awesome community for me to be a part of. Another fundamental reality is that for each of us there will be a time to leave that is the right time for us. Our reasons to be here are unique to each of us and when we decide to leave those reasons will also be our own. WIT and Spud and so many before them have their reasons and whatever the reasons are they are valid for them. I am just throwing this post out there in large part for myself as writing often helps me to clarify thoughts in my head. Perhaps some of it resonates with others and perhaps most of it is unique to me. It is just that at the moment as I see people choosing to leave Cerb it causes me to wonder about whether their thinking is in some ways in line with my own or rather whether it truly is a unique individual decision that each of us makes for our own unique and individual reasons. I am not quitting Cerb. At least not today.

From my own perspective and that is what I exactly have done. I continue to keep in touch with those, that share a common ground and are good friends. I really don't have a lot to respond to other issues anymore as those issues have been discussed very thoroughly in the past and have become repetitive over my time. Things have been more calm in the past in my opinion only. I think a good portion of people are doing just that, scaling down. I simply rather not get into long discussions that could flame up, it is not worth it in my books and I rather say hello to the ladies, enjoy their albums and get to know them on a personal basis,...... after all that is why I'm here. ;) If people decide to pull the plug, that is their own decision and I support that move,I decided just to stay out of any discussions and give back in some regard to the community> with recommendations. I did say back in 2011 I was not going to post anymore, but fellow friends that enjoyed my input into women that I had the pleasure with wanted me to stick around, guess I was easily influenced ;) Again from my own point of view, I just scaled back and stay clear of any touchy subjects, as I'm here to meet friends create friendship not hardship, that has never been my personality. There was issues a while back, but it seems that (and hopefully) it has disappeared from here. That said, I enjoy chatting to those ladies from past, and now present AND really want to get to know them on a more personal level:) I think keeping a low profile is for the better, well in my case anyways.

I will echo what Phaedrus said. In my experience, great chemistry is something that is felt by both, such that it doesn't need to be expressed in words. It's not an issue of special treatment- having a good connection is its own reward.

Actually I think most people don't. I have noticed a few people seemingly "disappear" without a formal announcement and then when you start to wonder why you haven't seen a post or received a PM from them in so long and look at their profile you realize they have left us. Announced departures aside for a minute I think the "problem" is much bigger than we know until we start digging. That's why I think this thread has merit, not to lament WIT or Spud's departure (a big loss for sure and they will be surely be missed and most members have no idea why) but that can't be changed and everyone that wanted to got a chance to wish them well on other threads. A case in point: I logged into one of the other CERB like boards and there was so much negativity I only went back once or twice and then not since. Here we have (or had - perspective) a community of regular members (for now) that are very knowledgeable and helpful, outstanding in fact by comparison. Something not found elsewhere (or I haven't found it elsewhere).

I have discussed it with him and I fully understand why he is leaving thanks!

Where to begin? Well let me explain my situation as it relates to your question both now and THEN. To begin let me assure you all that I attempted to write a thorough and well balanced statement that reflected my beliefs while being contrasted with theory and possibly speculation but nonetheless a fact based response. However, the more I attempted to write said piece the more I kept coming back to the honest truth of the matter, truth as it relates to me and my situation. I left for the simple reason that the board dynamic had become hostile and toxic to the point that the only threads I felt comfortable in responding to were the "funny game" type threads. Threads where responses couldn't be twisted and controversy was easily avoided. At the time I had attempted to justify (to myself) that the reason I was leaving was due to a recent bad experience, lack of interest, time, etc. but in reality it was the atmosphere of Cerb at the time! I no longer had the urge or desire to contribute. I lacked the motivation to read and/or respond to threads. To be honest I felt as though we had to walk on eggshells lest we say something that was even remotely taken out of context. Yes, the envrionment that I had been accustomed to was no more. It seemed as though the self righteous had inherited the earth sort of speak. At that point it was time to leave as quite frankly I am on Cerb to get f$&ked...not get f$&ked over online. My departure was close at hand! I will not get into the details of who or what caused these changes as that topic has been discussed and dealt with in other threads and other places. I will say that the environment here on the board in recent months has been much, much better and I hope it continues to be this way for a long, long time! We all have our reasons and while I can not speak for anyone else listed in your thread I can and will speak for myself. I left for the reasons I stated above and I returned when I heard Mod was starting to address this situation. So let me wish all the departed members best of luck and let me also say thank you and goodbye...your contributions will be missed. If you wish to reconsider the porch light will be kept burning and to those who may never return we will respect your wishes by not speculating or prying into YOUR reasons. Please don't take this response as an attempt to pick a fight or be catty as I answered mrrnice2 in the only way that I know...honestly!

IMHO, CERB is best used as a knowledge base, and for some Q&A, about the Hobby and sex in general, mixed with a little chatroom spontaneity and of course, generous helpings of humour - ignoring the insecure jealousy of pretentious egotism and the clique, while being mindful of the selfish greedy underbelly of the industry and people in general. CERB is not unique as a forum re: high contributing members leaving due to the lowering quality of overall participation, as the sense of community dies and no longer holds the return on value it once did to be a frequent participant here. (This is a trend across the web and many forums; an evolution of live and learn, if you will.) In general anywhere online or off, without a moderated balance of the rules being applied equally to everyone, it doesn't take long before people continually become marginalized as part of the popularity contest de jour rather than maintinaing "...if you don't have anything nice to say... Please don't say anything at all" (as I once read somewhere). Ironic sometimes how hard it is to find maturity in the 'adult' business sometimes. (Now, of course, like everything in life, we all have our moments - just some people have more moments than others.) Tis the life of trying to mask a capitalistic profit machine as a caring and sharing community. Welcome to the Internet. ...but quit CERB?? No TY - just use it for what it's worth. ...even if it's only to check a schedule, enjoy some photos, find a phone number and have a quick chat to see if luck be a lady tonight ;) As they say: It's not the size that matters, but how one uses it. Enjoy CERB in whatever way it floats your boat :) Largely or smallly.

I'm sure there would be many providers who would be happy to give you a free kick in the balls if you asked them for birthday freebies!

Thought this could be fun, for us food passionate people! Every dinner I make I try to create flavor, presentation, healthy balance, color, and at times a new challenge. Tonight's dinner is: Scallop and shrimp skewers. Dressed red pepper, mini portabello, Spanish onion, zucchini. Brushed with olive oil and herbs then straight to the BBQ:) Served with wild rice, with mixed lentil! So what's for dinner tonight??

Sometimes, when I'm feeling down in the dumps, I boil some potatoes and mash them with cream (18%) and butter. I eat the potatoes directly out of the pot. My comfort food is anything high in starch. Potatoes and pasta make me incredibly happy. I'm curious because I know a lot of people have weird comfort foods ;)

Well Gia...as I look at your georgous avatar and I look in the mirror here.....I suspect our choices of comfort foods perhaps is the difference ! Your body has the yummy curves in all the "right places" Mine just has curves sort of....areas on my body that accumulate burgers and bacon sandwiches and stuff ;)

I have been fortunate to have the chance to do this. Key is Connection! I am big on the connection at any time...but for an overnight it is critical. And if you are comfortable, know each other, and have that connection...anything you would need to discuss comes easy. Enjoy. Cub Posted via Mobile Device

I think that's an apt description of YMMV. I have had some memorable encounters where, for whatever the reason, the SP and I "clicked", which made the session so much more than the basic physical encounter. Another hobbyist may not have the same experience because that emotional connection was not there. At the most basic level, an encounter is an interaction between two individuals - if you change one of the individuals, you change the whole encounter.

I've met some really nice women so far. And most of my encounters were a lot of fun. The one's that I enjoyed the most were where there was more talking about common interest and kissing and cuddling and some post session emails communications. I'm not looking for a personal relationship, but like to see regular girls that really do care about me as a person and not as just a paying client. The sessions become more fun and relaxed as you get to know each other. It's an expensive hobby and I can only afford to see so many women per year and would like to go see women that I have a connection with as I find meeting new women hard as I am shy. Not as shy as I used to be, but still shy. And usually need a second session to be more comfortable with them. I guess I find it hard to judge if there is a genuine connection, because the SP's are all so nice :).

Gotta agree, lingerie style stockings are an absolute turn-on (and a regular request of mine). A matching garter belt is just icing on the proverbial cake. Add a matching thong and bra, and it makes everything right with the world. Can't say I like opaque tights, too thick and "heavy". The don't allow you to see what's underneath. Sheer stockings all the way!

Also be wary of terms like "party like a rockstar". In some circles that means they like to indulge in a certain type of drug.

Not a dumb question and I've seen different meanins but the main one is when a girl calls herself a ''partygirl'' is that she has no issues with drugs/alcohol being used throughout the call Be cautious for this experience because as aware this is a mood altering substances and yuo cant be guaranteed the same experience as a sober SP

I couldn't have said it better. It's definitely a polyamorous lifestyle and when safety is concerned, there is no room for jealously, or possessiveness. I'm sorry this had been your experience emd3750.

I may be in the minority here but I prefer a 30 minute appointmen for that first meeting that way if we don't click there is no awkwardness, if we do click then we can extend the sessiion or book longer next time. Thankfully I can count on half a hand encounters where we didn't click. Also some providers are great at the physical aspect of an encounter, but aren't comfortable with the social conversational aspects of a session, providng a 30 minute session may well be within her comfort zone.while it takes the same amount of time and care to prepare for a longer apointment as it does a half hour. There is likely a market for it as some gents may not be seeking the social aspects of an encounter and would prefer the option. Its important however for gents to respect the providers who choose not to offer 30 minute sessions. We are lucky to live in a socitey where we have a variety of choices and options t choose from that meet out emotional, financial and physical needs!

Homemade pizza, piled high with way too many toppings. Chicken wings with a blazing hot sauce. An egg, bacon or sausage and cheese sandwich made on a croissant or bagel.

I think a 45 min option would ideal for me. I'm not looking for f/s or a msog opportunity plus I'm not that interesting :) On that basis I do look for 30 min options as well. Peace MG

@backrubman http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JSmGjB-G6v8 Additional Comments: So I just freed myself from iPhone and iTunes... I got myself a Google Galaxy Nexus and I'm updating it manually to the latest release, Jellybean. I think Android is for the more techno savvy users who like to tinker and hack... and that's why I favour Android over Apple.

Amelia, I visited Charlottetown for the first time in May and I had the opportunity to meet some very fine gentlemen. Not only were the gentlemen a real treat but it is definitely worth taking the time to visit the island too. I know I really enjoyed myself when I was there and I plan on going back as soon as I have the chance!

Gentlemen I never had the chance to meet with Sierra on her trip here but I have met her in the past and she is a gem! If/when she returns you owe it to yourself to meet her...as do I come to think of it! I would post a link to my recos. for Sierra, as I have with other ladies in this thread, but they were early in my posting career and therefore not my finest work.

I should be a little more clear about my post. I WILL be going back for sure, I may not have made as much money I could have made by taking a trip somewhere else. But it was well worth the trip both financially and for the amount of fun I had.

Downtown for sure! Lots to do within walking distance when you are not taking appointments. Gotta think of having "me" time as well!

Dont want to sound dumb but what is B&S?

Haha! I cannot believe you asked that lol.. In my case I would be completely offended if you asked me for a freebie due to it being your birthday if I did not know you. If that was the case all my clients would have birthdays on regular basis lol.. Im sure as someone already noted that if you were a regular then maybe a slight decrease in price but free?? Nah,not something I would do.

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I'm going to cheat againLOL Gerry Rafferty-Baker Street RG

Yes decision to leave (and lets not forget about some come backs too) is personal and every departure is a loss for cerb and the community. I have had my share of ups and downs on cerb too. It was a time that I was so addicted to this board that logging on to cerb replaced all other entertainments for me like TV or movies and then there was a time that I didn't wish to even hear the board name because it reminded me of hurt feelings and stressful time (and I have enough of that at work lol so thank you). The end result for me was to quit cerb and have a long break was among those who later decided to come back (as a non-poster initially) just to test the water and see how it will go. Bearing in mind (as I mentioned) that every departure especially at elite membership level is a big loss for the board, the community and the industry, we, as individuals have a responsibility and obligation too, to do our best and our share to make the environment here on cerb friendly and pleasant. We must refrain from hostile debates or posts or be too opinionated and worse (God forbid) make personal attacks on other members who may hold different views or different likes or dislikes. After all it is the variety of our lives, looks and views that makes us all humans rather than programmed robots. We must do whatever we can to make cerb such a great and pleasant place to be so that the community grow larger and stronger by attracting new memberships and returning (active) members.

I expect this will be a continuing thread. Things change, people change, folks move on. The way of the world. I wouldn't fret about it. Peace MG

Mrnice, I am sure I will not be the only one to say, you presence here would be greatly missed!!! I am not sure contributing financially is not all that we look for in an outstanding member such as yourself! I mean....your post and advice, caring nature and just simply being a friend is cause enough to stay! Correct me if I am wrong....or out of line, but I think it was me whom you first had an encounter with, and yet we have not been romantic since that time. Honestly, I would miss your presence here, not your money! To be a member is so much more than just money, it is about community, about support and helping each other whereas we can not just ask anybody or talk to just anybody about this underworld culture. But in the end, it is about being fulfilled, having fun, and it gives you something in return....which I think you do benefit from meeting and experiencing things you may otherwise may have not? Either way, I consider you as true friend, with or without cerb, I hope to continue our friendship?

First Mr Nice2 glad you are not quitting. But maybe a break or a re-evaluation of why you are here is in order My reason for joining CERB. Well I've done the dating thing, but it didn't work out for me. The two women who were close to being "the ones", well turned out they weren't. Other women I dated, some broke up with me, and some I broke up with. But long story short, I'm was in my late 40's and not married in spite of actively dating, I finally gave up the effort But I liked the companionship of women. I heard about these women called escorts LOL. Maybe seeing them instead of dating was what I should do. Hit Google, do a search, found CERB (along with some other sites) Tried the sites including CERB, found I liked the positive atmosphere here, stayed with CERB, dumped the rest. Through CERB I learned the in's and out's of this lifestyle and in a little over two years have gone from a newbie to someone experienced in this lifestyle. I've also met many great and beautiful ladies, and enjoyed their companionship. Especially enjoyed the no strings aspect of the companionship. Knowing that if you like and enjoy a lady's company, you can always schedule another encounter and see her again. But if you didn't click, well you can part ways with no worries about a phone call(s) the next day. And knowing, at least for me, that's the extent of emotional commitment The most emotion I have with a lady is liking and respecting her, and hopefully at the most the same her for me. No risk of complicated emotional entanglements in this lifestyle, no risk of a lady being jealous if you see another lady. And the best, no risk of the hurt that comes from a break-up. For me, this has turned out to be the ideal lifestyle, much better than dating. And it filled a void in my life At this point in time, this lifestyle, and CERB are ideal for me. Do I see myself leaving. Right now, no. Do I see me stopping this lifestyle. For now, no. The future, well no one knows what the future holds. But for now, I'm staying on CERB and continuing to meet many great ladies, some I haven't met yet, and others who's companionship I really liked and would like to continue to see. This lifestyle suits my life, this board supports this lifestyle, if that makes sense As for those who have left. Everyone has their own reason for being here, and for leaving. They will be missed when they leave, but we only wish them the best. And the door is always open to them to come back if they so choose RG

You will be missed greatly. You have helped me personally a great deal over the years and I always valued your opinion and contributions, i hate to see you go and hope one day you come back (your always welcome back). Best wishes.

Definitely phone ahead. It is a private residence.

Had an incredible week. So much glitter. So many beautiful people! "Some days the world can be the greatest place on earth." -Gordon Downie

Last night I had an appointment with a well reviewed SP from PK. I arrived at the hotel only to find that there was a dog in the room. I'm highly allergic and had to leave immediately. The SP was gracious and understanding. However I did think that all agencies should mention this upon booking. I always ask indies working out of their homes about pets. I never thought that this would happen with a reputable agency that uses hotels. Anyways it was a real waste of my time and it was too late to go to a Plan B as the agency no longer was answering calls.

WIT. I read your announcement first with a sense of shock and then with a sense of personal sadness, and how selfish of me that those two emotions were about me thinking of myself before you and your rationale. However, they are there and real. Your participation on this board since I arrived almost a year and a half ago has been a grounding force for me and I am certain for many others. To have people who are that grounding force and who are the voices of reason is very important to me and to many of us. Your contributions in so very many areas have been significant. It is people such as you who have helped me educate myself on many of the issues that are both prominent and also those that are under the surface and never even considered previously. I have also been a reader of many of your recommendations and it is clear to me that your involvement with CERB has helped you to expand your horizons and gain experiences that otherwise may not have happened, and certainly might not have happened in the way that they did- with intelligent, respectful, open and classy women. Each and every person has their reasons for participating in CERB and ultimately their reasons for deciding to depart. I have learned to respect the various reasons that people have for becoming involved and I shall equally respect those who choose to leave this community, whatever their reasons may be. You have made many things clear for us, and one thing that has been obviously apparent with virtually everything that you have written is your wisdom and your thoughtfulness. I am sure that you have considered this decision prior to starting this thread and I shall not attempt to convince you of an alternate course. As with all things pertaining to WIT, you are the sole decision maker. That being said, this rather insignificant voice of experience knows that the ability to reconsider is not a fault but is rather a positive and should you decide to rejoin this community tomorrow, next week, next month or next year in any capacity, then many many many of us would welcome you with open arms. I am even more personally pleased that I was able to meet you at the social in Halifax recently, and if and when there is another then I know that regardless of anything else that you would be heartily welcomed. It is my personal pleasure to have been able to learn from you and to have had the privilege of shaking your hand in a face to face meeting. Take Care my friend, and should you wish to maintain contact outside of CERB, then you and I do have a number of mutual friends who can send you my personal email address.

Trans-- or transgender is an umbrella term, used to describe a variety of individuals whose gender expression or gender identity differs from their sex assigned at birth. Really, a google search would help. This is a good place to start: http://www.apa.org/topics/sexuality/transgender.aspx Also, because it's cute and making the rounds of Facebook:

The only way I could imagine a lady doing this is if perhaps if you were a regular client who came to see her consistently at so many intervals for at least a year or more. I don't think it's polite to see someone a few times and then expect something for free just because it's your birthday (or any other type of anniversary). But even then, it would be up to her. I think it would be extremely rude to ask a lady for a freebie of any kind.

I though that most knew but i came the conclusion that not all know what it mean. I personally give severals options of booking..one is to provide your handle if you have a posting history instead of full name..To my surprise over 6people this week no posts choose that option which i had to tell them that need to have an history to be acceptable as screening information i accept. It mean you have to have made some post on the board,reviews...Long good standing member VJ

Spinner-what he said..lol..a tiny petite woman...usually young MA-massage attentdant YMMV-has nothing to do with YOUR looks..it means you may not get the excate same service as someone else...not a bad thing...example-some guys might get bbbj and some guys maynot...some may be able to cum several times some may not. It depends on the service your loking for really and the lady you choose. To receive the best service possiable no matter who you are and what you look like the main thing is to be Clean, polite and follow your ladies of choice rules..which is usually done before the appointment. Most have them listed on their website.

I would recommend, if you're bringing your own condoms to an encounter, to bring them in the unopened box. And let her know before the encounter. That way, if she is still not comfortable with you bringing your own, she may be willing to go and purchase your preferred brand.

Martina from Calgary/Edmonton/Toronto/Winnipeg :bowdown::bowdown::bowdown: just look at her bum...yummy