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In light of a recent post concerning a member going through the toughest part of life-losing a loved one. I thought I would start a thread that hopefully will help those of us going through or who have gone through the grieving process. I realize this is a tough and personal subject as we all grieve differently but in the hopes that this thread will bring comfort to some I ask you to share your ways of getting through the grieving process. In my time of need I wrote alot of poetry, went on alot on very long walks, talked alot to friends, family, to anyone who would listen. I just tried to keep busy because when I found myself alone or still I would feel to much pain. This thread is meant to support those who have lost a loved one-human or pet-love is love.

OK maybe not my life but........ So I decided a little while ago that I would contribute a post on my experience as a newbie, learning the ropes as a hobbyist in the escort biz. My initial thought was that I would wait until I had a few experiences before I wrote it. As this is not a recommendation post, i changed my mind and thought it would be best to do it a soon as I can after my first experience. I'm hoping this may help other Newbies but remember, as is our pursuit of the SP/MA on this site, my experiences, needs, desires may vary from yours. So for a couple of years now, I've been online looking around. I'm married and never really knew what i wanted to do. First I went to a few sites that are supposed to be adult oriented hook up sites. Even ones that are geared to the married crowd. None of these sites seemed to pan out. The last year or so, I starting looking at BP and the escort section. I saw some very nice ads but I was always concerned with what was actually out there. I hear things from shows or around. Guys making appointments, showing up, beaten up for their money or not getting what or who they wanted, ect. Also I had a poor perception of this The other issue is always money. For the most part I can be on a tight budget. Bills, Kids and my other hobbies come first. However, recently, my desire to pursue this really increased. I starting looking at BP more thouroughly. Still some of those nagging concerns were there. But as I looked around, i started taking notice of a couple of SPs who mentioned CERB. I didn't know exactly what it was but I didn't feel like going to yet another site. Maybe a couple of weeks later, I finally said, screw it what is this CERB Well if that wasn't the best move ever. I jumped right in. Created that membership, looked around, read what I could. I learned a great deal. More importantly, I started to feel more comfortable.The reviews, Cowboys Diary even made me more comfortable with BP. So the concern is still monetary. I can't usually just drop $200-$300. At the same time, I'm not looking for the quickie $80-$100 rates either. This hobby is expensive. (Just a quick note: I have no issue with what a SP charges. It's a Niche market with security risk ect and you are more than welcome to set your desired rate, what you feel comfortable doing an so on. But my ability to pay those rates can be a challange. A challange I hope I can overcome on a semi regualr basis) Now luck would have it that it is tax season and I got back a chunk of change. Another issue is finding the time. Between work, family time, playing hockey ect, when could I get away. Well it isn't as big an issue as i make it out to be but I can't just go and see a SP when ever I feel like it (ie I'm really horny). I had big plans/dreams for this. Take some of that new found money and try and see 4 or 5 or 6 SPs in the next month or so. I also added a new weekly budget item to raise the funds on a regular basis. We call it the well encrypted "Misc" fund. Well plans don't always work out the way you want them. First off daddy needs a new set of golf clubs. So you see, I'm in a bind. I can't see all the girls I wanted to. I think I'm actually a really nice guy. I feel bad that I may choose this SP but not that SP. It is really difficult. Now money still may play a part in my selection. There is a range that most of the SPs seem to have. Usually no more than an $80 difference. The $300 and up range is too much for me. There are a couple I wouldn't mind seeing so one day, I may save up for them but there are too many SP's at a better rate. that way I can see more So finally the day is coming. I have my excuse to get away and now I have to decide which one. Certainly I have my own insecuriities. I am over weight (Although being tall and a bit athletic I've been told I carry it well ;) ). Also a little hairy. I know this is a service industry but I still am a bit shy about my looks. But as I look around and see reviews, I finally set up the time and day. So the one thing i am worried about now is the whole built up anticipation. In my own fantasy world, I picture this going a certain way. (And I'm sure I thought I would be god like). Well reality never matches fantasy. I'm going to be disappointed or worse, she is. Well I had to give myself a good talking too. Go in, relax, enjoy the hour for what it is, not what you fantasize it to be. Finally, just know, she will take good care of you I won't go into any details about my first encounter except to say that it was everything I could hope it would be. (And I'm pretty sure I was god like ;) ) My only problem now is, do I continue with the slightly too large list of SP's I want to meet or do I just keep going back to the same one because it was awesome

I scrub my entire body once a week with a homemade mix of organic olive and coconut oil, brown sugar and essential oils of my choice. It literally makes your skin glow, silky to touch, flawless and make it look 5 years younger. The oil nourishes your skin and the sugar scrubs it, while the essential oils bring a therapeutic effect. I told this to one of my gent, and now to every visit this is our ritual to mutually scrub our body :) We go in my huge roman tub, light the candles and put Buddah Bar music in the background. The view of our bodies covered in oil under this subtle and warm light is quite exciting. The body-to-body massage is a pure delight! Once we are done, our skin is really sensitive from the exfoliation, which enhances every kisses and caresses. Mmmm! My favorite essential oils for this type of sensual play are a mix of ylang-ylang, sandalwood, coriander, orange and black pepper.

My best prank happened to be the one I pulled this morning here on cerb. I'm still laughing at how many people fell for it! lol http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?p=443243#post443243

Aside from hobbying and masturbation, what is your secret indulgence of all time? My secret indulgence is watching the "The Real Housewives" series. Not just one... all of them and I never miss an episode. I admit it now! LOL!

In early September 2012, there was a point that I actually thought that post 5000 was never going to happen. In fact, I wasn't really sure that morning would happen, at least for me. Labour Day weekend is supposed to be eventful. It's when we say goodbye to summer and get ready for the colder months ahead. Pack away the summer stuff and bring out the long sleeves. Close down the cottage. Make plans for the air conditioner and the patio furniture. My labour day weekend began with a sense of draining. I had no energy. Walking was an effort. A shower required a nap after. Drying my hair took my breath away. I knew something was wrong, but my stubbornness said, "sleep it off, it's been a tough summer and you are just run down." It was more than that. I had a major heart attack. It was weird... no sudden chest grasping pain... just a sense of draining... like superman with kryptonite. That's when CERB stepped up. I mean it. CERB saved my life. Isabella Gia and Barrhaven Woody came over and took me to the hospital. They waited with me in the waiting room and stayed there until they knew I was being cared for. But it didn't stop there. I was in hospital for a week. Woody came to visit. Isabella came to visit and then came again with home cooked food. Cat and one of her kittens came to see me daily. Bethany, Phaedrus, Luxe and Alger all came bearing cups of coffee, muffins and most importantly, love. Alger left work early to come and pick me up at the hospital to take me home. When I got there, Boomer and Mister T had made food and left it in my fridge. Angela had gone to get my prescriptions. There were messages from Annessa, Nicolette, Gabriella, Samantha, EMB, Meg, Sara, Malika and Dorinda... and a very special message from Amelia ;) I was in tears. You have no idea how much I love my CERB people. It's more than that though. My CERB people are not just relegated to a small hidden part of my life. They are central. I am actually tearing up writing this... but they are happy tears... I have had so many visitors and so many messages It's hard to mention everyone... dammit. There are so many people that have made a difference and still make a difference in my life. You all make a difference whether you think so or not. So to everyone I have mentioned above and these few more, I give my thanks, my love and my friendship. Areez, Wendigo, Jazzitup, The General, AreJayEll, Lee Richards, Andy of Halifax, Toine, Spud, Notch, RG, Melly, Touch, RoyalFun, Scott, Steve, Silverado, Lone Skater, Mr Nice ... great guys. The best. Passion Vitto, Julie Wilde, Georgiana, Nathalie, Sami, Nikki Thomas, Emily, Emma, Cindy, Peachy, Soleil, Penelope, Katherine, Sophia, Alyssa, Cleo, Jasmine J, Jazy, Kimmy, Evelyne, Kianna, Chantal, Claire, Berlin, Alexxandria, Shortcake, GeGe, Alanna, Kerri, Ava ... damn... there are so many.... but you ladies in particular fill my life with joy every day. I wish I could write the name of every person that has made this time less difficult.... but threads have a finite amount of space... and I am getting sleepy. If I missed a name it wasn't out of spite... it's because I am old. Anyhow... this thread is for you. You have made my life worth living in these past few months and years... you make me smile, you make me laugh and you make me want to share a bit of myself with all of you. And I am going to say it, unabashedly, unashamed and without any hesitation. I love all of you.

As a new member I have to agree with Wellie and Isabella. Being new on a site does not make you un-trustworthy as is implied. I have just found this site today and do not know anyone on here. How do I build my Lyla reputation up without it taking forever? Still new to this so please feel free to reply with any helpful info.

I am surprised this is still going on and on and on.... After I read Emilys' blog, I didn't need to read anymore on the subject. She is eloquent and insightful.

Hi Jenni First, welcome to CERB and joining our community :-) To build your reputation, contribute to the various threads. Make posts, participate. It is a way for people to get to know you. And remember,not everyone agrees on everything, but as long as your posts are respectful, and positive contributions you'll do fine. Also, don't sweat the reputation points, you'll find as long as your making positive contributions, you'll get points, either from getting a post nominated, or receiving a comment/reputation point or getting thanks Good luck And again, welcome to the CERB community RG

I'm okay with the "Hi" text but please don't text me at 1 am after you have woken me up. You really want to think I'm going to carry on a convo half asleep and pissed off? This happened last night and took me forever to go back to sleep even though I had the phone on silent. I could hear the vibration where it was charging on the floor. If you're texting me "Hi", please ask if it's the lady you're look for and then get straight to the point if you have questions or would like to book an appt.. I don't mean this in a rude way but sometimes we are doing other things and contrary to what some people might believe, we don't sit around looking pretty all day waiting for someone to call us. I don't like each individual text of "Do you offer this?" and then 10 other texts with a laundry list of services. This is so time consuming you just may as well call me but some guys just do this to waste an SP's time. Then those guys are branded as a WOT in my eyes. For those who actually do want an appt, just getting to the point is the best way.

And if you want an interactive, super hot duo....me and Nicolette! :)

For my skin this..... For the big head this...... clean shaven ........ For my other head down there this ..... and this ;)

Going to Randall's later tonight to look through a gazillion wall paper books to choose some wall paper for my new place!!!!!! I am talking real excitment :milleunenuit:

There is also Nicolette Vaughn-she is in Orleans too :) http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=127680

Nope, there's something about waxing that makes me cringe. That said, I do keep the boys shaved real nice and clean. Been shaving the fellas for quite a few years now and have not had any accidents or injuries. I use a high quality disposable and a nice heavy shave gel. Then, after the shower, moisturize the area with a good skin lotion. Presto! Nice soft smooth skin :) I recommend shaving around 12 to 24 hours in advance of a session, and usually do it the day before. Why? I like to shave nice and close, and inevitably you will cause some skin abrasion or some miniscule nicking and damage, which you might not even notice. Giving some time allows the skin to heal over nicely, which gives me some added piece of mind in terms of any skin-on-skin contact, like when she has my balls in her mouth. :) Word of caution about moisturizing the area.. If you do so, make sure you shower again BEFORE your intimate time with the lady. Some years ago, I learned that some moisturizers contain enough oil base to cause condom failure!! After the second time this happened, I realized that the residual moisturizer was causing condom breakage. Thankfully we had no bad health consequences, but it was a lesson for me.

Good Hygiene always makes for a very nice time. Good Hygiene + Manscaping = My clients hitting the absolute highest mark on my YMMV scale. Always makes for an awesome time.

If I may interject, I love manscaping! Makes for better blowjobs. Hehe. And for razor burn or those pesky itchy red bumps, there is a product called "Bikini Zone" that works wonders.

I met with this wonderful lady for the first time this weekend. Wow, she is truly amazing! I seemed to have been on a run with younger girls lately and I think I had forgotten how nice it is to spend time with a mature, intelligent lady who really knows how to treat a client. We started with a very relaxed, get to know each other while we enjoyed coffee, moved on to an incredible session in the bedroom and then followed up by more great unrushed conversation. A repeat is definitely in the cards.

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Soliel and Emily are well worth seeing. Giterdun

The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything they just make the most of everything that comes along their way. Never allow someone to be your priority while you're just their option.

Perhaps you should direct these providers to the STI health nurse or experts. I can't remember the last time any expert said to not use lube in the condom, in fact everything I had read or seen says that it is recommended. It helps not just with sensation, but helps the integrity of the condom to not get breakage. I can't imagine an sp not finding out the facts about this. What they can NOT use is oils or oil based lotions in this manner. Additional Comments: I was also going to say that the topic originally was about bbbjs in general, and also about asking do sps feel pressured to provide them. I take this also to apply to sps who provide them due to this pressure as well as sps who do not provide them being pestered for them even after they have said it is not available. If every second enquiry is asking if bbbjs are available, any sp is eventually going to figure out that if the answer was 'yes' every time, she'd most likely get more appointments. It also reminded me, when someone said that cbjs should cost less than bbbjs, well, here's the thing, out here at least. bj only sessions tend to be not just the cheapest service available, they are most often done bbbj. 40 bucks, 50, maybe 60, come in, get off, get out. So how much less is a cbj only session supposed to cost? Another thought came to me reading some of the comments here, which basically is if you as a client do not want an sp to provide bbbjs only because she feels pressured to do so (not that she would ever let you know that), then stop asking for them. When you contact her, don't ask, just accept what is provided. If she offers it, turn her down and ask for a cbj. If you really are uncomfortable with an sp's motives for providing any higher risk activity, then be that guy who doesn't do it, doesn't ask for it, doesn't accept it. See what happens. And fwiw, lets see what happens to the laws around prostitution in Canada. Licensing is getting to be more common, regulations of the business may not be far behind. If/when that happens, you can bet the number one thing covered by regulations is Occupational Health and Safety, and there is no way that uncovered services of any kind is going to be allowed, meaning only that if it is it won't be advertised and it won't be something people can ask for before showing up for the appointment. (given that services that are not permitted will likely still be available that is, what should change is what is in ads)

I value my health too much to want anything bare backed and would prefer a provider that has the same attitude. I think there is a growing complacency about STDs in society.

Reading old dogs thread got me thinking if men like it when woman are well groomed down there, how about for us men? Ladies what do you think men should do? Men what is your experience? I'll admit from the waist down got my fair share of hair. So from time to time I trim it, just to keep it short. I find hygienically its better especially once you start to sweet. Only around my manhood. I've shaved it all off a few time but damn it itches when It grows a bit. Not to mention in groaned hair omg that can be painful. Shaving it all can take some skill. I won't shave the balls, I'll trim it but not use a razor. Did it once cut it and omg not a place to have a small cut on. I suppose waxing may be an option but I hear that can make a groaned man cry.

CH, I think Touch of Euphoria is CMJ's outcall service.

You're the best Emily We are so lucky to have you return to our city again and again.

I have to say I am entirely addicted to the Housewives series also. Aside from that though, I am an addrenaline junky, lol. Anything that will scare me at first and I cant wait to do again after is definitely my indulgance.

My secret indulgence is going to the spa and being pampered. I love relaxing having a relaxation or hot stone massage, or a pedicure and relaxing afterward with a nice glass of wine or herbal tea.

I watched Desperate Housewives, still watch Grey's Anatomy and have watched Young and Restless off and on for 30 years and now you know so I am going to have to kill ALL of you !!!! ;)

Well Nicki, my masturbation is not much of a secret. But sometimes when I`m alone driving I listen to Yanni.

Guys who continuously text you saying "will 100 get me anything?". Listen, you don't really know what you will get for 100. I've been polite, even added humour. However, to keep pursuing it, get a life!

Awesome! Do you have extras?

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Well i don't have a enough experience here to comment fully but I will say this. When starting out and researching I did get the hint (Like a hammer over the head) that the beautiful women of this site do not like to negogiate. I totally respect that and will always plan my visits according to what the SP offers and what it costs. That being said, I would hazard a guess that maybe sometimes us hobbyist don't feel like participating in all the services available. Maybe a nice relaxing 1 hr session with a BJ or 69 is in order. But we should continue to respect the SP/MAs time buy paying what her menu states. If you just want a BJ at a discounted price go look for soemone that offers that (usually see that on BP) Again this is just my humble, inexperinced opinion. (Although thanks to the original poster, no longer a newbie ;) )

Buffy Lee at Massage 21. Excellent massage!!!!

More plane tickets.....

Well done Christy, keep em coming.

Crystal Light singles drink mix

Keep Posting :)

I'm with you cristycurves, ' high heel platforms ' are my pick too...they so sexy, and me closed toe for the record! For some foot lovers, not seeing her toes heightens the turn on... Hearing seeing a beautiful woman in heels coming down the hall, whether at work, at the mall... catches my eye...and in private, keep em on baby doll ...and let me remove them!

Gina gives awesome massages. And yes, she's advertizing as a SP at the moment, but she does MA sessions too, I think.

I appreciate your points and agree spaying and neuturing would solve alot but rehabilitating feral dogs is possible and so is taming a wolf, it's been done.A dog is a dog not a wolf, wild or not. I've also seen this done with wild horses. Working with something feral takes the right trainer, time and a whole lot of patience. But it can be done. Especially if you can get them as pups. But I don't want to argue that point, we all have our beliefs and opinions, my problem is with how these animals are being destroyed, there has to be a better, more humane way.Thanks for your post and reply.

I like EMIAFISH because he is such a diligent, good-natured supporter of CERB's active posters/contributors.

I don't even know why what others do sexually has become a concern. I understand wanting to inform one another about the risks of some sex acts, but I think the best and only person we all should be discussing this with is our doctors. They should be the ones to inform me/you as to all the risks involved with all sex practices you/me participate in. To be concerned about what others are doing is impractical, unproductive and pointless, you can't control it. It's like wanting everyone to drive the speed limit each time you get into your car- you can want and wish but it's not going to cause it to happen. The best we all can do is get tested appropriately, be very open with your md about how many people you do engage with and decide what risks you and your partner are willing to take. Other than that I really don't see the point in being concerned with what anyone else is doing.:icon_biggrin:But thats just how I see it.

Fresh (right off the boat) tuna and swordfish (one of the beauties of living in NL and being connected) for the grill tomorrow. Paired with the right wine it's gonna be awesome!

I just wanted to take the time to chime into this thread.....the hot tub getaway room is an amazing experience....there was a lot of thought and time put into this room....it features a hot tub,wall to wall mirrors,overized custom shower,inroom sink and fireplace for your enjoyment....please note that we are very particular on cleanliness....the hot tub is checked daily and the appropriate chemicals are added....the hot tub has built in lighting to set a relaxing ambiance....our hot tub is also very therapeutic...it features massage jets that losing up your muscles to promote the best massage experience .....we also do regular water changes....and we do have 2 rules in this room....number 1 everyone to please shower before entering the tub and number 2 no funny business in the tub....we want to keep the tub clean and ask everyone to respect the rules in order to ensure a clean hot tub...our spa is also inspected by the City of Ottawa Health Department on a yearly basics to ensure health and safety for the public.

You are not over-reacting. There is enormous pressure on paid companions at every price point to provide bareback full service (BBFS). Many of us have been talking about this all fall and winter. We're concerned about the women who are being pressured into it for fear of having fewer clients. I think it began with the trend to pressure women into providing uncovered BJs. Many companions believe this isn't safe. Others are willing to take the risks, since HIV is not associated with it because the HIV virus is too fragile to live in a human throat. However, there is a new strain of gonorrhea that isn't curable and gonorrhea will live very happily in the throat, undetected, for months or more. Some companions offer bbbjs but not to completion, or they don't swallow. Everyone makes decisions based on her assessment of the risks, including the prevalence of particular infections in her city. But full service is a completely different matter. In Vancouver, it's available from a lot of street-based workers. My understanding is that it's an option in some of the Asian micro-brothels where the ladies have come in to work for a few months. I don't know why people think this is safe. It makes no sense to me. But I have had prospective clients offer me two or three times my hourly rate or more to accommodate them. I'm sure that they will eventually find someone who will agree to it. I work to support myself and my family. To take care of our lives. I won't put my life at risk!

Lucky for us .. he can never leave that one behind lol ;)

Common courtesy online. Is it so hard to send a quick email (or text) to thank someone for providing information?