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  1. 7 points
    I understand that you're feeling impatient and want answers to your questions, as well as some tips and strategies about how to do things. Every question you've asked about the law is answered, several times, in the Legal discussion and most are referred to extensively in other areas, as well. For the most part, the best information comes from established, long-time members of the board so pay particular attention to their posts. When it comes to things like strategies for working outcalls, transportation, etc., those are important considerations and most are also discussed on the boards, here. Frankly, the best way for you to learn how to deal with these things would be to start with a good agency. Since you've not said where you are, it will be difficult for anyone here to make a recommendation in your area. Please don't take offense at what I'm going to say, but this part of your post is likely to be considered deeply insulting, not only to many of the ladies here, but also to many of the gentlemen as well. One critical thing that you need to understand is that the best so-called "high end" paid companions defend and are protective of women who work outdoors and those who have health problems and addictions. You won't find much tolerance on this board for denigrating any SP, anywhere, because of her looks or personal habits. We do discuss safer sex all the time and while we generally advise prospective clients to seek companionship from a reputable independent or a good agency, we don't put down women who, for many serious and difficult reasons, face so many challenges that they must work in compromising conditions. Your assumption that many companions offer poor quality and/or unsafe encounters is troubling. I don't know which sex workers' blogs you have been reading, or where you get your information, but as someone who has worked as an independent for many years, both in Toronto and in Vancouver, what you describe is not my experience, anywhere. No one should have to engage in activities she deems to be unsafe. Ever. I have to say, though, that I think your problems will have to do with not knowing how to screen potential clients and not knowing how to manage the volume of requests you would receive as a "new girl." These are also reasons to begin to work with a good agency. Starting out as an independent is tempting, but it's frequently a very bad idea. Yes, you'll make less per call with an agency. But you'll also have lower expenses and you'll be working with people who do know what they're doing and how the industry works. You need that knowledge and expertise behind you and, frankly, you don't have it yet. Without it, you will inevitably get into trouble. Are you aware that this statement verges on hostility? If you truly believe these things, I have to say that you don't really understand what the misconceptions and myths about the sex trade are. Speaking for myself, I have been a paid companion for over a decade. I have never engaged in any activity that I felt was unsafe--assuming, that is, that you're referring to things that increase one's potential for exposure to STIs. I'm also old enough to be your mother. I have never considered myself to be in competition with anyone. I work hard and I make a good living. I attribute my success to accepting the realities of this profession, to identifying my particular market niche and serving it very well, and to gaining the respect of my colleagues. That last thing--the respect of colleagues--is essential. If you do decide to work as a paid companion, no one, no matter how well-meaning or close to you, will understand what your life is really like. You will need the support and care of other companions so that you can stay safe, make good decisions and get support when things go wrong. No one ever avoids having things go wrong, regardless of what they may say. But there are ways to avoid some problems that you may not even imagine exist and there are ways to manage the things that you can't avoid. In general, we don't discuss these things in public forums. You will need to gain others' support in order to have access to this information. If you're just investigating this as an option, I would recommend that you find something else or some other way to take care of your problems. The sex trade is not the right thing for most women. If you're seriously considering becoming a paid companion, my advice is to step back, take some calming breaths and clear your mind. Only a minute percentage of women enter the sex trade because it's their ideal, intended career path. Nearly everyone has had some significant problem in her life and suddenly needs to earn a lot of money fairly quickly. In other words, most don't start out in the best frame of heart and mind. You can still do it, but you need to be careful, you need to be thoughtful and you need to learn to listen. An arrogant attitude will be a liability. Over-confidence is a mask for fear that prevents addressing the things that cause fear to begin with.
  2. 6 points
    This post is intended to gently educate those who contact me and after getting rates and info say " that much just for HJ?" NO IT IS NOT THE RATE FOR HJ, my sessions are full treatments that are skilled and for the whole duration of the time spent. You are booking the whole experience, no just what happens in the last 20 min! If you come in, and only have the end on your mind, you are going to miss the point:( The point being, time and place to feel pampered, aroused and to inspire the touch sensation that one may crave whilst not having to "go all the way". Just as when you are booking a GFE encounter, you are going to experience the many different hosting activities, including companionship, attention, sensuality, her personality and entertainment. NOT what happens only in the sac! It is about the whole experience from beginning to end. I hope that this helps you to understand, as it is disheartening for me to hear" that much JUST for HJ?" As it discredits the hard work, education and skill involved with this type of service:( Perhaps if you try it, you will see it much much more than JUST a HJ;)
  3. 6 points
    I beg to differ with the hapless (hopeless) caller she references. He is not paying anything for the HJ. Yes, you read that right. No charge for the HJ. He is, however, paying for her time and attention. If he pays for an hour and chooses to only go for the HJ, that's his choice. Had he chosen additional activities during that hour the price remains the same. Personally, I believe the erstwhile fine women of CERB should tack on an extra $10 for each stupid and insensitive question/statement.
  4. 4 points
    It says alot about a persons character when they step up to the plate without needing to . Thank you to those, who after the year and a half plus since I've been here, who have given their advice, offered their assitance and instuction when I am trying to figure out how to post or tripping over my tongue or just sending their kind words you all should know your kindnesses have helped reafirm my faith in people, strengthened my self confidence, made me feel like I belong and they will always be appreciated and remembered:icon_biggrin:
  5. 4 points
    Found this video on the Internet. Wow, so powerful! Tell me if it does not inspire you and make you feel emotional ... at least those who practise yoga like Nathalie may find it gratifying. https://www.facebook.com/video/embed?video_id=140388716121847" Enjoy.
  6. 3 points
    Thru a pharmacy with a doctor's prescription Selling pharmaceuticals without a prescription is illegal On another note have you given l-argentine a try. It is not RX, helps circulation and for some people like me does the trick...and much cheaper than viagara Can buy it at GNC RG Additional Comments: Remember doctor has to also look at patient's family health history My family has a history of stroke, so viagara is contra indicated even though I have'nt had a stroke RG
  7. 3 points
    I believe that would be illegal, and we don't promote illegal things here on the board.
  8. 3 points
    Ahhhhhh, thanks NJ and congratulations to you too and our friend Phaedrus! Naughty, naughty Angela... I love the way you think! A MMF with these two sexy guys? Who could ever say no to that? It would be quite the celebration party!
  9. 3 points
    Some will say that - it's a miracle that he lost 140 lbs in 10 months. But the truth is, like you said, it was his determination! It was not only the weight loss, but he could run again! That was amazing after the doctors told him he would never walk again unassisted! This is something which will stick with me forever - Never underestimate What you can accomplish When you believe in yourself
  10. 2 points
    To Cyclo: I really hate to hijack on this thread, but I would caution the OP or any lady to heed to your advice. Although I am sure well meaning, some or actually a lot of what you are saying can be challenged. For example, I would beg to differ that the SP should NOT reveal the name of her hotel the day before, but general area of the city she is staying in, eg downtown hotel east west of the Canal. Even saying Lyon Street would be a dead give-away. I would also encourage the SP to have a working cell which if not published on her website or ad, she can give out to the client via email and if she isn't comfortable giving it out until she has a feel for him, insist on his number and a specific time she can call him or he can call her to speak to him in person, so she has a voice to go with the email. Then I would suggest she get him to call her back on that cell when he is at the hotel, then she can give him the room number. To communicate solely by email or even text (which sometime fail) without a call-back number between the two parties is a recipe for disaster and not part of a good safety screening procedure. There are many different screening methods, and I personally do not book/confirm any appointments until I have spoken to the gentleman at least 1 hour prior to the appointment and I never give out my exact location until the client confirms he is in the area. But that's me. Also, there is no need to call the money "a donation" because sex for money is not illegal in Canada and this is a business transaction and there should be no shame in discussing the business part at the beginning of the session. This is how discrepancies arise when the parties refuse to discuss the fee and sometimes the envelope ends up being short. There are ways to handle things with tact that don't have to come off as cold. And the telephone is not a public place, so unless you are standing outside beside a crowd of people discussing your business, you are afforded the right to privacy and can speak freely. By the way, in the "old days" we most did outcalls to residences and I rarely had problems with people hiding in the closet or others home. The only reason why most ladies don't do outcalls to residences now days is a lot of people don't have landlines and it's virtually impossible to verify/confirm someone to their address if all they have is a cell phone. At least that's why I don't do as many. Oh, and I don't head out after midnight or accept invitations from impaired people or go to sketchy neighbourhoods. To the OP: Anyways, I think I've said enough to make my point, that when asking advice, you need to be careful who you ask and what they tell you. Don't believe everything you hear or read. Even after more than 15 years in this industry, I am still learning.
  11. 2 points
    re: extra 10, made me lol. I did have a persistent caller at one time, always calling, never showing up even after booking and before the days of --60 to block nuisance callers. By the 3rd or 4th call asking rates, I added 20 bucks. Then the 6th call, I added another 20. Today, just for you, the rate will be $160 for that, lol. Hey I thought it was only 120. It is, but that was 5 phone calls ago and 3 no shows, even when you said you are 6 blocks away. Next time it will be 180, then 200, and so on. re: just a hj, yes, it is about more than just a hj. And this goes back to the push for time based services over service based rates. When I started it was 100 for just a hj, 150 for just a cbj, and 200 for just a FS, all of those service based rates were expected to take place under half an hour and one shot
  12. 2 points
    Hey there... I am fairly new to the business & If your looking for some sweet attention or affection ill be sure to satisfy you 100% with pleasure... I give a very good massage and I offer full nude body slides...I am super easy to talk to and have an extremely bubbly personality. Come enjoy my tight body and beautiful assets, while I make you feel relaxed, turned on and glad you came.... Feel free to check out my profile and my pictures! SCHEDULE: Monday, Feb 25 9am-9pm Tuesday, Feb 26 9am-9pm Thursday, Feb 28 9am-11pm Call 613-820-8887 to book an appointment
  13. 2 points
    I haven't learned anything yet today. However, I woke up this morning and realized that if I opened my eyes, I would learn a lot of valuable things from my day of laziness yesterday. Here's the story... I went out with a friend on Saturday night and had a fantastic time. We went out for dinner, saw a show at the NAC, went out for a few drinks... Eventually, our adventure led us to Bare Fax, a strip-club in the market of Ottawa, where dances were purchased and kisses were had by all. We stayed till close. When we arrived at my place, we had a 'living room dance party' listening to Queen, Supertramp, and The Beatles. We also listened to a little bit of Blink 182, Offspring, and Our Lady Peace (say what?). Weird, I know, but so (oh so) perfect. Suffice it to say, we went to bed at 6am. I spent most of the day sleeping and watching Nikita yesterday. I saw the e-mails pile up, the homework sitting on my desk, I saw my calendar and all the things I need to get done this week and thought "oh well, I'll do it tomorrow". Well, I woke up today and realized it's all manageable, and that one night of epic adventures and fun provided me with something my homework can't: happiness. I also learned that when I don't do my work, it's not the end of the world! Like I said, I'll just do it today.
  14. 2 points
    All I want right now is for this snow to melt so I can take my motorcycle out for a ride.
  15. 2 points
    Awesome thread, Angela! I finally learned the proper way to spell HOBBYIST. :biggrin: This had eluded me for a while now. I was about 90% sure this was how it was spelled, but people are always spelling it other ways too... so I was second guessing it sometimes. I finally thought to google it today to put it to rest. So, there it is: HOBBYIST. Get it straight, people. :vf:
  16. 2 points
    I own this exact pussy pump!! ;) hehe It is fun for sure.. but mostly as a novelty. It puffs up the whole area nicely and it also slightly heightens sensitivity temporarily because of the increased blood flow. As for a "clit enlarging system" the first thing that actually popped into my head was DATY! lol. That will always create a nice big sweet engorged love button. At least for me it does. I love my clit... It's a good decent size, and easy to find. Always comes out to say hello! :cooter: I am positive that none of these penis enlargement spam scams work. I actually talked about penis size recently on my blog. Between penis enlargement and labia reduction, I wish everyone would just love their genitals as is! :)
  17. 2 points
    Having to put up an ad I really didn't want to but felt like I was left with little choice because of special circumstances...
  18. 2 points
    Size is definitely not the most important thing. And men who are equipped like famous porn stars actually have a lot of difficulty finding partners who can accommodate them. Girth is less a problem, provided that the woman is relaxed and there`s plenty of lubrication, but length can be a serious issue. Moderately deep thrusting can collide with an ovary which is like getting kicked in the balls. There`s less variety for positions, etc. Men who are under-sized do have problems, but these guys are rare. While they may have difficulty with intercourse sometimes and may also have trouble finding the right condom that will stay on, an undersized penis can still reach orgasm with the right stimulation. The things that matter most of all are to have patience, be creative, employ a kind and gentle sense of humour and to remember that pleasure takes many forms. What works for you is what works, period. Don`t make comparisons between what others say is true for them and what feels good for you. You are the one that matters.
  19. 2 points
    Christian Bale is not Batman. Morgan Freeman is not God. Angelina Jolie is not Lara Croft. Jane Smith from Nepean is not really the sultry Alotta Fagina, although like Batman, God and Lara Croft, she is a carefully crafted role executed to the highest standards. Men get to see the persona named Alotta Fagina because that is the entity with whom she is willing to share. Jane from Nepean remains cloistered. While Alotta lounges on a chaise wearing satin, silk, and chiffon sipping champagne with impeccable makeup, Jane is at home sleeping on her couch wearing track pants and a t-shirt with paint stains. While Alotta is a capricious bon vivant, Jane worries about her cable bill, her condo fees and her mortgage payment. She hopes her car will last at least two more years. When the lines gets blurred, the role changes. Like many of you, Alotta wishes anonymity when she reverts to Jane. She may be a sister, an aunt, a daughter, a mother or perhaps a wife. She has taken risks not unlike our own; her private life is her refuge - a place not to be breached unless invitation is offered. Enjoy the company of your provider. The intimacy you share is magical. Just remember that when you are finished, you BOTH get to return to your other lives.
  20. 2 points
    There is a variety of woman. Feel free to go there and look through the photos at the desk. The ladies range in age, ethnicity, and size as the buisness is well run with gentlemen's desires and comfort in mind. I worked their for several years, (no longer employed their) but it is a clean establishment, you get the time you are paying for, no rushing. There are different ladies day and night. And they also vary daily. If you don't see someone who catches your eye, try again on another day or shift. You should have no problem finding a lady who interests you. Hope that helps.
  21. 1 point
    Gents (and Ladies) Here's another newbie question but probably everyone is interested to see what you think on this topic. Obviously all of us are aware of the notion of tipping for great service received, however tipping often has customary practices that are unique to the surrounding circumstances. What are the 'best practices' re: tipping in the SP space? For example... - always tip except in the face of worse possible service (like tipping in a restaurant) - only tip if the service was 'blow you away' good (Not a BJ pun!) - never tip because the donations are "all inclusive" (this would seem unlikely to me) And lastly, is tipping generally percentage based (like a waiter or a cab) or a fixed amount based, or whatever you think it was worth based? Sorry to bring up money when so many more fun topics are at hand, but these Ladies deserve Best Practice and personally, I definitely do not want to miss the mark on this important point. Thanks in advance for all of your thoughts.
  22. 1 point
    To those guys that insist on asking if I am a cop, I want you to think about your question. If I was an undercover cop, would I tell you the truth and say Yes? If I was an undercover cop and you wanted me to kill your wife for money, if you asked me if I was a cop, would I tell you the truth? No, of course not, I would lie and say I am not a cop. Touching my breasts would only give you an assault charge if she was a cop. I think you need to realize that if you are worried that your sp is a cop, dont discuss business in public, dont pick her up on the street corner or a hotel lobby. I am not a lawyer, but my understand of the law in Canada is that if you are not soliciting in public, if everything is being conducted behind closed doors in a private place, you are ok. Not sure if others are noticing an increase in these types of questions, but I just have to shake my head. Cops lie all the time, especially those that are undercover. Just incase you are wondering, no I am not a cop, I am not an undercover police officer or any other combination. I am just a sp who works alone, will never work for an agency and trying to makie some money on something I love doing. I only advertise on CERB and will never do a call in public (ie, your car is very public), or in the washroom of your local restaurant etc... Have a great day!
  23. 1 point
    I searched for a thread on this topic and surprisingly couldn't find one, and it's definitely one that (sadly) needs to be addressed. Lately, I have been hearing some appalling things from ladies I speak to: and that is, some gentlemen have been sharing information about ladies location. I am just floored that someone would think this is information to share. Where a lady works from, whether it is an apartment/condo/house/hotel, is information that should always remain private. If you see a lady in an apartment/condo, and happen to have seen another lady in the same building: it's NOT your business to tell either of them that the other lady is in the same building as they are. If you see a lady in a hotel where you've seen others: it's not your business to tell her that 'so-and-so lady' also works from that hotel. If your buddy works close to a lady, and you want to recommend her: maybe say that she's works very close...but do NOT say 'Hey she works in the building right next to you!' Many women work out of their home. This is their private life. And even if they rent a separate work apartment, or work in a hotel, it is not up to you to disclose this information to anyone, ever. Telling other people puts her safety at stake. And could put her in compromising or embarrassing situations. The ONLY way you should know where a lady works from is when she tells you herself. Please, always remember what business we are in. Discretion is the ultimate key to happy, safe, encounters. There is never a need to share someone's personal information with others. Thank you.
  24. 1 point
    I thought she had retired? Anyway, she's been gone awhile but was back. Kind of packed on a few pounds but still has her terrific bolt-ons and has lost none of her talent as a masseuse. Had a fun time chatting and fooling around a bit in the tub. When we got out she gave me a really good massage. She is definitely the best girl they have ever had at giving massages...I hate it when you get stuck with some lazy girl! Ashley is the best, no doubt! Enjoyed playing with her bust, they may be man-made but still very fine. She made sure I had a happy ending, Russian and CBJ. Very nice girl, I really like her. Absolute sweetheart. Tip=room rate+. I don't know if she's just doing this on a casual or regular basis. Didn't ask because it might come across the wrong way. I'm stuck on Lacey but if she isn't around I'd go with Ashley for sure.
  25. 1 point
    When I used to be in a band and played at parties I would come to the microphone just before we were to take a break and announce this to the crowd " Ok. everyone we will take five, be back in ten, see you in fifteen" and everyone would say WTF!
  26. 1 point
  27. 1 point
    Which is why in the future, I totally see myself providing such a service. As a seasoned SP, and admin. assistant for over 20 years, I know I could add value to someone's business. I do believe the SP should make some sort of contact herself with the client before seeing them, but there are all kinds of peripheral and logistical details that an assistant can take care (especially with travelling ladies or in the case of a shared in-call and who knows one day a brothel) that would free the SP up for other things. Which is why if you do choose to hire an assistant, you need to have something you click with, who you trust, who knows the business and can make decisions on your behalf if need be based on your ethics and desires. It could work, but has to be the right fit and not something many ladies want to gamble on their livelihood.
  28. 1 point
    Come get a relaxing massage by a hot little vixen xoxo About me- Sexy petite 20 year old with long red hair, sparkling green eyes! Out going, bubbly and ready to rock your world!! Providing- Flirty and dirty relaxation massage Soapy sexy showers Reverse massages Body slides- Duo massages(4 hands, 2girls) Hotub session9s & you'll leave happy. Schedule TODAY: 10-11 Rates- Single Massage 30mins: $50 45mins: $60 60mins: $80 Hot Tub Sessions 30mins: $70 45mins: $85 60mins: $100 Duo Massage rates also available upon request Location- 65 Bentley, Clean & cozy Contact-To book an appointment please send me a PM
  29. 1 point
    Finger play in the ass +Lubed up ass=Effen Good!
  30. 1 point
    DONT GIVE UP! Love this, I just watched it and have streams of tears down my face! Tears of joy for that man, but also for ALL the ppl in my life that claim they just can't do it! Nothing works if you dont try!
  31. 1 point
    Good morning sexy boys I woke up feeling extra sexy today, I want to touch tease and treat you. lets play. I offer full nude erotic massage, body slides that will blow your mind and a massage that will melt you like butter. I love talking dirty so prepare to be astonished.
  32. 1 point
  33. 1 point
    She used to work at EB and has been independent for a few years. I wanted to taste the forbidden fruit that I never got at EB... Her incall is in St James, as far as I know she's the only one in that area. Sabrina is quite tall, maybe 5'9" or 10" and very slim, almost skinny. She has a body most 18 year olds would kill for, let alone someone in their mid thirties. She explained that they aren't in her pics for privacy reasons: she has a LOT of tattoos. This took me by surprise, she never had any at EB? But she still has her huge porn-star titties! So it all evens out eh? She's not a really chatty or dominant girl as far as I saw. And the EB training sure showed, towel on the bed, massage, fun after. Massage was so-so, but she made up for it with a pretty good time in bed. Yes, it was as good as I'd imagined at EB, worth every penny. A bit cold, not a girl to fall in love with, but for NSA sex, she's perfect. She plays safe and despite her bad-girl appearance with the tats seems like a real nice girl next door, or MILF next door. Guys who have fantasies about biker chicks would LOVE her. One of the top ten girls in Winnipeg.
  34. 1 point
    ...is for Old Dog to go to bed and get a proper's night rest because he has a long drive ahead of him tomorrow. oh and to find a bacon sandwich somewhere.
  35. 1 point
    ... is world peace, the end of global hunger and a bacon sandwich.
  36. 1 point
    All I want right now is a big thick penis!:biggrin:
  37. 1 point
    Is to find my phone charger.
  38. 1 point
    Shower show... Literally a working shower head, and it serves many purposes... To rinse off whipped cream and chocolate sauce to name a few. Appears to be scheduled at midnight on Friday and Saturday.
  39. 1 point
    This service is super popular with webcam models! I'd cruise the cam sites personally. I know there are girls who offer this.
  40. 1 point
    Whew. It's not really SPAM made from penisesesessessusses... although they might have interesting graphics on the can. For something completely different yet ironically related, a can of spotted dick:
  41. 1 point
    I wish all of the best to Maria. I will miss her dearly
  42. 1 point
    I am bumping this thread because I was just reminded by Angela on another thread of something related to this that I learned about the other day too. Of course if you go to the City of Ottawa Sexual Health Centre or any of it's satellite clinics, you can get free condoms... and as many as you want! Last time they gave me a full industrial box... It was like 150 condoms - lol. Obviously it was because of my work... But they do have basically an endless supply for the general population too, and anyone who wants them. Now they have a new program where you can have condoms mailed to you, completely free of charge! www.sexitsmart.com I realize this won't apply to everyone... but I think it's a great idea and good to know! Tell your friends! ;)
  43. 1 point
    Everyone has a first time! Having references makes screening faster and easier for us, but there are usually other ways. Tell the companion you've chosen that it's your first time and that you don't have references but that you're willing to provide other information. She may ask for your real name, to verify your employment, to have a telephone conversation, or for you to provide a non-refundable deposit, or some combination of these or other options. If you've chosen an established companion, you can be sure that your privacy and confidentiality will be guaranteed. She's just wanting to be sure that you're a real person, that you're not wasting her time and that you'll actually show up for the meeting once it's been scheduled. Have fun!
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  45. 1 point
    You are very right, the ultimate blowjob IS very subjective because everyone likes something different. The trick is to not only find a lady who absolutely adores having a hard cock in her mouth but can also adapt herself to your cues or learn what you like. To me, the better question is on techniques not who provides. Then it becomes more a question of who has a good reputation for loving what they do and who does it the way I want it done. Only my opinion....never been on the receiving end of a blow job (dang) but have seen lots of preferences.
  46. 1 point
    She is the real deal hot little 20 yr old with a spinner body and great service/attitude
  47. 1 point
    Well this certainly makes sense and I think I'll print it out. Being an SP for about 8 months you learn something new all the time. Everything you mentioned I do, and Ive only had less than a handful of no shows. I was just confused about the slowness. It kind of shook my confidence a little until it was somewhat explained to me. The thought of the negativeness was just something I was throwing out there. Thank you for taking the time and effort to create such a post. May I suggest you sticky it in the Newbie Section as it is very clear. :D
  48. 1 point
    This is a very common thing with the ladies... Always looking for the "Reason" the business gets slow at times and always looking for answers as to why they get no shows and cancellation more at different times of the year. Most NO SHOWS can be stopped by screening your calls properly. Use the Caller ID and CALL BACK the number to verify it. Most guys will not pull a NO SHOW on someone without having the decency to call and properly cancel if you have their number. They know that come appointment time one very upset SP is going to give them a call asking WTF! It's not 100% but it sure helps for those who screen calls. It also makes the call a little more safer as that phone number is now a connection between the guy and the lady... I doubt someone dangerous is going to want to leave a number that can be traced back to them. Most of the ladies look for reasons when things are slow. I guess most of us do that when the business we are in takes a drop in sales/traffic/work load/etc.... You can spend a good portion of your day trying to figure this one out but it's not really worth the effort. It's WAY easier to just plan for these lows (Put some money aside for the slow periods) and just accept that this is part of EVERY business and it will happen. Stop stressing out and trying to point a finger at what you think is causing the slowness as your just going to convince yourself of something that is probably not correct. We have been tracking patterns in this industry since 1996 and the answer for this is... (Drum roll please)... It has no pattern EXCEPT for a few obvious LOW spots. 1) The end of Aug is SLOW every year! (Kids out of school, getting ready to go back to school, family summer vacations, etc...) This is the most popular summer weekend in the tourist industry!! 2) 1 week before and 1 week after Xmass (No need to explain this one right?) New years day too? NOT... 3) January/February for 2 weeks every year (We sum this up to winter blues and getting your credit card statements from Xmass! but we never know what two weeks it will be but for sure 2 weeks around this time it does drop... one year we did not see this and come April we saw a real low drop for 2 weeks and that was obvious weather patterns (Long winter/early spring ... warm winter/cold spring etc...) it does effect this business and you never know when this is coming exactly... so just put some cash aside for these times. 4) First nice weekend of spring (A lot of the ladies take this time off too) 5) Thanksgiving, Easter, Valentines, long weekends, really large sporting events (etc)... they also effect the business. The rest has NO identifiable pattern. You can try to blame it on the economy as a low economy brings more people into this business causing more competition and the overall amount of "Recreational money" the guys have gets a lot smaller so yes the economy does effect it but a low economy BUT it also brings more guys (New guys) in to the mix as well so it's not hit as hard as one would assume. Remember money and sex are the two big things couples fight about... When the economy drops and the money gets tight the stress levels go up, the fighting between couples goes up and the sex stops!! FACT OF LIFE... and I hate to admit it but that is good for this business for all you ladies!! When economy starts to get good again business will decrease a little at first! It's OPPOSITE of what everyone ASSUMES! As for NO SHOWS... This time of year it will obviously be higher. Kids are still home from school, Family vacations, relatives coming for visits, back to school shopping, etc.. etc... and all those people taking time OFF work for family vacations makes other people have to work more (Overtime to cover shifts, higher work loads, etc) it's all relevant.... A lot of LAST MINUTE things come up this time of the year for the "Family Man" and well... kids and family (for most people) come first so recreational visits take a back seat so stuff will get canceled more this time of year. Picture this... The guy is all ready to come see the lady he has chosen and the door bell rings and it's his brother or uncle or who knows who just "DROPS BY" for a visit... URH!? Probably with his annoying kids and wife... (Many of us have been in similar situations) This happens EVERY YEAR... Come September 17th (Or around that time) once the kids are back in school and the routine is back... things will pick up. Summer sucks as a lot more things can get in the way or throw a guys schedule off. Don't spend all your time looking for reasons why the business slows down.... it happens to EVERY PROVIDER & EVERY BUSINESS ... It can not be busy 100% of the time and it does take a little planning and anticipation.
  49. 1 point
    Lexy902 from the East Coast:bowdown::bowdown::bowdown:
  50. 1 point
    Ahhh, the ?tipping? debate! I noticed there was a decided void in SP response so I will take a minute to share my thoughts? From an agency girl perspective, tipping is often a way to generate extra income because after they pay the agency and the driver, they usually end up on the short end of the stick. 10 years ago, I ran for an agency, we collected $260 for an hour, with $110 going to the house, $40-$100 to the driver depending on where the visit was located, which left me maximum of $110 with as little as $10 in my pocket. With a $15 book on fee and mandatory car cell phone fees of $25 per night, I needed 3 full fees per night to make working worthwhile, God forbid I get credit card calls, which somehow always worked out us getting nothing. We were not allowed to refuse a call so we had to find creative ways to ensure we were paid. Tipping for extra service was the only way to keep our heads above water. The nice thing was that we had a shift, we worked, and we went home and had a life. That said, it was unfair to the guest who would end up with less than what he expected because he was not prepared for the extra fees. Independents are in a slightly different boat. We usually have a higher upfront fee, but we also assume ALL the costs incurred, which is far more than many realize. If we charged what we feel we should to get our ROI, the protests would be heard long and loud. Many Indies have a smaller bottom line than an ambitious girl at a well run agency. So when it comes to tips, many things need to be considered. In the south, SP's are tipped much in the same manner as a restaurant. Anyone walking a restaurant wouldn?t consider walking out without leaving a tip if everything was satisfactory. I tip everyone in the service industry, from the girl who washes my hair, to the man at Suny?s who pumps my gas because a little bit from many adds up at the end of the day. Flowers and trinkets are lovely in thought, but a girl can?t deposit wilted stems into an RRSP, and my bank doesn?t seem to take dildos, massage oil, garter belts or silk stockings on deposit -go figure! As Joyful C has so wisely stated, most SP?s live a fragile existence financially. We provide an illusion of playful luxury for our guests benefit, but rest assured, 90% of the time it is smoke and mirrors. Behind the scenes we struggle to pay our bills, put diapers on our babies and try to take care of those we love, all the while working on a way to get to a normal existence if that does in fact even exist. An extra $20 from each client equals a full appointment by the end of the week, and at the end of the month that pays the cell phone, buys the groceries and lets us take the little ones away for the weekend after we have paid both rents (home and incall), all our advertising, babysitters, hydro, car repairs, personal maintenance and the same expenses everyone else has. Not to mention the monthly payments on augmentation, lifts, tucks and anything else to keep us up to the exceptionally high standards expected if we want to continue making money in this arena. There are few SP?s who can keep up the daily client service to ensure long term financial viability in this business because of the emotional and physical toll this business extracts which sometimes means extended time offs to get our heads, hearts and bodies back in order. We have no paid holidays, benefits or paid personal days. If there is a crisis that forces us to take time off, we lose money and clients which often means we work regardless of illness, pain or any other of lifes challenges. Each SP has her own reasons for working, but the universal element is that we all are trying to achieve some sort of financial stability. I never expect tips, and I can count on one hand how many I have received since my arrival in Canada because of the nature of the business here. Hate to tell you guys, but Canadian men are not known for their generous nature, they rank a close second to Germans in this realm (I think the outlandishly high taxes inflicted in both countries has something to do with it!). I would never expect a tip from guests that have me on retainer, I see them weekly. But unless you are going to be a bankable commodity in a SP?s life, a tip relative to the quality of service is a sure way to say thank you and have her know you mean it... Catherine
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