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It's March 8, and I would like to salute all the women's of CERB, Massage Attendants, Service providers, and how we appreciate what they do for us. Merci à ces femmes merveilleuses!

I had someone recently make the statement that I was responsible for their pleasure. Which started me thinking that a lot of people, not just in the SP dynamic but also in real time relationships think this way as well. I do NOT believe I am responsible for anyone's pleasure. Each person is responsible for their own, I am but an instrument of pleasure bringing my own unique talents, attitude, and body to the table. I am not a mind reader, so if something I'm doing could feel better or be done in a different more pleasing way, share this and allow me to pleasure you better. I am here for your pleasure so I want you to feel as good as possible. If your expectation is that I am responsible for your pleasure and what I do or don't do, even on first meeting, reflects my standing as an SP, then many SP's may fall on the negative side of the balance sheet which isn't fair. Yes, I know life isn't fair but shouldn't we take some responsibility for ourselves?. It's one thing when there isn't that connection or appeal, that's something you can't fake. However when I hear "it wasn't done the way I like it or how I expected" it makes me want to ask where they were because they apparently weren't fully present as a participant. So, just a frustrating happening that gave me food for thought. Maybe my thinking in flawed in that this industry does make us responsible as SP's/MP's for someone's pleasure but I really hope it's more the exception than the norm. Does anyone have any thoughts on either side of the equation?

Midnite, Excellent thread and points. In fact all the posters so far have made great points. It's unfortunate that you had a client say that to you and really it would have been my assumption that its a given that most clients (in my mind) should be sexually progressive by nature to result in them deciding to seek out an SP. Really, unfortunately it comes down to people being comfortable with their own sexuality and being able to verbalize that to their partner either SP or SO. Do to my personality I have always felt comfortable talking about sex and verbalizing my wants before, during and after an encounter. My wife on the other hand has always struggled with being able to say what she wants, (I've had to pry it out of her) luckily over the years she's loosened up alot almost to the other extreme (if i'm playing with her and I'm taking too long or not hitting her spots just right at that moment she'll give a little growl push my hand away and take over herself, very hot BTW). Once upon a time she'd have never done that for fear that she might offend me. For me as a partner it's very liberating knowing that her pleasure doesn't hinge on me as it allows me to enjoy and savour the monent much better. The more people realize that sex is natural (the most natural thing actually or we all wouldn't be here) the better it opens the door to a much more beautiful experience for everyone. We in western culture (specifically North America) still suffer from the view point that sex is private, taboo, you don't talk about it, keep it behind closed doors. Its unfortunate because its so freaking awesome. My last point on the subject is this, nobody can make me cum faster than I can myself and it's the same for every other woman and man on the planet. We all know our own buttons, life is better when we share those buttons with each other ;) As for instruments, I've got a Trombone that needs playing, slow, soft and drawn at first with a loud and boisterous finish.( I know how I like to be played and now so do all of you) That's a little bit of Friday morning rambling

I understand the stress we can put on ourselves to be "all that" and we really aren't treating ourselves well when we do it. We are responsible for having ourselves prepared and ready, upbeat, positive etc. so that we can give ourselves in the best way possible. I love sharing with someone either new or repeat and having them share with me. As Cyclo said, it's the novelty and discovery that amps up the excitement. Within that I like to also know what feels good. Sometimes in my discovery I find them and sometimes they are a little hidden or need to special treatment, this is when communication is important to me. It really is mental as well as physical too. I love the comparison to a tango as it really is that give and take and melding of energies. Do you prefer, as a client, to be asked or to just communicate if you want something a little different in terms of pressure, tongue, no tongue, faster slower? Do you enjoy being asked knowing someone is focused on your pleasure? Personally, I love to give that "smile that lasts all day" and when I know I did, it gives ME a smile that lasts all day. When unsure, I have to fight with myself not to take full responsibility.

I never ever feel solely responsible for anyone's pleasure when they come to see me and I don't let people make me feel that way even if it's in a positive way. It's also what that person brings to the table during the encounter. If that person is in a bad mood, it is going to affect them, myself as I can read a person's body language and mood very welll and ultimately will affect THEIR pleasure. Receiving pleasure is a two way street and if there is no communication, then there is not a lot of pleasure on the receiving end. To me, it's like doing the Tango. You have to be on the same page with your partner. I cannot be held responsible for a person's pleasure as there are so many varying factors brought into a session from that person whether it's their mood, personality, communication skills, etc. Pleasure isn't just a physical sensation, it's a mental one as well especially when having an orgasm. Like dancing the tango with a partner, the physical and mental aspects both go hand in hand with one another.

International Women's Day (8 March) is a global day celebrating the economic, political and social achievements of women past, present and future. Though women in North America and Europe have made significant well deserved gains in recent years and decades so congratulations are in order however there is a long way to go before women and girls can enjoy equal rights, especially in other parts of the world women are lacking in equality. Women must have equal rights to decide on their own will what to wear, what to drink, who to socialize and whom not to, who to marry and whom not to, what to study, where to work and must be entitled to equal pay for equal work. Women must have Equality in inheritance and equal rights to divorce all over the world. Violence against women and girls must stop now and international communities must act now and take immediate steps to end violence against women and children. Celebrate women's day by supporting women across the world who are are fighting for equality and justice for women and girls. In middle east, Africa, even Europe and America there is still unacceptable gender discrimination. Long-term, sustainable development and prosperity will only be possible when women and men enjoy equal opportunity to rise to their full potential. Women are the ones with bigger hearts and minds and deserve the long overdue total, immediate and unconditional equality in all aspects of life all over the world NOW. Happy International women's day to all cerbites especially our ladies.

Oh by the title I thought there was a new sex toy out, lol. But a great subject to bring up, thank you. I always felt soley responsible for giving a man the "time of his life". Causing a bit of stress for myself before each meeting. I especially felt extra pressure to do this when meeting someone new as I thought it would leave a bad mark on my name if I didn't, which I now know isn't fair to myself. I finally realized as you said, that it takes two. No matter how talented one is or how many tricks you have up your sleeve you'll never be able to "create the perfect experience" if the other preson isn't engaged, if the chemistry isn't there, if the mood of either person or both is off, if there is an interuption of any kind,ect,ect,so many things factor into making a wonderful experience,wonderful. It is rather silly to think you can just lay back and expect someone to push all your buttons and make something happen without you "working" as well.

I agree with you. Everything I've read on the topic of sexual satisfaction, and my own personal experience supports this idea. Personal responsibilty involves feeling good about yourself and your body; knowing what gives you pleasure (physically, emotionally, mentally); and here's the kicker being able to communicate that verbally and non-verbally (moans, groans, body movement...). All of these elements are part of being responsible for your own sexual pleasure whether your masturbating or with a partner. We all hope our partners (service provider, romantic, fling, friends with benefits) are empathetic, intuitive and creative but we can't expect them to be mind readers. No one knows how to touch us or turn us on better than we do ourselves ;-) Of course sometimes part of the pleasure of being with a new sexual partner is the novelty, unpredictability and discovery of a new pleasure. When we learn something new about our bodies, minds or emotions, that's a great bonus. It plays a part in why some of us like to have multiple sexual partners. We certainly have a right to expect our sexual partners to be attentive, in the moment and open minded. Still the responsibility for our satisfaction should never be exclusively in our partner's hands. Personally I find it's a real turn on when I'm with a woman who's comfortable stimulating herself while I'm stimulating her also. The same goes for me. Sometimes it just takes pressing that special button that you know, to take you to the next level or over the top. I recall reading an advice column in which women wrote in and provided advice to men on how to perform great oral sex. It was all over the place "Stick your tongue in.... Never, ever stick your tongue in"; "Nibble on my clit with your teeth... If you use your teeth on my clit I will tear your head off"; "Use your fingers and tongue... Only do one thing at a time, it's too distracting if you're using your fingers...". The obvious conclusion of the advice column was... for both partners to communicate, especially the person on the receiving end of any stimulation. In other words... Take personal responsibility. I know the women on this board want every client to leave weak kneed and with a smile on their face that they can't hide :-) At the same time I'm sure you've seen it all from clients in terms of self awareness and personal comfort communicating needs and desires.

Being insulted by someone you see asking for a free session when you rarely see them. and you've been very good to them when you do see them. Sorry my bills don't get paid with gifts in exchange for my rate or giving free sessions. Would you go to work one day without being paid? I don't think so... And when the answer is no.. the response is "It's been nice knowing you." Yeah it has been nice knowing you. Not! Now lose my number!" Not very becoming for someone to ask this. This is my job just like everyone else has a job. I know I'm preaching to the choir here but what a piss off! This hobby is a luxury and I'm not a credit union!

Nicole does have a point, if fake photos were posted somewhere after her apology it would be good to see the photo here -- I DO ASK THAT IF SOMEONE POSTS SOMETHING THAT COULD BE DAMAGING IN REGARDS TO FAKE PHOTOS THAT EVIDENCE BE PROVIDED AS WELL -- (and you can always PM it to me for review with a link to the ad if you do not wish to post it in public). I would like to see Nichole here on cerb upload some photos to her album, post a few ads here on cerb and see if the cerb community will welcome her. As I said it will be a uphill battle for her but all hope is not lost of she can prove she has changed her ways.

HAPPY INTERNATIONAL WOMEN'S DAY

I know the preference being referred to has been towards women, but what about men? I personally go ga ga over guys with salt and pepper hair I think it's so sexy. But, at the end of the day it really goes beyond that it's always someone's personality that matters.

'Nuff said.

Almost 18 months ago, I learned that my pancreas wasn't producing insulin and that I had suddenly become a Type 1 diabetic. This kind of diabetes is usually associated with children and adolescents, but it's often diagnosed in people under 55. Since then, I've had to become an expert about everything I eat so that I can take enough insulin to be healthy. All carbohydrates break down into sugar--into glucose. Glucose and fat are the fuels that our bodies use to keep us going. But we don't need glucose at all. We can live perfectly healthy, long lives without sugar, including fruit and fruit juices. The thing that causes the problems for North Americans is the combination of eating lots of carbohydrates with very little fat. The result is heart disease. But reducing the carbohydrate intake and increasing the amount of fat is very good for you and will reduce the plaque built-up in your arteries. When the amount of carbohydrate is low enough, the metabolism switches over and burns fat instead of glucose. Eating carbohydrates does create the craving for more, to be sure. It can be difficult to figure out how much carbohydrate is in things like sauces, salad dressings, marinades and the batter that may be used to cook fish and chicken. Labels aren't always as easy to read or understand as they should be, and some studies show that the information may not always be accurate, either. What I think is truly scandalous is that, while these things are long-established nutritional facts, the information doesn't get out to people because of the incredible influence of the big drug companies and organizations like the American and Canadian Diabetes Associations. People usually believe that the Diabetes' Associations are on the side of patients, but the fact is that they're funded by the drug companies and the manufacturers of processed foods. They have an enormous influence over the curriculum dieticians are taught and, by extension, over the menus in hospitals and public institutions. A high carbohydrate diet isn't good for anyone. For people who have either Type 1 or Type 2 diabetes, it's impossible to maintain normal blood sugar levels while eating high amounts of carbohydrate, yet that is exactly what they're told to do. They will inevitably develop nasty complications, as a result, and will be prescribed drugs to try to lower their blood sugar and manage the damage to their hearts, kidneys, eyes, central nervous system, etc. I enjoy sweets. I'm particularly fond of dark chocolate. Small amounts of chocolate, or small amounts of fruit won't hurt me if I can take the right amount of insulin at the right time to deal with the sugar. But if I eat much fruit or other carbohydrate, the amount of insulin I will need to take will cause me to gain weight. So, in the end, it's important to keep a close eye on things. I cook food instead of buying it packaged or already prepared. I do drink diet colas sometimes but there the issue is really the amount of sodium in them. I have to say that I feel terrific now. It took awhile to get comfortable with this new way of eating. But nowadays, no sugar? Not a big deal!

Last I heard, she was returning around Easter.

Politics aside... (yes, I vote NDP)... I LOVE this video from today in the halls of the House of Commons... :) RIP Stompin Tom! Can you imagine this happening at Capitol Hill in the US? Never! Just another reason to be proud to be Canadian! :) Also reminds me of this... . I actually saw it on CNN first... They thought it was awesome and wished that their own government would have such a sense of humour too. :)

My dad yet again admitted to hospital with obstructed breathing:(

I could joke that I have never got used to mine, and that is because I occasionally have to "hunt" for the right head angle to see something in focus last year I got a pair of reading glasses, set for 2 to 3 feet away, and they really help with reading a book or computer screen

Maybe he can slip away at the Star Wars parties. Do you think they will still let him play the Emperor, even though he left the big job??? I must admit that the resemblance is uncanny....

my wish list for 2013 and my 3 choices would be #1 Malika #2 Catherine #3 Emerald Winters and much much more

Alyssa is a very classy lady and extremely fun to be with. I contacted her at the last minute and she was able to accomodate a late evening appointment to her hotel. At scheduled meeting, I arrived right on-time and in fact texted her 15 mins early that and was ready to meet. I liked that. Alyssa is VERY naturally pretty and girl next door look. At first in some black sexy lingerie and then ultimately smooth and soft skin you just have to touch. She is in great shape and nicely curvy as a woman should be, with well proportioned breasts. I spent much of the time kissing and massaging her which I could do for hours. Naked in front of me and all I wanted was to touch, taste and cover her. She was a passionate kisser and truly loves giving pleasure as well. I enjoyed giving myself to her. The rest will stay between us. The rate was decent all inclusive, msog, bbbj, dfl, daty, 69, p-massage, russian. Greek and cim offered for extra $. She has a very smooth sexy body with enhance breasts and long hair. I highly recommend seeing her . Repeat.......Yes!!!!

ok, I know and understand why most of you ladies don't show your faces for safety reasons and the like so I'm asking the guys out there whose seen you... I want to know who has a great smile, really sexy eyes, and other facial features that turn you on. What do you think? Obviously the pictures tell a thousand words, so let me know please. ;)

I have a "wish list" of ladies I would like to see Some of those ladies are ladies I have had the pleasure of previous encounters with, and would like to re-connect with them And there are ladies I have yet to meet but would like to. But this "wish list" is private, only because I would hate to inadvertently offend a lady by forgetting to publicly list her. So my list is private, but the ladies I want to meet know who they are, and that's the important thing RG

Happy Women's Day to all the Fabulous Women on CERB from the ladies of CMJ One woman is sooo powerful on her own, but a group of women together are unstoppable. We are so powerful, we birth new life ! We are truly God's gift to men... We are a team, a united front - as I commonly joke, "chicks before dicks" Again, Happy Woman's Day ladies... I hope you go celebrate being you today in even the smallest way.

Had a session with Vitto today. She just seems to get better every time I see her. Vitto is one sexy Latina beauty that is a pleasure to talk to and gives a massage to die for :) Thanks gorgeous, till next time.

The Sessions starring Helen Hunt, William Macy and dang it,I forgot the name of the male lead, oh well. Based on the true story of a middle aged polio victim who loses his virginity during sessions with a researcher/sex surrogate. This movie should be of interest to most cerbies. It is warm, funny, touching, and the great Wm. Macy is a hoot as a priest. Also, Helen Hunt fully nude, hehe! I think this is sort of a limited run "art house" type as I saw included in a series of special showings , so it may be hard to find. Must see!

Business Idea: Loan sharking high interest "Hobbying Loans" to the horny who have maxed out their credit sources!!!lol

YES! But to be honest, the first day of spring, I am flying away to Japan, so I am WAY more lucky than most Canadians... The weather for the next two days in Japan 25C on Sunday, 1C on Monday >.> Is it spring yet? summer dresses and sandal wedges? Summer cocktails and fresh food?

I can only say I'm sorry for your frustration. Irresponsibilty from an sp or a client is never acceptable. To ignore an appointment without a proper cancellation or a reasonable explanation is very unprofessional . Just keep trying we are not all like that. Most sp's value dearly their clients or soon to be clients, without them where would we be.

I have never had a problem communicating with any lady from Cerb and they can all attest to that, I also enjoy getting feedback from them as well. I have noticed that no 2 lady is the same and I have different sensation with one and the other even during the same position or act. Cerb ladies are fantastic.

My experiences are the same as what has already been expressed. A word of caution. Until your eyes have adjusted, be very careful when descending stairs. When I first started wearing progressive lenses, I almost tripped several times going down stairs.

:P my sister made me drink and eat Chinese food at 2 am so to counter act the calories my breakfast is sugar free redbull with back up fruit in the fridge that will hopefully be enough for lunch nourishment lol but I should be good to eat again come supper :)

I love me some blackstrap molasses...a few tablespoons mixed in with a half a liter of milk.....oh yeah....now that's a sweet treat! Good for ya too: http://www.whfoods.com/genpage.php?dbid=118&tname=foodspice The evil high fructose corn syrup is known as less ominous sounding 'glucose/fructose' in Canada.

Iam watching a show about the real life MASH in which the tv show was based on and they interviewed Gary Burghoff which made me realize that Radar O Rielly was one of my favorite TV characters of all time. Currently Sheldon from Big Bang has to be one of them. Who are your favorites. T.T.

How about a Latin testicle Massage ;) lol

Friday Crystal 10-4:30 aka "Crystal" Hannah 10-5:30 aka "Hannahxo" Maya 12-11 aka "MidnightMaya" Tiffany 4-11 aka "TiffanyXXXOOO" Jenna 5-11 aka "Jenna69" Saturday Maya 10-9 aka "MidnightMaya" Kelly 10-9 aka "Kelly2010" Summer 10-9 aka "SUMMER LOVE" Sunday Maya 10-9 aka "MidnightMaya" Hannah 10-9 aka "Hannahxo" Tiffany 10-9 aka "TiffanyXXXOOO" Monday Crystal 10-4 aka "Crystal" Tiffany 10-5:30 aka "TiffanyXXXOOO" Maya 10-7 aka "MidnightMaya" Jenna 5-11 aka "Jenna69" Kelly 6:30-11 aka "Kelly2010" Taylor 3:30-11 Welcome Back aka "Taylor_xo" Tuesday Crystal 10-4:30 aka "Crystal" Lexi 10-7 aka "Lexi" Nicky 10-4 aka "Nicky in Paradise" Hannah 4-11 aka "Hannahxo" Taylor 3:30-11 Welcome Back aka "Taylor_xo" Kelly 6:30-11 aka "Kelly2010" Wednesday Crystal 10-4 aka "Crystal" Summer 10-4 aka "SUMMER LOVE" Nicky 10-11 aka "Nicky in Paradise" Hannah 3:30-11 aka "Hannahxo" Taylor 3:30-11 Welcome Back aka "Taylor_xo" Thursday Lexi 10-4 aka "Lexi" Crystal 10-4 aka "Crystal" Nicky 10-7 aka "Nicky in Paradise" Maya 3:30-11 aka "MidnightMaya" Taylor 3:30-11 Welcome Back aka "Taylor_xo" Kelly 6:30-11 aka "Kelly2010" Friday Crystal 10-5:30 aka "Crystal" Nicky 10-4 aka "Nicky in Paradise" Lexi 10-5:30 aka "Lexi" Maya 3:30-11 aka "MidnightMaya" Jennie 5-11 aka "ASTONISHING JENNIE" Jenna 5-11 aka "Jenna69" Saturday Maya 10-9 aka "MidnightMaya" Kelly 10-4 aka "Kelly2010" Jennie 10-9 aka "ASTONISHING JENNIE" Taylor 3:30-9 Welcome Back aka "Taylor_xo" Sunday Maya 10-9 aka "MidnightMaya" Lexi 10-9 aka "Lexi" Jennie 10-9 aka "ASTONISHING JENNIE"

Peter Falk as Lt. Columbo

Your business slogan "Got an itch that needs scratching" RG :-) Additional Comments: You know there really is a Seinfeld episode for everything RG :-)

My opinion is there are two bad boys in our diets, sugar and salt. It seems to me you can avoid excessive amounts by a sensible and varied diet. That means doing your own cooking and avoiding all the processed foods we rely on for convenience. I am presently winding up a visit to NZ and Australia, and there was a case here that was widely publicized recently about a woman dying as a result of her addiction to Coke, she was consuming 10-12 large bottles a day.

I ABSOLUTELY LOVE SUGAR!!! But its so mean to me back. Eat a couple cookies and I can feel the pudge in my cheeks immediately. but I must say, in cutting back sugar I was able to find the best thing in the world to me. A&W Diet Rootbeer is an amazing substitute for any sugar junkie. It HAS to be A&W though cause all other diet rootbeer tastes like crap!!

I'm on a sugar free low carb kick so I'm having a big cesear salad with grilled chicken strips, the high fat dressing, bacon bits, parm cheese and no croutons. So much more energy now!

Yes progresssive lenses the curse of age each person varies it took me about a month to get used to them. Posted via Mobile Device

Hi, I just came across your post. I can not imagine how hard it must be. I lost a family member who I was very closed to, and I still feel like a part of me is missing and it will never be the same. It's sad, so sad. I admire your courage and your ability to ask for guidance and help! I assume that it was me you were referring to. I must say that as special as this can make me feel, I agree with those who said it was better to forget that idea. I don't feel like I could be able to help you in any way, and to me it seems like this situation can just make things harder for you. As its been said before I am not her, I am probably completely different, and I am afraid that there is nothing I could do or say that could comfort you... I do think that you should try and maybe go on a date, or even book time with an SP (I would be happy to recommend someone if I know them). It would ease you into the idea of moving on with your heart, because I am sure you wife is by your side and would be sad to see you aching and lonely. She will always hold a place in your heart and getting close to someone else is just about you, taking care of you. I really wish you the best! I thought it was important to write you and show my support... Love, Lola xox

Sugar is right, these threads are for the gents to get in contact and pm each other details. Although I think it should be ok for girls who DON'T have an invested interest in another's work to be able to give positive feed back from the other side of the fence. I've stumbled upon booking where there were multiple girls called from different sources where I was impressed by another ladies way that she conducted herself and how pleasant she was. For those looking for more then a menu could benefit from an all around look into the personality of the lady they are researching :) Maybe a separate thread dedicated to this subject would be more appropriate? It's just hard sometimes to see a thread with many questions and no answers when I may have some information for them.

LOL I watched it until the guy cut up the half-cooked BBQed placenta on his plate then I closed it... Couldn't go much further without taking a chance of ending up visiting the bathroom... I would be curious to know if he tried it or not lol

Reading a bedtime story to my 2 year old son and when I was done he rolled over and said, "Daddy you know what, you're my best friend".

Some people drink vodka with pieces of snakes in the bottle. Urine play (specifically drinking) is something I could not do myself A good number of members here eat pork. Apart from once, I have never eaten it A rather sexually adventurous couple I know swear by sperm as a proper ingredient for home cooked meals. I haven't eaten there since Basically, there are a lot of reasons why people consume stuff. Fetish, taste, health, religion, etc. If it's safe, I couldn't care less what someone does even if I don't, and pass no judgement.

Hair colour is hardly a factor in my selection process, however the other properties such as length, texture, and style could well be. And whether she can let them down. ;) But to address your question, I'd venture to say that these are myths - who knows where they originated? They apply sometimes, but just like astrological signs, how could one stereotype by hair colour across the board? (Now you know my position on the former also. ;) ) For whatever reason, blondes seem for a majority to be the ideal and maybe some of them actually play toward that preconception. Due to true redheads representing less than 5% of the population, their rarity might 'explain' their fiery temperament. Just some muddled morning thoughts...

Thank you Conquistador, that is precisely why I posted here. You would think that if guys hobby in Ottawa then chances are they hobby in other cities also. There is zero to little info in the Toronto section. Cerb is Ottawa heavy for info and recs and for that we are lucky. So, that being said, I value what the Ottawa guys have to say regarding the Ottawa scene so why not ask here first for Toronto info and recs before I have to go to other boards (non CERB) for sub rate info. So to the couple of crusty replies to my simple request I suggest that you lads go get a massage lol Posted via Mobile Device

This is absolutely true. But some unwinnable wars are worth fighting anyway, and this is most certainly one of them. Victory will never be declared, but at least we can say we fought.