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I agree that posting a public request that someone PM you is ridiculous. Just send that person a PM yourself. I have refused numerous requests from newbies and lurkers for info on ladies, MPs, etc. If they don't have a posting history that enables me to evaluate them, I refuse politely. I have no idea if they're LE, a stalker, a pain in the ass, or whatever. Just last week, a lurker who has been a member for six and a half years with zero posts asked me for info! I told him he had no right to expect any help if he had never seen fit to post useful information publicly first.

I have followed this discussion and told myself I was not going to get involved in it simply to be on the safe side of the board. I understand what mister_crufty is going through in his marriage because I am also in the same boat, I love my wife very much and we are totally compatible except for sex. Let me try to explain a bit more without going into details. Something in our relationship happened over 10 years ago and she became depressed (its not something I did) and refused sex completely. I figured I would give her time to get back to normal but as time went by every thing stayed the same. We had a great sex life, 2-3 times a day anywhere in the house, outside, in the pool, in the car, public park etc. When all of this stopped for me I tried my best to cope with it without leaving her and this "hobby" gave me the solution to my dilemma. Nothing about her changed except for the sex, she is a very very attractive women and it HURTS me not being able to have her to myself like I used to. She is starting to give me intimacy now but it took forever to get here. There is more but those are confidential things I don't want to share with all of you. We love each other and I know I would have a difficult time to find someone to give me has much as she does, we have a long time relationship and that is worth so much to me. Sorry if I made this a long story for you all to read. Don't be judging anyone and if you don't have anything nice to say don't say anything at all. That's the rules here. To finish I just want to say to answer the OP's question, Yes I feel bad but I have needs like everyone here and I cope with it and take in the best from what I do in my life. My decision I have to live with the consequences if she finds out.

And if anyone asks for locations, even general area can put the lady at risk. This is something they can inquire with the lady in question, for very obvious reasons. If he can't ask her that, ask yourself the many reasons WHY THAT MAY BE. Our DISCRETION is very important, dont think for a second that LE doesnt use these boards to find out info. Other reasons a guy may ask a guy for location are safety related, remember not all clients understand the sp/client dynamic. Or simply wish to drum up trouble if he was declined an encounter.

Welcome to our world (the sp's that is :boobies:) lol

I love the era of the 50's. Although this probably isn't true but things seemed a lot easier back then. Women dressed nicely even to clean the house and alot of it was about family. There was an optimistic drive among people to succeed and knowing through opportunity and hard work could acheive what they wanted to. I have always been drawn to the music ( i'm a big Elvis Presley fan), colors, cars, diners and those God awful pink plastic flamingos.

I'm all for being helpful but I detest laziness. It's just lazy not to do your research and I also don't respond to this kind of inquiry. For people I know, because of posting history or from chat whom I've gotten to know a little, with educated questions I'll answer. If you clearly haven't bothered to look at her website or her reviews....sorry but you're out of luck. I do my own research...do yours!

You ask a worthy question zorobaby. These are the factors and experience that influence my decision when deciding to see a younger than 40 guest... 1. Unrealistic expectations of what the session will entail. Porn has skewed manys perceptions as to what is genuine sex and what is done strictly to feed a visual desire. For the younger set it seems to be about how many sog's they are going to get or they have a list of activities that need to be completed in order for them to feel they got their moneys worth. For me this approach is exhausting in the playroom, both mentally and physically and when they leave I often reflect that the money wasn't worth the energy spent for me. This trait is not exclusive to younger clients, just more prevalent. 2. Contact. Many younger men contact us with little to no respect shown for us as people. One line text and emails are an instant red flag as are the phone calls that start with "How much for a blow job?" without even introducing yourself. The civil niceties are seldom present and they do not have the awareness or understanding of what it takes to be a sex worker and that we are living, breathing human beings with feelings that need to be treated as such the same as everyone else. Their inherent attitudes of youth often mislable us as disposable or less than and that is unacceptable to us. 3. Money. If I had a nickle for every time I've heard "Is your pussy made of gold?" from a not yet grown man cub, I'd be rich. My prices aren't and never have been in the upper price range of this industry. I provide outstanding service and take pride and care in ensuring my guests are cared for above and beyond the industry norm but younger men don't understand the cost of doing business for us. Indulging in women is like any other hobby, it takes money and the younger they are the less saved pennies they have to spend on the intangibles unlike their older counterparts. All that said, I have some younger guests on my dance card who I absolutely adore. They are mature beyond their years and we are a good fit so it works. They contacted me with well articulated emails and engaged in an exchange with me that showed they were indeed the kind of client I enjoy. At that point, the age became a non issue. The younger providers often have personal reasons for staying away from their peers and that should be respected but most providers will make an exception if you approach them with the right attitude... cat

My favorite era is always the next one. I get to build on everything I've seen, heard, learned from the "old" ones and guide myself into the next. Oh, it also means I make it to the next :) Remember every day you get up, is a good one.

It all depends on the mood I'm in. My personal decorating style is turn of the century exotic Victorian, I love the art deco of the 30's as is reflected in my advertising with their clean, bold lines and often my personal dress with hats and accessories. It feels so civilized. There are times where I will channel the Hollywood glamour of the 40's with the formal elegance of satin and pearls. Then there are times I feel like a Pink Lady and wear skin tight pencil skirts with sweaters and heels. I do the 60's-70's Boho look well when I'm feeling a little constricted and need to connect with my inner tree hugging, flower child but I cannot do the 80's. It was a horrendous time for fashion, attitude and music. When I get in mood, I will delve online in an era just to clear my head and I will fall in love with it all over again. I did this thru books as a child and now in our golden time, it's so much easier to explore. If I had a choice to go back and live an era tho, it would be when North America was being settled. Before governments had their hands in complicating everything and one didn't need a degree to get a job. A time when things moved slower and weren't so complex. A person could build a life with just common sense, hard work, sweat and tears... cat

Sort of reads like a bad episode of Oprah..... It's all about taking personal responsibility for one's actions. Peace MG

40s and 50s; basically the Cary Grant years. Mostly because there was a whole social layer people had to navigate which is absent today. You wore a suit and a hat, but they weren't prisons; more like scaffolds for self-expression. There were elaborate constraints of social manners, but (like Cary Grant) once you'd mastered them you could play within them and convey an ocean of subversive meaning with a well-timed quip. I guess it was that cusp in time when what had been a crushing conformity of the first half of the century was eroding and setting the stage for the revolution that came in the 60s, but the trappings of the older social order were still there to have fun with in their twilight. Plus, you know, the underwear. Because c'mon, the 50s are the Bettie Paige years too! :)

I have a huge old farmhouse, like really, way too large for me here alone. There was a time when four of the five bedrooms were used every night, but those days are long in the past. I use one bedroom and when family visits the others are used and when family and friends visit it just expand outwards. I believe that the record is fifteen people here sleeping in beds with an additional eight or ten finding comfortable quarters. Not too shabby. So yes, a big old farmhouse. There is an issue however with this big old farmhouse. When it was built there was little need for closet space or storage space so in the entire house are only three very tiny closets. I suppose a hundred plus years ago everyone had only their daily work clothes and a good Sunday Go To Meetin outfit, and hey they don't take a lot of space do they. So, feeling rather bored after Christmas I thought that I might do a little renovation. You know, something to keep me occupied and perhaps even a useful something. The thought came to me - why not make a door from my bedroom into that small bedroom right beside me that is always empty and convert it into a walk in closet. Great idea I thought and the saws and hammers came out. As I approach the end of the project I find myself in a major dilemma. Isn't it odd how every single project I undertake seems to just lead into something else? The dilemma you ask? Well it is the fact that I now have a walk in closet - but how can that be a dilemma? A walk in closet, to me, means a large area in which one can hang their clothes, organize their shoes, and keep ones wearing apparel in a somewhat organized fashion. However when I look at reality, I have two pairs of shoes that I rotate and replace as they wear out, both kept in the porch by the door downstairs. I have about a half dozen sports shirts that I rotate through daily until my weekly laundry day comes around, so for a good part of the time they are stored in the laundry basket. I have two pairs of cords and a pair of jeans. I do have a pretty classy suit which only comes out for weddings. That's all folks. I am a simple man. No walk in closet needed by me! I have come to the perfect answer to my dilemma and really such a simple answer it is. A woman, I need a woman! A woman who needs a place to organize her shoes, hang her dresses, place every blouse on a hanger, have ample shelf room and still have the space to put in a full length mirror as she tries on her various choices of apparel. Oh, I have a pretty nice bathroom too. Resumes and CV's eagerly anticipated. :)

I was inspired in the sexy abc's thread and posted this. I was pretty pleased with myself and didn't want it to get buried so here it is in it's entirety. Hope it's good for a chuckle. A is for Anal...right in your bum. B is for BJ...a great way to cum! C is for cock...one eye but can't see D is for doggy-style...we can both watch TV E is erogenous...the zone some men can't find F is for fetish...you want WHAT in your behind? G is for G-Spot...If you want her to go fast H is for hymen...they're far in our past I is for implants...if you don't like how you're born J is for Japan...weird-ass tentacle porn K is for KY...slippery and wet L is my libido...as strong as they get M is for masturbate...when I play with my stem N is my nuts...so please don't neglect them O is for orgasm...the main point of this vice P is for penis...yes, I listed it twice Q is for queef...sometimes kitties burp R is for redheads...sexy firecrotch! slurp! S is for sex...it makes me a fool. T is for tongue...the most useful tool. U is for uterus...couldn't find a 'U' word V is for vulva...both hairless and furred W is wet...how my rhymes make the ladies X is my rating...this shit ain't for babies! Y is for yoni...look it up...it means beaver Z is zoophilia...Hey! That's my retriever! :-D

The 70's were my decade. Disco, drugs and experimental sex (well it was for me) were the order of the day.

I agree women were so feminine back then. Very sexy and glamorous looking at least in the movies. No one has yet to surpass Elvis- in my opinion that is. He will always be king.

EMail money transfers simplify things when otherwise you would have to carry a large sum of money to the encounter. Not only do I not like carrying big wads of money, the lady probably prefers not having to carry a large sum too. As for trust, well trust isn't an issue for me with the ladies I see, so I can pay in advance if preferred by a lady RG

For some men, it takes an hour or more. For others, it can work in 20-30 minutes. The difference may be partly the "placebo effect" where we believe so strongly that we're receiving a benefit from the medication that we actually get the hoped-for result even if the medication isn't working or was just a sugar pill. The difference may also be attributed to the differences between individuals. Similarly, the effect of the medication may vary. Two of my clients have lasting, positive results from Viagra for about 12 hours. Most men find that the drug is best for a couple of hours and ineffective beyond that. Cialis seems to be helpful for a day or two, depending on one's vascular health in general, but isn't so helpful if diabetic neuropathy is the cause of his erectile difficulties. Levitra is helpful for many men when diabetes is involved. Sometimes none of these medications works or works reliably, however. There are operations that can help--installing implants, pumps, etc. These are invasive procedures, to say the least, and while they have good outcomes, they're more commonly performed on--and sought by--young men in their 20s and 30s who have lost erectile function because of injury or illness. What I would like men to recognize, though, is that the inability to have or maintain a firm and lasting erection doesn't have to mean the end of one's sex life. Yes, intercourse may no longer be on the menu. However, satisfying orgasms are still possible from manual and oral stimulation and the emotional satisfaction that's part of sexual engagement can be achieved in many, many, many ways that are not limited to intercourse. If men are honest with themselves and with one another, they could recognize that penises are notoriously unreliable appendages. Cultivating a full-body sensuality is often much more satisfying emotionally, physically and spiritually than focusing excessively on one organ or sensation.

I always suggest that you call or contact the sp a good 24 hours in advance, and definitely call between 'normal' day time hours to find out. You might have to visit one time at what people might call a reasonable hour, but depending on what time of day you are into, it should work out. I have to say I'd recommend against contacting the ones whose ads say 24/7 the main thing is don't wait until midnight for a first contact.

My friends, It is with great sadness that I must report that our esteemed friend, mrrnice2, was horribly injured earlier in what appears to have been a crowd-related incident. Most of his wounds appear to have been inflicted by multiple objects of about the size of a stiletto heel, possibly caused as he lay prone after being caught unawares in the initial crush. Investigations continue as to how he managed to become swamped by a stampeding swarm of sexy seductresses. Please join me in wishing him well for his recuperation. Phaedrus P.S. Does anyone know why he has a room full of ladies' underwear? Is there something we should be told?

I had the chance to see Kelly a few time over the months . She is wonderful mature gal and I can safety say that is awesome ! She works for Angel's Touch which has a nice large rooms and wonderful atmosphere . I book her for a private lap dance and wow can this girl dance and work the pole . Kelly has been around the biz for a years and she is a great girl to see . I hope you gents enjoy seeing her . Another great girl to see !

So the idea here is that we're going to write an erotic story together. Here's the first paragraph, which needs to be finished and a new one started. OK? You've seen her often, and in a way you know what to expect, but you know too that it's always different. Her mood, her look that day, her perfume, how she will tease you, how she'll grip you, how she'll kiss.... She takes off her clothes, and sits on the bed. You kneel, and kiss her thighs. She opens, and you can't hold back. The softness, the warmth, the wetness as you enter her with your tongue, awesome. You keep going as she gets more and more excited, and

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Well I like mister_crufty because as a newish member he has had great confidence to initiate threads and to respond to so many others. Geeze, it took me six months after I began here to have enough confidence to even say hello! Now I realize that whenever I open one of his posts I will never have any idea what it is that I am going to read! It seems as though I like unpredictability. :) Now, he did rush ahead without reading instructions from post # 1 so he overlooked Samantha Evans and I shall try to make that right. I like Samantha because her presence here is like a breath of sunshine. I wish I could write as she does in such a thoughtful way and with such depth. She is simply a wonderful person and has been and continues to be an inspiration for all. I must have missed the posts from Lee about the Croatian Penis Warmers. Are they yet another of his entrepreneurial endeavors? I expect that he is wearing one today!

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I visited Graceland once. That was interesting! Elvis was a complicated character but that's one of the reasons why people were so drawn to him.

Yep, men's brains definitely work differently than women's. I haven't figured out the flirting game yet at all, and that's why a trip to the Montreal clubs is on my spring agenda, as I've heard Montreal ladies tend to take the lead if they like ya. I had my crotch grabbed by somebody on a Quebec City dancefloor a few years ago, so I'm hopeful. Sadly, a gold ring prevented me from acting on said crotch groping! :P

on the other hand ... We seem to be going through a period of nostalgia, and everyone seems to think yesterday was better than today. I don't think it was, and I would advise you not to wait ten years before admitting today was great. If you're hung up on nostalgia, pretend today is yesterday and just go out and have one hell of a time. -Art Buchwald

I think that a photography/art group is a very good idea, I bet that there are a lot of people out there who would agree with me as well as have a lot of good pictures to post. This would also give my erotic photographer a chance to get his name out by taking my pictures as well as me being able to take some awesome pictures of things myself like I love to do :) I cant wait till you get the group up and running :)

It can be an aphrodisiac for some, here is an example. and this one too. http://youtu.be/K9eDCtja8ag

That was from The Naked Gun http://www.bing.com/videos/search?q=naked+gun+scene+practicing+safe+sex&view=detail&mid=9AA7573E2BFC022EAB5B9AA7573E2BFC022EAB5B&first=0&FORM=NVPFVR RG

Thanks for the post Jade. Not everything about getting older sucks. It's nice to be more accepting of yourself and your quirks. Life is too short to be self-conscious.

Oh my god...I mention that in my alphabet poem: Q is for queef...some times kitties burp. I love them...I think they're hilarious. I had an ex with whom I could use certain angles (legs in the air) to basically make them on demand, like making fart noises with your armpit. We would laugh and laugh...she said it tickled. Good times. Thanks for the memory.

I didn't want to like it. But I really did. Thanks for making me smile. Here's one for you in return. Roses are red Violets are blue Some poems rhyme But this one doesn't Thanks for sharing.

I am a male and not gay at all, jut want to try that with a sexy chick. i would def be down, cleo looks hot as hell

I've seen her a number of times over the past couple of years and enjoyed each experience. A very down-to-earth girl, always been interested in pleasing her client and is really easy to get along with. Sports an absolutely delicious natural set of D cups that she loves to have played with. Very reasonable value-for-money.

If you want a late night session, most SP's will likely accomodate you if you arrange in advance. You may need to provide a referral if they haven't seen you or if your handle isn't well known (assuming you give them your handle).

I dont as a rule consider the things I like fetishes, I give them no thought beyond the the thought that I enjoy them, though I will say I did struggle with a couple of things that I thought really?? I like that?? LOL In the beginning anyway lol I do things now that I would have never considered 10 years ago, with age, knowing more, knowing myself better and a lack of caring what society would say is "normal" I've learned to get out of my comfort zone. I like that.. I wish I could say that I was always comfortable with my own sexuality, comfortable in my own skin, I wasnt, but I definitely am today! lol I think for many women fear of being sexual is predominant, it always has a form of stigma attached, slutty ect.. I tried to squash for years what I would now consider the normal and natural state of being myself. Once I learned to get out of my own way thats when I felt more, well everything ;)

For your own safety and privacy and discretion for yourself and your guests, it is never a good idea to share the details of your location (current or future) publicly ;)

One would like to believe that bbfs is not on anyone's menu, but the fact is that it is. And how can one not make the obvious link between what used to be unavailable 10 years ago to the point of laugh in face if requested, is now so 'common'. And all that in spite of the fact that testing is easier, and information is really easier considering majority of advertising is done on the internet, so is the information about stds and yet they still do it. But what we also see from one decade to the next are a lot of foreign workers in the system, bringing their 'style' so to speak. and their style is based on a different level of acceptability. Then new but local sps get into the biz, they read ads to see what to do or not do, and they see all that stuff on the table and assume that is what they have to do. Which is fine because they also have no idea where to find std risk charts like this one either. http://www.sfcityclinic.org/stdbasics/stdchart.asp Greek and duos and dato also never used to be even considered appealing, let alone offered, and yet there they are :) No matter what the sp provides, there is always someone going to ask for somethng she doesn't. And those influence what ends up on the menu down the road I think. I am all for decrim and regulation because believe me there is NO way Occupational health and safety commissions are going to allow bbbjs with or without CIM.

MN2 is putting up a very brave front, he is not taking this as well as he says. He just called me and asked if he can come to Halifax and stay for a couple of days . He was not expecting any of this and is quite frantic. Gentlemen please refrain from taking your frustrations out on our lovely friend. He meant no harm and had no idea what a traffic jam this would create. Ladies and gentlemen lets all calm down and let MN2 now make the decision on who gets to share his lovely room with him. I am sure within a week or two he will have made the ultimate choice and we can all go back to our ordinary lives. We must always remember before we press send what can happen to so many people.

Dear Mod, I am so sorry for having crashed your server. I realize that you did warn me about what all of the increased traffic to my account would do and I truly regret that I ignored your warning. I really believed that the traffic from all of those women would slow down, but alas, it did not. I will understand if you feel a need to suspend me for a period of time. In fact it may be a blessing because since you restored service my PM's have only increased but now my mailbox contains hundreds of angry PM's from gentlemen who were deprived of Cerb for an extended period of time. Believe me that they are NOT addressing me as mrrnice. I can start my own Mr Men club. mrrwhothe helldoyouthinkyouare, mrhowcouldyoudothistome, mrgetalife,mrihopeyouarehappy, and those are the nice ones. If it will help I will post a picture in a day or two of the walk in closet that is close to bursting at the seams so that the message gets out to the interested women that their opportunity has come and gone. Again my sincere apologies. Gotta go as I am being called to my bathtub built for two. Regards, MN2

I used to be a young pup... ... but I have grown to discover that the quintessential advantage of age is looking backward fondly and sometimes not so fondly at life experiences. In short, young guys haven't learned from their fuck-ups because they haven't had enough fuck-ups from which to learn. When I was a young guy, I mistakenly thought that what defined me as a man was the presence of a penis that could snap to attention at will.... that and the fact that I could fill the whole toilet bowl with bubbles when I peed with great force... but I digress. I now understand that what defines the true man exists about three feet north (or 91 cm for you young bucks.) I was cocksure and swaggering when I was young... but I failed to realize that the reality of a sexual experience was the subtlety of movement, the touch of flesh, the art of seduction and the absolute joy of intimate companionship. In fact, I was "zip, zip, grope, grope, lick, lick and BAZINGA!!! insert tab A (penis) into slot A (vagina) thrust, thrust AHHHhhhHHHHHhh. (repeat every 20 minutes.)" It was satisfying... but nowhere near as satisfying as what I experience today. I talk now. I laugh. I enjoy the whole experience and appreciate it more because I am older. I love being with a complete woman now... where before it was just a few parts that were of particular interest. I guess the long and short of it is that I have learned a lot since the late 70's... and now I know that it's more than just about my penis, and my desires.

Hey Comms. I did see her about 10 days ago and had a fun couple of hours. We danced, sang harmonies, shared a drink and had safe sex. Athena is relocating from another city where she danced so she has not been around lately but I believe she will be back early February. I will see her again once she sets up.

One hella fine specimen ...

Corrie Loftin

...And she's not the only one!

Ahhh, the ?tipping? debate! I noticed there was a decided void in SP response so I will take a minute to share my thoughts? From an agency girl perspective, tipping is often a way to generate extra income because after they pay the agency and the driver, they usually end up on the short end of the stick. 10 years ago, I ran for an agency, we collected $260 for an hour, with $110 going to the house, $40-$100 to the driver depending on where the visit was located, which left me maximum of $110 with as little as $10 in my pocket. With a $15 book on fee and mandatory car cell phone fees of $25 per night, I needed 3 full fees per night to make working worthwhile, God forbid I get credit card calls, which somehow always worked out us getting nothing. We were not allowed to refuse a call so we had to find creative ways to ensure we were paid. Tipping for extra service was the only way to keep our heads above water. The nice thing was that we had a shift, we worked, and we went home and had a life. That said, it was unfair to the guest who would end up with less than what he expected because he was not prepared for the extra fees. Independents are in a slightly different boat. We usually have a higher upfront fee, but we also assume ALL the costs incurred, which is far more than many realize. If we charged what we feel we should to get our ROI, the protests would be heard long and loud. Many Indies have a smaller bottom line than an ambitious girl at a well run agency. So when it comes to tips, many things need to be considered. In the south, SP's are tipped much in the same manner as a restaurant. Anyone walking a restaurant wouldn?t consider walking out without leaving a tip if everything was satisfactory. I tip everyone in the service industry, from the girl who washes my hair, to the man at Suny?s who pumps my gas because a little bit from many adds up at the end of the day. Flowers and trinkets are lovely in thought, but a girl can?t deposit wilted stems into an RRSP, and my bank doesn?t seem to take dildos, massage oil, garter belts or silk stockings on deposit -go figure! As Joyful C has so wisely stated, most SP?s live a fragile existence financially. We provide an illusion of playful luxury for our guests benefit, but rest assured, 90% of the time it is smoke and mirrors. Behind the scenes we struggle to pay our bills, put diapers on our babies and try to take care of those we love, all the while working on a way to get to a normal existence if that does in fact even exist. An extra $20 from each client equals a full appointment by the end of the week, and at the end of the month that pays the cell phone, buys the groceries and lets us take the little ones away for the weekend after we have paid both rents (home and incall), all our advertising, babysitters, hydro, car repairs, personal maintenance and the same expenses everyone else has. Not to mention the monthly payments on augmentation, lifts, tucks and anything else to keep us up to the exceptionally high standards expected if we want to continue making money in this arena. There are few SP?s who can keep up the daily client service to ensure long term financial viability in this business because of the emotional and physical toll this business extracts which sometimes means extended time offs to get our heads, hearts and bodies back in order. We have no paid holidays, benefits or paid personal days. If there is a crisis that forces us to take time off, we lose money and clients which often means we work regardless of illness, pain or any other of lifes challenges. Each SP has her own reasons for working, but the universal element is that we all are trying to achieve some sort of financial stability. I never expect tips, and I can count on one hand how many I have received since my arrival in Canada because of the nature of the business here. Hate to tell you guys, but Canadian men are not known for their generous nature, they rank a close second to Germans in this realm (I think the outlandishly high taxes inflicted in both countries has something to do with it!). I would never expect a tip from guests that have me on retainer, I see them weekly. But unless you are going to be a bankable commodity in a SP?s life, a tip relative to the quality of service is a sure way to say thank you and have her know you mean it... Catherine