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Whatever your field is, I would be curious to know how many times other professionals have been asked this very question. Dear gas attendant, it is my birthday today, can you charge me less per liter or in total? Dear mechanic, it is my birthday today, can I get a discount on your time and/or car parts? Dear dentist, it is my birthday today... Dear cashier at the grocery store... Dear psychologist... Dear landscaper... Dear babysitter... ... ... ... Would you ask those people for a discount for your birthday? Why not? So why does it always seem acceptable to ask this famous question to SPs aka sex workers? Because restaurants give you a cake with a candle on it for your birthday? The best way to "have your cake and eat it too" is to go to a restaurant and then go see an SP! Additional Comments: I almost forgot... Happy Birthday to the OP!

to politely decline the request for an encounter, for whatever reason, please accept her decision politely. Please understand these decisions aren't made lightly and are the result of a number of considerations, often including but certainly not limited things such as... scheduling conflicts, personal reasons, communication styles, reference reports, posting style & history, a simple lack of chemistry... or a combination thereof. It's important to remember that a lady is balancing her requirement for income with her comfort level and her compatibility with suitors, and when the scale tips too far the wrong way, she is then faced with the delicate task of informing someone that they'd not be a good match. Interrogating a lady, insisting she provide reasons for her decision, & asking for reconsideration will rarely gain you ground, and will almost always result in a lady being very glad she made the aforementioned decision. It makes an already awkward situation even more unpleasant. Please know that a lady makes this decision carefully, and is considering your best interests as well as her own. Accept it graciously. Thank you :)

I really don't think you will have any luck on your search. May be if you had seen an SP fairly regularly then you might get some thing extra, like a slightly lower rate but highly unlikely. More like you would get a cupcake or cookies (both items I had received as birthday gifts) but that was only with SPs I had seen regularly over the past few years. Another question, is how were you planning on "proving" your birth date. To really prove the date you would have to show some id. The only reason I received my birthday cupcakes and cookies was that in previous meetings I had mention which month I was born. No exact dates just the general month. Hopefully, you really are looking to celebrate your birthday and are just trying to see if you can swing a "deal". Lots of SPs hate that stuff. I would recommend you play the long game and start seeing some of the fine and generous ladies here on CERB and see what happens in a year from now. Happy Birthday and good luck on your search.

With all the negativity happening all around us, I thought a thread to focus on the good and positive might be a good thing. So share those things that make you smile or that you are grateful for. These are not highlights but rather more simple things that perhaps you overlook but add to your day. When someone thinks of you and says hello The smell of fresh brewed coffee The funny things that children say as they figure out the world around them The ability to play music anytime, anywhere for any mood The first touch of sun on your skin after being indoors An unexpected picture posted online that makes you laugh, better if a snort! Homemade brown bread

I think the OP's original request/suggestion is not to 'wait til tomorrow' but to simply move on.

Client first time caller: Hi, I've never seen you before, but today is my BD and i'm looking to see if you do any Birthday specials. SP: "zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz Like I haven't heard that one before. It's is second to the "I'm a student' (therefore i should have a discount) and close in line to "I'm a senior" (and therefore I should have a discount). " Here's how it really works. Client first time caller: Hi, i saw your ad, are you available on X at Ypm? SP: yes I am, thanks for calling, see you then. I have to ask, you have seen my rates yes? Client caller: Yes, it all looks great. It's my birthday, and I am planning this for a special treat for myself. SP: happy birthday, see you soon. OR Client 106th time caller: Hi, you available on X at ypm, it's my birthday and I'm looking to treat myself. SP: absolutely, see you then. And then sp proceeds to pick up something special for her long time regular, even if all it is is a cupcake with a candle.

Gawd - great idea in theory, but difficult to finalize. I would never want someone to approach me to barter my services. Period. If however I choose to ask my regular if he wants to barter with me, that would be my decision. I would never do it though. I would prefer to pay for things with cash. Easier Imo.

I don't offer birthday specials but once I have established regulars and they tell me it's their birthday, I will do something nice for them within our session. I think this is only appropriate if you know the person. How is an SP going to know it's someone's birthday? Are they going to show her their driver's license? I'm thinking probably not. Many people ask for discounts.. I'm a student.. okay, good for you but I charge equally to all my clients. A lot of entitlement these days imo. I hate to poo poo this idea and ruin the fantasy but this is our job and how we make our living. I've noticed lately that a lot of guys calling are expecting way less for than what we offer. We also have bills to pay. Would clients go to work for less than they want to be paid for? I highly doubt it. If I gave everyone a discount for whatever reason, I wouldn't be able to pay my bills.

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Listening to my son playing guitar. Chatting for hours with a very special someone :))) receiving a random text saying "thinking of you" Special friend you can reach out too A very happy Bianca xxx

When one of the dog's, cat's or bunny comes up to you to play with you.

I have notice that it happen more lately that some gents have extreme reactions to our refusal to see someone Guys bringing pictures of the sps and went to the front desk and gave her room number to get kick out,contacted the landlord of the building to give them unit and advertise lady. Info ,treaths of bad reviews,harassments,insults,try to book under other numbers names This type of behaviors have increase the past few years.. Almost like the clients has no fear and feel completely empower of not leaving us the choice..Which is scary I think it's part of any human being to dislike been decline services,intimate,well rejected however we all need to understand that in such circumstance it should be accepted and move on as it's usually for the best interest of both parties VJ

- receiving a friendly email, a text or a PM from a SP ( eg. saying Hello) - at a time other than regarding a booking of an appointment - smelling the fragrance of flowers when stepping into the yards - seeing the pics of my favorite little doggie

Seems to me that some clients demand 100% satisfaction or else they consider they session a total failure and want their money back. These are the same goofs who waste time at the cashier because they want five cents off their potato or whatever. If you cannot allow that occasionally things don't work out then grow up. And if losing $200 or $300 is a financial disaster you shouldn't be seeing escorts.

wow really? this sure appears to me to be a vent .... aka dirty laundry... disguised as an inquiry about others' experiences. If I'm right, you're insulting our intelligence, it's rather transparent and against the rules of CERB.

I gotta stay away from these threads, they make me jealous! 2-3 times a year, I'd say. 2-3 times a week if you count my dreams. ;) Ah well, at least those times sure are memorable!

Well when I started it averaged one date a month. Because of personal circumstances in my life it is reduced to a date once every few months My days of disappointing encounters is long gone though. While many guys use recommendations as a guide on who to see, what I found works for me is when a lady I trust and respect endorses (if that's the right word) another lady. Also, I repeat with ladies I have seen and have a good time with, which all but eliminates disappointing encounter. I've found one trick to avoid a disappointing date...stick with the ladies from CERB. All my bad dates were from CL, Er*s, and other sites. The ladies on CERB have a board presence, profile, recommendations (sometimes) and so on. Anyhow, a rambling RG

I want to share with community as someone I find it quite funny Recently to try to pay my taxes which had hit me very hard this year.. I decide to trew some incentive specials on my Gfe sessions even overnights It's has Been few months I do this and for the first time yesterday someone call me stupid and told me that was ignorant as it doesn't make any math sense..That I must be that ignorant xxxxxxx Anyways..his logic was to calculate my half hour rate special+my hour special and because it didn't total my 1.5 total I'm an ass Now my logic when I did my specials was that guests would see how much discount they were getting on the actual fees not making math of Hh 1 and 1.5 and 2 Fixed the problem..I higher my HH fee discounted lmaol You would think that some people would be greatful on fees been more affordable than normally..And I think most around the country have been so far that why they have book and stay quiet. Tonight I have " potential client" Asked me how come it was 180 and now 190 for Hh I explained that I tried to accommodate to more people and be lower ..But it's a special and I dont have to do it..So I raise the Hh special to quiet those that will call me stupid ass,whore etc Lesson from this: Nothing good to say..don't lol I'm sure now many men will be upset at that fella for saying what he said Xox VJ

In this instance, MsSarah, "outing" refers to an SPs working identity being linked with her personal one, and her being "outed" as a sex worker in her personal life.

The OP is asking if a provider has birthday specials. He's not asking for a freebie. He has only 4 posts to his credit, so some allowance could be considered for the "newbie" factor. The beauty of this industry, is that each provider can choose to run his / her business exactly as it best suits him / her. Be it rates, screening requirements, services provided...or anything else. Consider for a moment, that the OP has perused the ads from our wonderful ladies, and is simply looking to save himself some time...because after all: We have ladies with long weekend specials http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=191654&highlight=special We have ladies with special allowances for later bookings or overnight rendezvous http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=191648&highlight=special We have ladies with specials of the day http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=191639&highlight=special We have early bird specials, and specials for bringing wine http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=191629&highlight=special We have month end specials http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=191629&highlight=special We have specials to help pay for taxes http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=191446&highlight=special We have pre-booking specials http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=191045&highlight=special We have specials for "$50 reduction for a rendez-vous confirmed before " deadline http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=190144 Clearly, specials are a common thing. So my question is this...why is it ok for providers to have specials, but frowned upon when men inquire about specials? IMO, the OP is not looking to negotiate a ladies rates, he is inquiring if a provider has a birthday special...nothing more. Either a lady has one, or she doesn't. I don't see why it needs to be more complicated than that. After all, cut him some slack...it's his birthday ;)

All of my best clients are CERB guys ;) BP did not work well for me at all since most of the men, not all - but most are looking for everything and anything at the most cost effective price-and the bs filled text messages that follow-such an annoyance. I can honestly say I met 2 nice guys from BP. I refuse to give any money to that mismanaged site that also has the worst customer service EVER.

Seeing the happiness in faces of my grandchildren. Seeing an ad that one of the special ladies here on Cerb that you have being flirting with is coming to PEI:)

Katherine (aka Cathy hfxdom) is a Halifax provider who passes through here sometimes, and on her most recent stop I made my very first appointment with her. She is only my second such encounter, and it's going to be very, VERY difficult for anyone else to top her. She was sweet, kind, extremely patient with a nervous customer, and more than willing to accomodate my desires. She shows genuine enthusiasm for what she does, and gave me enormous pleasure. Her massage talents are amazing. Lads, she's also HOT. Fit and hot and very enthusiastic. I can't say enough about her. She has pages upon pages of recommendations over at the NS board for very good reason. Treat her well and make some appointments so she comes back to our city more often. She definitely is worth the time. There can't be many out there this awesome.

You shouldn't approach seeing a SP on your birthday as a chance to get a "birthday special" Instead, especially if you have a lady you see regularly, you might want to spend a day or evening out with a lady to share your birthday with her...but because you know and like her and that her company would make your birthday special But a call out on CERB makes me think your looking for a birthday discount...don't be surprised if you get no ladies "jumping" at the chance, they could spend the time better with a client who pays the full donation Just my opinion RG

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I think it's totally fine if both parties are comfortable with it. What two people choose to exchange is entirely between them. After all, what's the difference between asking for $500, versus something you both agree is worth $500? Part of the trick, though, is agreeing beforehand on what's really worth $500, plus ensuring that Service B really does get performed following the delivery of Service A. There can be a lot of practical problems making service-barter work in real life. Currency is immediate and convenient, which is one of the reasons it's so popular in general. ;) Incidentally I voted "no opinion" because I don't think is a bad idea, nor a great idea, just a bit tricky and situational.

Love this chéri!! Keep your libido going not necessarily to have U spend money but just to be alive!! And possibly for a VERY long time love!!!! Barbara xxxooo

Hi there. I can see where you would get turned off absolutely. Most women in this business will use a sponge that time of the month while working. Sometimes it is quite effective, other times not. It works great for some women and not so great for others. I, myself have tried this method before, and did not find it helpful. So now, I opt to take that week off. As I would recommend to other ladies. Native tradition, this is supposed to be a sacred time, your moon time. So, for the women that are regulated, and know when it's coming, plan to take a break. You deserve it and probably need it. If you are working regularly and budget properly, saving for that rainy day, than a week off won't affect you. It's not much fun working anyways if you are crampy, bloated and irritable. Although this is the one time a month women are most horny. God has a funny sense of humour. My comment to the men reading this, please go easy on the ladies. It's a natural part of life. Maybe your service provider just checked into a prime location and is out $200 or $300 in hotel fees, and surprise she got it early, and has to make the most of it. I do agree with the fact that perhaps she can offer other services than full. I have, myself, done this when in that predicament; offering oral or a nice tantric massage is a great alternative to full service. Another quick note; this is a fetish for a few men, a turn on, although some men are shy to admit it. I had an old boyfriend that absolutely loved going downtown on me that time of month. I was weird about it at first. But of course, I want to do anything to please my men. And sure enough, I loved it. And we connected really deeply. I am not suggesting this as a marketing strategy, messing around with blood is very risky. But keep an open mind. Different strokes for different folks. Thanks for reading, Sylvia Star

This type of stuff happens all the time, I show my face yet people ask for full nude photos - not going to happen EVER. You offered them Skype as an option and that was not feasible for them. Sounds like pic collectors to me, however I could be wrong. Why not offer a social rate for any meet and greets that way your being compensated for your time and if they are serious about booking, they won't balk at this. Or like anyone else if they are not happy with how you do things and how you present yourself, they can seek other company - anytime you have to adjust your policies for anyone they fuck you over.

In keeping with upholding & supporting future law in Canada, I want to provide law enforcement with an easy & convenient way of identifying Johns & Prostitutes. Johns: They look like your everyday, normal neighbours. They often walk their dogs and wear cardigans and rubber boots. Very sensible clothing. They also sport an unlit tobacco pipe just to make everything seem normal. Their names often start with John, Jack...names that start with "J". They cut the lawn religiously every Wednesday evening and take the garbage out in keeping with the local by-laws. They look like you and me, but they lead a secret life. Prostitutes: These individuals are a different breed. They look like your everyday, normal neighbours. They are often the target of hostile political movements which suit the moment. Sucks eh? Prostitutes also cut the lawn and take out the garbage in keeping with local by-laws. They look like you and me, but they lead a secret life. Hope this helps the Harper government in passing the new laws. Lock your doors everyone.

There is someone with a pro-C36 agenda. His/her method of attack has been to cherry pick the worst of whats said and display it as being representative of what happens in this industry. Recently, through some digging, she/he released the name of someone (a member of another forum) on twitter. This person has been getting cheered on by the other antis. Be especially careful now. I feel comfortable here posting more information about myself, but I have started being extremely selective on what I share. I know most are, but this just gives me the creeps.

Well Victoria, as someone that has met you in person, you are neither stupid nor ignorant. What you did is something that many businesses do when they need extra cash flow on a short term basis. You offer a special to attract extra customers. Virtually every small business does this at some time or another. It's quick sales to generate a little extra cash, nothing more or less. I, for one was happy when you were running your specials when we met, although I don't think I took advantage of that too much. :D Anyway, don't listen to this jerk and you are right. If all a person has is insults, then they should just keep their big mouth shut. P.S. Any plans on coming back out west (and north) in the future? Would love to get reacquainted with you. You are such a lovely lady. In the meantime, be well and safe out there.

I adore Meg. She is witty, classy, sexy, helpful and sweet.

A friendship with a certain special lady that kept a smile on my face when I was entitled to feel down My cat waking up to wake me up so we will go out to the living room and he can go back to sleep The smell and taste of that first morning cup of coffee Going back on CERB and read recommendations I wrote of past encounters Just a few things that keep me smiling RG :-)

- Crossing the bridge to come back home. - Picking flowers for bouquets in the house. - The picture or video of the day of my new grandson. - Friends dropping in. - Drafting what I think us a GREAT fantasy football team.

I've successfully bartered for services with clients. Sometimes I initiated the trade and sometimes the client suggested it first if they knew I needed help. Worked out really well every time.

Starting off a client/SP relationship by arguing is pretty stupid. A session is going to be way better if the lady is ready and willing than if whe is feeling pressured and uncomfortable. Seriously guys if she says no just wait til tomorrow or whenever. It's in your best interest!

Sitting in my undies waiting for the coffee to finish brewing, feeling the boys and giving myself boner. Now to plan my next visit!

<p>This also include past clients an SP no longer wishes to meet or people who no showed in the past looking fro a second chance.If a guy is on my personal black list for lack of better words then they have done something to annoy the life out of me or something seriously wrong. Stop asking why and move on. Dont call back for another chance because there won't be one. There are principles I follow in this business and I won't swallow my pride and see a person if they have done me wrong in anyway, shape or form. My SP friends in the business have nicknamed me the Ice Queen. I freeze these people out for good. Once I've severed the SP-client relationship, that's it.

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I would say on average about once every 5 or 6 weeks but if I could I would be definitely be on a weekly rate since I find it is such a great stress reliever, especially with the many lovely ladies here on CERB. The main reason why I do not see SPs weekly is mainly due to time and money. At the same time there is also the whole issue of your schedule lining up with the SP's schedule. I notice availablity can be pretty limited around university and college exam times.

Incidentally, part of my premise was that the SP was interested in doing this in the first place (which Layah seemed to be saying). As you and RG touch upon, no client should be introducing barter as a negotiating tactic. (Or negotiating at all.) "Hey, I got this '79 Ford Pinto..." "I'm really ace with a Bedazzler; I could add studs and rhinestones to change your wardrobe from dull to daring!" Ew. Stay classy, my friends! ;)

The two things are not mutually exclusive. i think what cat was getting at was that some services are provided due to market demand, and her points (seemingly missed?) that it is FAR more successful with trust and some history with the client, makes her point bang on (to use the drum analogy). An sp can enjoy daty and yet still provide it as a required service due to being a GFE provider due to market demands, and primarily for the consideration of the client not herself. If he is successful at it, that is her personal bonus lol. But an expectation of multiple orgasms possibly a few times a day due to seeing more than a couple of clients, and all multiple daty orgasms, just really isn't going to be realistic. Having said that, the majority of sps want to provide services that they themselves do enjoy, and not provide the ones they do not. So does someone who provides bbbjs or greek truly sincerely enjoy them, all the time with every single client because she just loves it that much? Or after the 5th greek client of the day, still doing it for the pure pleasure and not also because it is a service provided on her menu and ads? It is important, very important, to remember that this is not a FWB or GF/BF relationship, it is a service provider/client relationship, and the sessions are meant to be all about you. Some guys like to spend 45 minutes in daty, and figure that means they should get a discount because it is 'all for her'./ But 'all for her' doesn't pay the bills. re: rep comment, Peachy 'we' aren't assuming sps see up to 5 clients, but being realistic, especially for those who are on a limited schedule or traveling, it is entirely possible that on at least one day or once in a while, someone somewhere is going to see 5 clients. It is simply an example. Would it be better to say 3, 2 ? it is still more than most people experience in a single day. or even several days in a row with 2 a day.

OOOOOH You are so mean with your sister-in-law!!! ;-)

I would just add to MightyPen's comment that since it is the lady who determines what her rate is, it is up to her to offer bartering as an option for paying the donation. It isn't up to a client/prospective client to offer to pay via bartering, it reeks of negotiating. And most ladies have it in their websites no negotiating. It would be tricky to, pardon the pun, negotiate a bartering arrangement where both parties have a mutually benefited. The simplest thing is to pay the lady's rate. If the lady needs a certain service she has the money from paid encounters to pay for the service. My barter arrangement then would be I'll provide you with X amount of dollars for Y amount of your time LOL A rambling RG

All I can say is that the ladies I see put up with my shortcomings so I can put up with theirs. Nobody's perfect.

Phaedrus is right. We all know the moment "it" happens, we feel it in our gut. That moment where there is not a fact someone has presented still standing under scrutiny and the next words out of their mouth is a personalized attack. It's in that moment we know we have reached deep down within them and challenged the very core of their beliefs. They struggle to hold onto those beliefs because they are identified with them, it makes them right and others wrong which is integral to their sense of self. They believe it's their belief that makes them who they are; challenging their beliefs with truth is within them akin to a part of them dying. When I'm engaged with someone I always assess them using these 3 points as guidelines. It helps me to formulate which method of engagement to utilize. Is what their are saying... a thought? These are fluid and open to dialogue. an opinion? These are more firmly held but can be challenged and changed with new ideas. A belief? Wars are started and people die for their beliefs. In any discussion, once someone makes it personal it is the most trustworthy sign of defeat. For those who are the casualties of outing, my heart feels for you and I am sorry. Thank you for taking the hit. Just remember we simply have to stay the course and don't engage; the true believers are not the ones we need to sway. It's those with thoughts and opinions who will turn the tide for us and I genuinely believe that change will come... cat

Auto correct My dad had a minor medical procedure done. He is in his 80's and texts. Sooooo I texted him yesterday ... "How are you doing?" BUT with auto correct and me not paying attention he got ...... "How's your dong ? Ha His reply was "Son you don't need to know that" lol I cryed from laughing.

In the grand scheme of things, they may do that but nobody is paying attention to them and by nobody I mean anyone who is worthwhile and who actually can make that information valuable. They are enclosed in their own little circle of people and if you call it out then that risks drawing more attention to the information. The people who are following both sides of the debate are realizing the gross tactics of the antis and these people include non-sex workers with huge followings and media people. While they may resort to disgusting tactics to achieve their goal of silencing their opponents and while they are in bed (so to speak) with the CPC, they are doing this to themselves. Let them implicate themselves and be their own downfall. I know it's easy to say and harder to actually do... I also suggest blocking the antis before the Senate meetings and don't @ them during or shortly after the meetings. Ps. There is an option to report twitter accounts that post private information. I haven't heard of anyone having any success with these reports but you can also try going that route if the gent or you are worried. It's kind of an annoying process too but it's an option.

Over my second coffee, looking for measurement progress charts (to mark my fitness progress when my membership at the Y starts) on line, surfing CERB, doing some tweeting, and watching the Rifleman RG