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I commend you for being conscientious and not wanting to contribute to an individual's exploitation. Being an ethical consumer is great. However, I think your criteria oversimplifies and doesn't really reflect reality. The vast, vast majority of sex workers don't have a pimp and aren't being coerced into working by an individual who is controlling their movement or taking their money. This does happen and is terrible, but rare. However, capitalism is inherently coercive, and there is a huge spectrum that falls between the extremes of being forced to work through threats or violence, and doing this work because you love it, and would choose it over other really fulfilling options. Almost every sex worker you meet will fall somewhere on this spectrum, and very, very few will be at one extreme or the other. Reality is that except for a very privileged few, we all have to work to pay the bills, have a place to live, and function in society. The social safety net is insufficient and so many people who need it can't access it. Minimum wage hasn't kept pace with inflation, and many full time jobs don't pay enough to live on. The requirement to work is inherently coercive, most sex workers decide for themselves that this type of work is the best option for them within an inherently coercive system (and this is true of most jobs, not just sex work.) I know plenty of sex workers who hate doing sex work but choose to, because all the other options are worse, and plenty who enjoy doing sex work but would quit in a heartbeat if they no longer needed the income from it. Neither group are coerced by an individual, but by the system we live in. I would encourage everyone to figure out for themselves what criteria feels comfortable and ethical and stick to those criteria for themselves, but also remember that most sex workers aren't being coerced or exploited by an individual, and still need good, respectful clients so they can continue making a living. For clients who are concerned about the welfare of sex workers, I would encourage you to be the best client you can be in individual interactions - show up, tip, respect boundaries and consent, respect the screening process. And more importantly, get involved with pushing for decriminalization, strengthening the social safety net, and ensuring that other jobs are a viable choice. Working to create a world where people who are being exploited can get help without fear of being arrested, deported, abused by police, or having their children seized, and where people who don't want to do sex work have a full range of other options readily available, is really the only way to ensure that the sex worker you're seeing freely and enthusiastically choose the work. Additional Comments: I would also add that having a manager, agency, booker, driver or other third party doesn't mean that someone is being exploited or coerced. Being independent is a lot of work and requires particular skills that not everyone has or has an interest in acquiring/using. It's totally fine to choose to only see independent sex workers, but there are many legitimate reasons why someone might choose to work with or for third parties.

I have a number of lovely tattoos... a matched set on my upper arms actually.. and panning for at least one more verrry lovely large piece on my back (next birthday present to myself hehe) and know a number of women who are literaly 'covered' in them... and they are not in any way being abused... that one I find a bit weird ... have to say ;) As far as talking on the phone with me.... hehe I normally do not.. I prefer to keep my phone for those who have already met me, or others that fall into different categories (family, friends, 'legit' business'... and I don't typically budge from that one... I do run an entire 'legit' clinic.. and being on the phone, potentially in front of a 'regular therapy' client while attempting to discuss parrrrrticulars of a s3xual nature... nooooot ever going to happen.... I do commend you on attempting to gain control over a sex addiction.. but I think you are putting far too much energy into figuring out who is being 'harmed' and who isn't...and not sure how that factors into your gaining control over your own situation ;) ... may sound cold but.. it really isn't your concern...(someone had to say it hehe)... more simply put.. and has been said already, by myself as well as others.. go with what you are comfortable with.. and not which you are not. ...and I really am curious as to how many providers you have encountered that approach your home (??) in a 'sketchy' black-windowed white van? ;) I once heard a saying that I think is the single most brilliant thing I have ever been told; "If you have a problem, and there *is* a solution.. then don't worry (after all, you *can* fix it).. If you have a problem... and there is... *noo* solution (as in no matter what you do/try/think/feel.. you cannot change/alter/fix) then... don't worry" ;) - Buddah I understand, I think, what you are getting at... and for some young (and I stress *young*) women, there *may* be the odd one who is in fact under the influence of some lazy @ss who figures he can use her as a meal ticket rather than be a man and get his own job <grin>.. but those, in this level of the industry from what I have seen/experienced anyway.. are thankfully few and far between....... ...and I fully agree with the recent comment as far as who made you think to post this in the first place... and why... meditate.. (it really does help) and if you still feel skittish on this person.. then don't see them :) ...as an aside.. and again, I 'get it'.. and i personally am not offended, but some women *might* be... at your comments regarding 'scoring points in some areas....' or 'qualifying' ;) may draw out some claws in some ladies - as competitive as some areas of this industry may be.. it isn't 'actually' a contest, just in your own mind ;)

I'm going to keep this brief as I'm on the way to the gym... But a friend has informed me that they are doing an interview with sex workers (funded by the government) to ask about how the new law is impacting our lives!!! And they pay you $50 for your time. Please if you can find the time, participate. It's so important for workers everywhere...especially thise currently slipping between the cracks :( and just imagine what we could change if we were given more say in governing something the government clearly is lacking in direct knowledge about. I'm just waiting to find out the details on where to contact them. I'm literally so excited right now!!!!!

In any service-oriented business, reviews/referrals do make a major difference. I really love seeing ladies who I've had a great time with getting positive reviews from others. They pour so much physical generosity into their work that it deserves to be recognized and shared with others. And although every interaction is subjective and personal, there really is such a variation between experiences on offer, ranging from the uncomfortable and unfortunate to the mechanical to experiences that leave you with a glow for days afterwards that it's worth sharing those blissful experiences so that others may experience them too.

I agree with what Blacklabdog said about the provision of sexual services to be a profession. And these lovely women put up with enough BS by society and governments without having to deal with cheap clients looking to save a few bucks. As I normally go for an hour, I have found the average rates to be between $180 to 250. Those who charge more must be able to find clients who find those rates a good value for the experience provided. I would be wary, however, of any offers under this range and believe lower rates by some do devalue the profession. Women in this profession, provide the most intimate of experiences to the mostly men they accept to meet. They deserve our support, respect and appreciation including for the fees they charge. Any bargainers and cheapskates should be kicked to the curb.

I see where you are coming from, and I'm not trying to criticize, but for me, fake pics are an unforgivable transgression. No grey area at all. You only have a bit of information about the person on the other end of that ad, and to find out that most of it is a lie? For me, that's step one in my "ad filter" process. If pics are stolen, move on. Don't look back. I understand why someone would not want a face pic posted. So don't post one then. It isn't a requirement and most do not choose to post one. I know that there are other reasons a "legit" girl might choose to misrepresent herself, and that it doesn't necessarily mean that it is really a dude with a gun waiting to take my wallet and kidney at the in call location, instead of someone who inexplicably looks like Jessica Alba, (some humor there to make a point;) ), but since the photos that caught my eye in the first place are a lie, then I'm moving on. I now know only one thing for sure about this person, and that is that they are not who they are claiming to be. I've also never heard of a case where someone used photos of someone LESS attractive then they are out of fear that they were too intimidatingly beautiful. I suppose it's possible but is unlikely to be the case. ;) Again, just my opinion and my own screening process, but it has worked well for me so far. I would rather over-screen and miss someone good, than under-screen a face the consequences of that. Stay safe and enjoy! Mikey

I do! You, and I getting loss with each other..... Our possibilities are endless...... I'm here waiting for you. I will be in Halifax today, and tomorrow. I can't wait to be in your arms :) [email protected] http://Www.carleychase.com I'll be looking forward to seeing you soon! Lots of love, and hugs Carley xox

From the details you have mentioned, it sounds like you are referring to POWER's research. There is a thread about the research here: http://www.lyla.com/vbulletin/showthread.php?p=758444#post758444 POWER is a sex worker led organization, that advocates for sex workers' rights. I have done some work with them in the past and they are good shit. I encourage those interested to participate. They are non-judgemental and your anonymity is assured. Here is the poster with more info about how to participate in the research:

...It is most certainly a good place to get opinions.. especially 'unfiltered' ones (both the good and the bad I find, are always best)... :) and yet again... as has been mentioned tons of times on here... going with what *you* feel comfortable with...following gut... doing homework... NOT only basing whether you deal with someone as to whether they have a tattoo of a name - could be their much-loved grandmother's name *I* have one on the small of my back.. a heart with a banner that turns into an arrow, pointing down my @ss <grin>.. and the 'name'on the banner.....is 'HIS' hehe love it as do people lucky enough to have seen it hehe :) ....or whether they pick up the phone asap when you call... leave a detailed msg (clients are baaaad for that!....).... as chances are good that most of us are busy, with this work, or other.. or life in general hehe and don't always rush to pick up the phone.... *that* to me also.. would scream desperation.... Nobody can tell outright and definitively whether someone is doing whatever they are doing because they 'truly' want to... although those of us ladies on here... rest assured.. are here because we love what we do ;) BP and other places.. again, can't say without an absolute doubt.... but that is where your own thoughts/feelings/gut/instincts come into play..... and nobody can do that for you, except you :) I'm not intending to come off as harsh.. but I do have a very blunt nature... hehe usually good-natured... so please don't take offence.. it's just one of those 'it is what it is' sort of scenarios and you take from i twhat you want/need... and don't worry about the rest.. **Of course, if you are ever in a situation with a woman where she appears to be 'recently' injured... frightened... or 'something' is just 'off'..... perhaps she is in need of help....and I would hope someone would ask/offer..... but I wouldn't suggest going looking for it <sketchiness>....where it isn't there <hugs>

I've actually read an article about this with an accompanying video. The interviewers are not so nice about it. If you are strong willed and know how to speak your mind with ignorant people, go on forward! I sure am prepared to be a part of this as I'm ready to break the stigma!

It's not rocket science and red flags are readily apparent if you pay attention. As with any thing in life common sense..... is just that common sense. I have a strict criteria I developed for me through trial and error of course and I stick to and its serves me well. I can tell almost instantly whether to delve further into something or not. Peace MG

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You can charge whatever you want. If you are provide good service and have happy clients that return on a regular basis, then you are charging what the market will bear. But if you are charging more then the market and not attracting new clients or retaining old clients, then you are either charging too much. Or not providing service that the clients value at that rate. To complete you may need to compete. These day's there seem to be a multitude of beautiful new girls that have lower rates. Thee girls may make more in the long run , by having a larger volume. But compare to a regular minimum wage job. These girls are still making way more then they could doing something else. So adjust your rate to where you can afford to live comfortably. Remember customer service is of utmost importance. It is easier to retain a customer that you made happy then to attract a new one. If the service is below par, news will spread quickly.

You might want to consider other possibilities such as Brass Club where the well-known and well-respected nuru expert Jessica, formerly of CMJ, has trained many of their hostesses in nuru massage. I'm quite sure that four hands/duo nuru massage is a possibility at Brass Club. They may give you what you're looking for after a hard week's work ;)

I completely agree with Meaghan - all these ratings just don't have any sense, it is too personal. I never write this sort of reviews with ratings or too explicit details. I write recommendations not often, only when I had really good and distinguished experience. I understand, it is just my personal opinion. And in my recommendation, I try to express the general feeling about this date, give some ideas about Lady's personality, describe what impressed me the most. From my recent observations, writing good recommendation can have interesting side effects: - A couple of PMs from Ladies offering some discount if I turn to be in their area. And no strings attached - I don't need to write recommendation. - Was asked after the date if I am still seeing that girl (I wrote recommendation for). Positive aspect here - the Lady has taken some efforts to know me, have read my recommendations/ posts. But definitely some comparison was expected in my answer - positive of course, I am here and not there. - One young Lady asked me after the date to give her some suggestions regarding improving her service and mentioned my recommendation as a target. It looks like posting recommendations can lead to interesting experience :-)

Soft lips, she has got to have soft lips! There is something special about a woman with soft lips that when she kisses you, you just melt inside a bit!

I may be in the minority here but I don't offer a shower for two. I think the biggest part is I take time to do my hair and makeup and have had a few fiascos where I had to basically take off all my makeup and redo my hair due to those pesky and at time uncontrollable shower heads. However, I do offer a bath tub experience for two on my hour massage appointments in a big roman bath that I have. It's great on a cold winter's day and really nice to relax in. Ultimately I don't get wet above my chest. lol.

I once met a gentleman who was having a great time but got interrupted and had to go back to work in the middle of the hour. When he was leaving, I gave him such a steamy hug and goodbye kiss that he said "Forget it, I don't care if I'm late" and he ripped his trench coat off in such a fury. I'll never forget it. lol.

She lies tantalizingly on her stomach, and wiggles her ass for attention, turning her head, smiling sweetly, to invite and tease me. I kiss her gently all the way down her back, and for the first time my mouth slides between her ass cheeks, kissing and licking. Contact. Engagement. Excitement. I gasp with the pleasure of it, and of what's to come. My tongue and lips start to probe slowly, and then I encounter the spot I've been seeking. She moans, and thrusts in greeting and acceptance. What happens next is a dance of ecstasy. I feel united with this beauty, and I lose myself in the lust she awakens in me. She bucks and thrusts against my mouth, my tongue, as I explore lovingly all around her. My hands grasp her, and spread her wider. She begins to finger herself, with more and more intensity, and then the thrusting becomes frenzied and passion overtakes us both. Time to roll over, I say. We laugh together, and she turns.....

Purpose This Howto describes how to post pictures into an album. Prerequisite There are certain prerequisites that you should be aware of before posting your album. There is a file size of 97.7KB per picture. The maximum dimensions is 600 pixels width and 600 pixels height. Note that pictures from a digital camera would far exceed this limit. Although the system will attempt to resize any pictures to fit these criteria it might be best to manually do this for better results. Description Pictures represent one of the frequently requested items from a Service Provider. Also pictures in the album cycle through the Front page under the Random Album Pictures section. From the Front Page click on your name above the Status Information. This will bring you to your profile. Click on the Add Albums marked (1) in the screenshot above. With a new album there are several fields you will need to fill in. 1. Title. Set a title for this album. Since you may have multiple albums a meaningful title helps. Public titles will appear in the Random Album Pictures. 2. Description. A description for this album. This field is optional and can be left blank. 3. Album type. There are 3 album types. A public album is viewable by everyone and will appear in the Random Album Pictures. This is the most common Service Provider album type. Hobbiest may not have public albums. Private album is viewable only by contacts and mod. A Service Provider may choose to set some or all their albums to private for privacy sake. Profile album stores pictures that can later be use to modify or augment your profile. Once you have filled in the various information above click the button, marked (4) to create the new album. EmmaA has graciously allowed to use her album as an example of how the Title and Description would appear in the finish album. This example is shown below. Now you are ready to upload your pictures. 5. Upload Pictures. Clicking on any of these links will start the process for uploading your pictures.

Purpose This Howto describes how to send a Private Message aka PM. Description There are three locations for sending a Private Message. While reading a thread or post While browsing a user's profile From the User Control Panel 1. Reading thread or post While reading a thread or post you can send the author a PM by left-clicking on the author's name as shown below. The second option marked (1) would bring you to the PM Editor. 2. Browsing user profile While browsing a user profile, which you can use the Active User lists for, left-click on Send Message just below the user's handle. The second option marked (1) would bring you to the PM Editor. 3. User Control Panel This might be the most common means of sending a PM. From the Front Page enter the Control Panel by clicking on User CP. The option marked (1) would bring you to the PM Editor.

So I have a question mostly for the gents, but ladies please don't hesitate to weigh in. Lately I have heard more and more clients telling me that I charge too much. This doesn't really bother me because I (and the men who frequently indulge) know my worth and will not allow someone to make me feel lile I am worth less. However... What DOES alarm me is the growing trend of providers who are apparently charging less and less to compete. Ummm, what? Can someone explain to to me how lowering your rates helps you do anything but work harder for less money?! So this my question... According to numerous gentlemen, there is a majority of female providers charging 80-100/hr. Now, they could be telling me this in feeble attempts to sway my firm rates. So Im wondering if my fellow Cerbies can give me a better picture of the standard going rates on BP. And please share details such as quality of service, attractiveness, etc. I'm curious to hear the overall before I decide how enraged I am that these girls think so litte of themselves. Please note that I am not bashing or judging anyone who partakes in this. I just think we as women in the industry should be banding together instead of imploding the industry by trying to "outdeal" eachother, for lack of a better word. My rates are in no way overly expensive but I find it hard to get consistent enough bookings to justify providing incall. I have a feeling it has a lot to do with the steady decrease in rates. (At least Im hoping it is lol)

I came about mine... same way I came about this site actually... very 'last minute' and 'sudden'. For some years, I have conducted myself and the lovely things I get up to.. verrrrry quietly out of my place of business, using very specific methods to attract the clients I was after.... NEVER by phone (my legitimate business, so.. nope, not happening hehe) One day, I received no less than SEVEN calls on my business line, asking about massage. I have no idea who I am talking to, so I go into 'auto-pilot' and explain I am not an RMT, so if they have insurrance they are not getting their money back (so... quit asking hehe).... the gent would get flustered, and tonge-tied, and say he'd call back.. and quickly hang up... leaving me knowing exactly why they were calling, but wondering hth they got my number.... finally, one man, ridiculously perrrrrsistant in his need to see me that day.. said he was fine with no reimbursement.. and I booked him, intending on finding out wth is going on ;) He arrived in my office, and I had barely got the door closed to my room and he had removed every shred of clothing, standing there in the middle of my office hehe.. so, I knew where this was going, and the massage proceeded.. and was lovely <grin> But when I asked him how he came about hearing of me... he told me that a man was raaaving about how grrreat the massages were with me, on a website he is a member on....so he had to try for himself (also said he was very happy he did hehe) I just about lost my mind!! I found out the info (lyla.com hehe) and went to check it out for myself.. and found I had to log in as a new member.. couldn't just pop in as a guest.. and the level of anger I was feeling.. coupled with my preferrrrence to remain composed.. I wanted something in a name that reflected both my strength and my composure....a cougar, is perrrfect for that...and wanted it to be something this individual would remember.. after I sunk my clawz into him and removed a good portion of his skin <grin> so "CapitalC" to make it stick ;) ....which, incidentally, I did.. rather publicly.. <grin>...once I found the post he had put up.. a wonderful recommendation actually... but.. he had not only listed my *real name* but my business name.. the address.. the phone number... ACK! I also emailed the moderator, informing him of my complete displeasurrrre at the situation, telling him I was going to stay online until any/all traces of that information was removed from the entire site.... <grin> by the time I heard back from the mod (which was wonderfully fast, btw.. ) and saw for myself that it had been removed.. I had 7 messages in my PM box hahaha not sure if I should kiss the guy or kick him.. but.. yeah..... ;) liked it here, so ... here I stay ;) <......curls soft tail around well-muscled legs.... purrrring... content...>

Thanks for taking an interest in my ad. For Immediate Response Text: 613-884-3102 I offer Companionship with Massage as well as "Manscaping." With 2 Locations to suit everyone's taste. The "Boudoir" is located in "Little Italy" perfect for tender moments. "Dungeon613" is located in Centertown I stand 5'7 with long lush brown hair. All natural DD38 breasts & a spankable derriere. My relaxed style will put you at ease. I'm a good listener and easy to talk with, I have an open mind & I'm sincere . I enjoy sharing a mutually satisfying experience that's are never rushed. It's all about having a good time Availability Thursday: 9am-11pm Friday: 9am-5pm Sunday: 8pm-11pm ***VISA*MASTER*AMEX*** ********************** Contact Info PM Ms. Samantha or Text/Call 613-884-3102 E-mail [email protected] ***************************** Manscaping: Trimming/shaving of a man's body hair so as to enhance our appearance . Available for private areas & torso Massage: Warm oil full body relaxation massage. Domination: Sensory play, Role play, Fem Dom Fetishes: Leather, Latex, Panty Hose, Foot *********************************** My Recommendations http://www.lyla.com/vbulletin/showthread.php?ltr=S&t=68076 30mins/$150 1h/$200 90mins/$250 2h/$300 Couples 2hrs/$450 I can visit for an added $50 Downtown w/Free Parking Kisses & Spanks Ms.Samantha xox

Lisa is a perky English blonde with a firm lovely bum and a wicked sense of humour. She reminds me of the girls I used to enjoy meeting in England, back in the day. I like her sense of fun and adventure, her wit and her conversation. Pretty good massage skills, too. :) Attractive, easygoing, and fully into her work, she promised to put a smile on my face, and she succeeded. Admirably. In fact I'm still smiling, days later.

A recommendation helps the woman gain new customers and the client to know that she is real and not a bait and switch. All experiences a YMMV and depends on chemistry and connection. Not all sessions are the same. But the most important fact is that she is real and as advertise and is safe. Don't need to put in the details of the encounter. But just the fact that you left happy and would or not not repeat.

I bought a hair clip and conditioner

120hh 220hr is pretty standard in Ottawa

*IF* a lady is okay with you giving her name/contact info out to others... pleeeeease tell the person who you give the info to... that it's ok to also use YOUR name (or at least your username)... I just spent the last 45 minutes of a lovely sunny day.. trying to extract basic information from a an who claims a 'friend' gave him my email.... but was unaware of all i offer, or my website...(sketchy...) I asked the friends name.. he wouldn't give it.... I explained why I want that name.... he wouldn't give it.... several emails back and forth later.. all I get is 'Joe'..... and the man msging me still hasn't offered me *his* name... which I had asked a few times already..... (what day/time/type of session are you looking for... what is your name, and how did you come by my info... pretty basic stuff I'd think) may not agree to see him... as I pride myself on discretion and am verrrrry careful as to who has my contact info, and how they get it... so fellas.... as a favor to not only us.. but to anyone you may refer.... tell them to offer a lady your username if you aren't comfy giving your real one... 'so and so from lyla' works amazingly well ;) I do have many other fun ways to spend my day rather than pulling teeth out of rock ;) couldn't decide whether this should go in turn offs for a lady, or how to be a decent client but hehe ;)

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Tuesday lunch today and the menu was sumptuous. Maria, Delicious, Juicy, Claire, Harley, Maddy, Claire (newly back on deck, and looking svelte and lovely) and Cassie. And that was before the ravishing Mila walked in, just as I was leaving.

I haven't noticed a trend of lowering rates. I would say rates have been fairly consistent for awhile. I would say it is not at all accurate that a majority of providers are charging 80-100 per hour. I have never seen that and if I did, I would probably assume it was some type of scam. I would say the most common hour rates are in the area of 160-200. I have seen as low as 120 and as high as 400 but those are extremes and very rare. It's difficult to compare rates because there are a lot of factors that affect rates such as: Services - ladies who offer less options generally charge less Experience - it seems to me the most popular providers are the ones who are un-rushed, friendly, and go out of their way to create a fun experience for their clients Attractiveness - I think the truth is that guys will pay more to spend time with a lady who is DDG, for ex. Willingness to travel - ladies who travel frequently can often charge more because their pool of clients is larger (that's my theory anyway) Repeat customers - it's quite common that ladies offer lower rates to their regulars Location - I think clients generally expect better quality incall locations with providers who charge higher rates, also rates are often a bit lower outside the downtown core or on the Quebec side There are probably other factors I'm not thinking of right now as well. I would say that providers who are strong in these areas aren't lowering their rates. My guess would be that if someone keeps dropping their rates it's because they aren't offering sessions that clients want to pay for because they are lacking in one or more of the areas listed above. Hope that helps

The donation you ask for is in accordance to what YOU are happy with at the end of the day... Do you enjoy the dates you see? Are you living financially secured? I myself weigh in on what type of people I want to cater to. People who respect you and respect your rates are the people you want to accommodate to. I could not be in this business if I could not enjoy myself. This "average" scale pisses me off tbh. We are ALL individual providers and dance to different rhythms. None of us are the same so why should our rates be? No body can direct how you run YOUR business. Any one who does is not worth your time, dear. Same thing with what type of experience you offer. Do you. If buddy wants something else, he can see someone else. It's vacation season and the amount of drama I have encounters on twitter is astonishing. Girls... DO YOU. That is all.

Alison is a true gem. Check her recommendations. She's a true gem and am amazing girl to talk to. I'm looking forward to when I can see her again

Stevemcqueen said: mrrnice2 said: A little research is needed before making such statements. The U.S. constitution has changed in the history since its inception in 1789. The constitution has been amended twenty-seven (27) times, the last being in 1992. The original section, The Bill of Rights, are there to protect the individual's rights and liberties, and places restrictions on what the government can do. The remaining 17 amendments expand on individual civil liberties. As the times changed, so did the government's views on a person's rights and changes were made to the constitution. For example, abolishing slavery, prohibit the government from allowing women to vote, and the age at which someone can vote. These changes came a century after the Constitution was enacted. There has only been one amendment that has been repealed, and that was the eighteenth amendment; prohibiting the making, transporting, and selling of alcohol. At the turn of the last century, the government felt the need to prohibit alcohol. Then 13 years later, they repealed that amendment. Times changed and the Constitution changed with it. The issue seems, at least in my opinion, to be with how the laws are interpreted. Especially with the Second amendment, the right to keep and bear arms. Therefore, making statements that the Constitution hasn't changed, or cannot be changed are completely false.

just get the bjs using condoms. I think it is only the reverse that guys might have trouble getting, as in someone only provides cbjs is going to get asked to give a bbbj, or pressured to do. If someone is doing the bbbj and you don't want one, just put a cover on it. Not many sps will refuse to give you that option considering it is much safer for them, and you. if your concern is you like to do other things (kissing, etc) and don't want to do that with a bbbj provider, then another suggestiion is when you find the cbj only provider, that you continue to repeat with her, which is also a way to reward the cbj providers by repeating with them, :)

I like Anastasia! :)

I had a similar epiphany. I'm nowhere near as experienced as some of the people on this board, but I work an extremely high-stress job, started developing lower back pain, and started going to MAs occasionally as a way to help cope. Then one MA just voluntarily gave me a bodyslide (I didn't ask for it, it was just a nice extra), and at that moment I felt like I was 16 again. It sounds a little corny/lame, but it made a huge, huge difference in my mental state to have someone voluntarily touch me like that. I think we underestimate the importance of touch.

My favorite activity is the nude-reverse massage parlors of Mississauga. On the menu thanks to Ms. Hazel for decades mayor into her 90s. If we in the U.S. would just adopt the harm reduction model of Canada without the big issues for consenting adults. My favorite adult activity is massage, giving as well as receiving from an attractive naked women, and the positive reaction I usually get very quickly after getting my "hands on her." Also why I enjoy contact lap dances at strip clubs (especially in Canada). I've been trained in Esalen, taught couples classes, and have a 10-minute routine for the nude-reverse parlors, which I call more loving touch - very sensual but not directly sexual (no penetration). There is a scientific reason we enjoy caring touch done by someone we trust. The trust is usually established quickly by the right kind of touch - not groping and grabbing as I am told lots of men do. While I prefer an attractive women, it is the same principle why therapy dogs are becoming popular or why we enjoy petting a dog or cat. Dogs have been used to help stress in long lines at airports and recently been allowed to sit next to children testifying about sexual abuse. When the dog senses stress (cortisol hormone) it nudges the person and the dog wants to be petted. It has been shown that the petting then releases oxytocin in the human. Most dogs like petting. Most women or men, like to be lovingly massaged or caressed. Cuddling with an adult companion is also one of my favorite sports and legal even in the U.S. While human contact with a woman (for us straight men) is far nicer for most of us than a dog, the science is similar. It generates the calming feel-good hormone oxytocin which adds to the enjoyment of "sensuality". In stress situations, a therapy dog has very sensitive smell for human cortisol which is the stress hormone when we are under stress. Dogs can also detect low blood sugar levels in diabetics and often have warned their humans to wake up or amazing other things, even detecting cancer in some patients and even if not trained can act alarmingly - pawing etc - on a part of the body that has cancer growing. In stress situations (waiting long lines at an airport or testifying in court about sexual abuse, for example), oxytocin counter acts the cortisol. But even without stress, it can be released as in nice massage or just when petting a dog or cat. Medically, the peptide hormone oxytocin is produced in the hypothalamus and released into the circulatory system and the brain in response to sensory stimulation via a network of OT-containing nerves.

As someone trained in massage this is definitely also possible for therapists :) I've studied in shiatsu where philosophically we do not differentiate so much between the person giving and receiving and are trained to work in a way where we are listening to and caring for our own bodies at the same time as we are giving to others. Often skilled practitioners will say that any chronic pain or injuries they themselves have are healed through their massage practices. Part of giving a good massage is being highly attuned to what is happening in your own body.

Dose anyone know if Daisy and Honey are Retired? They worked at Barefaxs July of last year? TY

Hey everyone ! :) I'm not too sure if this is the right section to post this, if not my apologies but I got a request for the spinners social group and I have no idea how to accept it! lol So if anyone would be kind enough to help me that would be greatly appreciated! hugs & kisses to all you sexy ladies and kind gentlemen xoxo

I once enacted a pickup fantasy in a bar with an sp who I was meeting for the first time. We had arranged to meet there before our date, and weren't planning to act out a fantasy, but it just happened, spontaneously, and was incredibly exciting. By the time we got to my room I was ragingly aroused. :)