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I like Midnight-Massage because she always seems so upbeat and positive. I have certainly not been that way of late and she tends to calm me down and that's a pretty nice thing! I've also been fortunate enough to meet her a couple of times and that has been a privilege. She is supportive I know of so many members on this board!

I don't know the answer to this, but... I really, really hope not. It would be a very sad day if all ads were done to the same template and the only difference between ladies was the pics.

I personally like them. It doesn't particularly sexy to have a piece of latex sticking out of your genitalia...but eh it does have some advantages 1) for those that want to do duos and have the fantasy of not changing condoms between girls can do it since each sP can wear a female condom 2) it's really good for those that get soft with putting a condom on their penis since you don't have the feeling of being construct by it

I want those. Seriously.

Hmmm. MN2 cheers for the wrong hockey team, the wrong CFL team, DEFINATELY the wrong NFL team but you know what..... After all that I still like him. He is a remarkable fella and Cerb is lucky to have his upbeat presence here.

Not sure if this is the right section, if not please move it for me.... I am needing some legal advice pertaining to defamation of character and all that jazz that goes along with it. If there is anyone who is a member of the board who has legal expertise in this field I would greatly appreciate you contacting me, I will accept pm's for this matter for your privacy as well..... Thank you in advance and any help/advice is greatly appreciated. xoxo Emily

Does this include a random guy saying he read your website, how nice it was and then tries to negotiate an appt asking for $100 an hour? It's mentioned a few times on my site that I don't negotiate. lol. Some people don't read, they are just completely ignorant or they just want to push to see how far they can get. I ended the convo right then and there. Definitely par for the course in this business but it sucks when you think you are having a good conversation with someone and then they drop the bomb, "I don't mean to sound cheap but can you do xxx for the hour?" Game over..

I just had a quick preview at my new pictures from my photoshoot yesterday... Can you say awesome and awesome again?! I'm a very happy camper at the moment! :biggrin:

If you are a well known established lady with a reputation for being discreet, sure, I will share info if I really need to see you. A new member with two posts? No thanks. It's a choice between seeing someone I know and trust vs seeing someone I do not know anything about and who wants my info.

Well, I was very fortunate earlier this week that Victoria was stopping in my little town. I got in touch with her and the meeting was set. Upon arrival to her room, I was greeted with a great, warm hug and kiss by what can only be described as a goddess. Tall, fit, great curves and oh man, what a kisser. I felt at ease instantly and we had so much fun. Victoria has a couple of "ticklish" places and she giggles but says she loves the tickling feeling so I, of course, kept going back for more. :D. Then she took the reins, so to speak and practically made me melt. I won't get into the explicit details (it's not my style), but this lady has skills that are hard to match. We had such a wonderful time and the "oui, oui" and "ooo la la" during our intimate time was icing on the cake. Victoria is exquisite in every sense of the word. A remarkable beauty that I will make every effort to see again if she comes my way in the future. Thank you to this wonderful woman.

Today I had the opportunity to confront myself. I went to a local bakery on Elgin St. and purchased something for $2.95. Not a large amount, however, I believed I gave the owner a 20$ bill. Once back in my apartment, I'd realized that I gave him a ten. I went back to this gentlemans bakery and proceeded to explain what had happened. I apologized for MY MISTAKE, as I really thought I gave a $20. I gave the gentlemen his correct change, I actually thought about not going, as I was tired, feeling lazy etc., when I realized, hey, you'd not appreciate this in a reverse scenario. Hands down decision. Happy ending: the gentleman was happy for me wrestling with my conscious. It was a great, up lifting moment. Sometimes it pays not to be lazy, when you see the happy, enlightened face of honesty.

I want to mention, that when I renewed my yellow pages ad, they were very unaware of the new changes. So I filled them in on what I knew and suggested that they contact their legal reps for a consultation. I was an agency, but since this new Bill is our reality, I gone back to a solo business. They were grateful for the info I had shared with them and will be looking into what changes they also will need to make for other agencies. I was carful in my ad title, as I put the words " independent entertainer" which pleased their legal responsibilities for 3rd party advertisers.

This morning while I drink my coffee and read the boards here, I?m struck by how many complaints we have about the guys who take advantage of some aspect of our services and then treat us badly. There are active discussions about men who: Try to negotiate or bargain clearly-stated non-negotiable fees Try to pay less than the agreed fee after they arrive Try to get services that were not agreed on before the date Complain about our screening questions Don?t bother to take a shower, brush their teeth or trim their nails before seeing us Assume that we're likely to rob them Threaten to write bad reviews and/or aren?t believed when they write good ones Insult us, our need for safety and even our looks when we don?t give in to what they demand No one is forced to read our ads and websites, look at our photos, contact us, discuss our services with us, or meet with us. It?s all voluntary and initiated by the client. The client has needs, feelings, preferences and curiosity, but why do so many refuse to take responsibility for themselves? What they express as anger, self-righteous indignation and personal entitlement is really projected self-hatred. I want to sit these men down and say: If you don?t want to see a paid companion, don?t do it. If you decide to seek out a companion, that's your decision. What you want is not what everyone else may want. That?s usually a wonderful thing. Recognize that we?re not like cheap candy that you can buy daily. We?re more like fine dining to be enjoyed occasionally. Plan accordingly. If someone?s prices are too high for you, either wait until you can afford her, or find someone else. Meanwhile, don't blame her for your lack of funds. Recognize that she charges what the market will bear. That means that there are plenty of others who can afford to see her. Always be polite and considerate. No matter what. Even if you feel confused, disappointed or insulted, be polite. Remember that companions are human beings, just like you. We have needs, desires, dreams and things we?re worried about or afraid of, just as you do. We will protect both your health and our own. Fair is fair. If you're worried about your safety, know that she's concerned about her safety, too. No matter who or how important you are or think you are, the one who is taking the most risks is always the companion. Always. Relax.

I have used them a couple of times, with at least 2 people saying they really didn't like them. One situation it was the best solution, and he didn't seem to have a problem at all. On a US forum that i used to be on, there were a lot of sps and clients who raved about them, making me think they are much more commonly used there, or at least known about. For me all the downsides have been mentioned as well as the upsides. no one when this was discussed on this other forum seemed to be aware of or cared about the look of them or the awkwardness of putting them in, or anything of the sort. I guess it is a case of getting used to them. Maybe an sp can use them exclusively with one client until they are both more experienced and relaxed about it, then either one can spread that know how lol. rambling guy, i think they only way you could 'miss' is if you are an exit/enter guy, and most guys aren't doing that, they aren't going all the way out, then all the way back in again. I don't think they are ideal for someone who does that. I do think they are ideal for someone who is just too large for XL condoms. or someone who is too aware of the condom to maintain the erection. if you google, you will find an XXX rated instructional video that is really great.

Well some of us read the instructions (or website) as the case may be ;-) RG

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I like Gabriella for her passion, enthusiasm, humor and beauty. She has made me smile many a time.

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The only time I've had to show ID is at hotels checking in, a credit card and a piece of ID. (I'm an outcall type of guy) But never to a companion But there was one time I showed my badge/ID (I used to be in LE) to a lady I was seeing...because she was interested. I showed her my medal too. I guess a new take on the old line "come up and see my etchings" LOL RG

This is a special girl. She's very real and super-cute. Fun and engaging conversationalist, well-educated, well-rounded and uber-smart. Superb courtesan in my opinion, and when I say this I'm comparing her to high-end courtesans I've seen in much larger cities. This will be her niche market. But because I like her doesn't mean that everyone will. Has done a really good job, I think, of representing herself on her website. Basically, if you read and like her website that's an indication. It follows then - to be sure - that she won't be for everybody. If you look for thirty minute porn-star romps with 38DDD barbie doll look-alikes, then you shouldn't waste your time nor hers. She doesn't accept appointments of less than an hour and is outcall only. Bit of an alternative look with some tattoos that shouldn't throw you off. I find them interesting but I don't think they really reflect her personality. I predict her career will end up following the same course as Jennifer Hunter's, where eventually she'll just build a group of regular cliental and stick with that. She fills a very real void on the local scene. But she's not for everyone.

Maddie has been around and from what I have heard, has a good reputation. Don't be so quick to judge someone for simply being a new member here.

I have seen Lilly and pictures are real, safe and sweet personality. Told her about cerb and hope she becomes a member.

Rude people. Technology has created a ton of them! How did hello how are you become "cost?"

I have to say at the end of the day, guys ask to confirm things, regardless of what ladies put in your ad. This way you feel that everything was clear up front. Your ads are helpful, but don't expect that they will avoid questions that are in the ads. I am not saying don't put it in your ad, just don't expect that will avoid questions, some of the questions are ice breakers too.

EB is worth checking out once and a while.

I sell stuff for my job. Sometimes i give a good customer a deal. A better deal than i should. Sometimes i have had those customers talk to much about that deal to the wrong people. They basically screw themselves from getting any deals ever again. If a girl ever bent rules of the establishment for me special like. Then i should keep quit about it. Even on an anonymous forum.

Let's watch what we say and not get one of the girls fired.

Katherine (aka Cathy hfxdom) is a Halifax provider who passes through here sometimes, and on her most recent stop I made my very first appointment with her. She is only my second such encounter, and it's going to be very, VERY difficult for anyone else to top her. She was sweet, kind, extremely patient with a nervous customer, and more than willing to accomodate my desires. She shows genuine enthusiasm for what she does, and gave me enormous pleasure. Her massage talents are amazing. Lads, she's also HOT. Fit and hot and very enthusiastic. I can't say enough about her. She has pages upon pages of recommendations over at the NS board for very good reason. Treat her well and make some appointments so she comes back to our city more often. She definitely is worth the time. There can't be many out there this awesome.

Well reading, OK continuing to read the thread, I'm rethinking my opinion. It would be nice for a lady to mention if it was that time of the month to a client. And not prior to an encounter, for him to decide whether to show or not to show. But when the encounter begins, so he can decide if he would like to perform daty as part of the date. But that said, everyone's sexual health is their own business A lady isn't compelled to answer if she has a STD/STI A man isn't compelled to answer if he has a STD/STI So why should a lady be compelled to tell prior to an encounter if it's that time of the month. She shouldn't There are protections out there to reduce risk be it condoms, dental dams etc. If a man wishes to perform daty use a dental dam Now I did say it would be nice if she did tell, but she shouldn't feel forced to do so On a related note, just as a lady shouldn't be compelled to disclosed, neither should a man. I had an encounter with a lady in Ottawa a few years ago. Well in the course of grooming myself down there the day before the date, I cut (well nicked more accurately) myself shaving, at the base of my penis. Even with a condom, a risk of blood exchange, no matter how minute, could possibly happen. I could have said nothing and gone forward with a normal encounter. Or cancelled, denying the lady income for a period of time she set aside for me. Or number three, which is what I did, tell her, and have an encounter that did not include fs or bj, but that didn't mean we didn't have a fulfilling enjoyable encounter So what is my point of this. No one is required to reveal their sexual health to anyone else, it's their own business. Second, that said, it would be nice to disclose something that may be of concern to their partner. Not obliged to do so, but it would be nice. Third, if there is something of concern, that doesn't mean IMO cancelling the date...it just means the date unfolds differently than expected...and different doesn't mean worse, sometimes different can be equally enjoyable. Finally encounters are about two adults engaging in intimate activities. Part of that is an expectation that everyone is mature, and understands life happens, and can deal maturely with life happening when it throws you a curve. A lady having her period is not the end of the earth. It is a normal fact of life. And both SP/Client can adapt and have an enjoyable memorable encounter if that happens A long winded rambling RG

I didn'T want to comment but I am getting a bit work out about some of the response @Cat as much I enjoy you and your wit and intelligence, I have to disagree with you on the daty aspect. This is one of the reason why I don't only do camming or dancing. I LOVE being eat out and having orgasms. I do it for myself because I am greedy in my orgasms. I have actually refuse to repeat with some people in the past because except for penetrations, they refuse to touch my genitals. I need contact with my clitoris to orgasm...so yes for me it is important for me. About the periods...OP I am sorry this happen. I can imagine how surprising it was for both people As for people saying an SP should take a few days off each time...maybe. Now, this is me getting into my personal life, but roughly two years ago I change from taking Depo Provera (an injection in the butt each 3 months) to regular birth control as compare to DP (eeh DP lol) was screwing my hormones over too much. When switching I've spotted and bleed for almost 7 weeks straight. There is NO WAY in hell could I have taken this much time off in a row, I've use sponges, didn't tell anyone and as far as I am aware no noticed it. Nowadays I don't particuarly bleed much during my periods so I don't work during the most heavy flow day but still from time to time will see people in the 4-5 days that I am spotting. Why? Because I see an average e5 clients A WEEK. If I had to loose 25% of my income, for a maybe small drip of blood, I couldn't afford to keep myself debt free, pay for school and pay for my tattoos addiction. And I guess this is my 0 cents since 0.02$ is rounded down now

I'm finding the recent discussion interesting, and has made me think about a few of my own assumptions. And I think that's what part of the recent discussion is about...what is a reasonable or standard assumption: a) Should (and "should" is a key word) a fellow be able to assume during DATY that a lady isn't on her period? Or... b) Should a guy assume whenever he is going down on a lady that it is possible she is on (or could be about to start) her period? I think this in part is where the discussion has evolved, and is a fair and interesting question. For myself, I'm in the "B" camp. Yes, it may be that a the risks increase if a lady is on her period, but menstruation is also a natural, frequently occurring process. It can't be viewed in the same camp as someone not disclosing an STD. It seems to me that just like someone who partakes in greek has to go in (so to speak) knowing there's always the risk of a bit of mess, those of us who love giving daty must do so knowing it's possible she is about to start her period, or on it and using a sponge. Another way of looking at the issue is this: if it's important for a guy to know whether or not a lady is on her period, is the burden of communication on the lady or the gent? I can see arguments both ways. After all, there's plenty of activities we assume won't happen unless a person communicates about it first. Maybe it's true this falls into that group. I'm not so sure, since the rule of thumb generally seems to be that if you have an issue to something fairly common/natural, then the onus is on the person with the issue to bring it up. And "shoulds" aside, it's clear it could happen regardless, so probably better to assume it's a possibility and go in with one's eyes wide open (or at least wearing goggles). :) Anyway, just some thoughts.

I replied once, and have not since... But with Nominating Cat's post, I feel it is time to speak up again. It is a tricky subject, sensitive in nature for both participants. Perhaps this lady was new, with no guidance to rely on? Maybe she simply was hoping that this apt would be fine, if no fingers were used, or maybe she felt she was almost finished so therefore she did not expect to start another heavy flo? Regardless.....this can also happen with no notice at all! For myself, I have had a week and sometimes 2 week difference in my calendar. So would this topic be different? Not too sure! If I was touring, and I spent 1400.00 on flight and hotel, and my time started a week early.....well guess what, suck it up buttercup! I have to get home, pay for my location. I have no way to say 100% if I will start, when, how heavy or light, but one thing I am sure of, is my flight and hotel wont give shit. HOWEVER, I am experienced, and also would tell my client, I am light and safe, but not good for oral on me, just cause I would be self conscience for odor mishaps. As for health concerns, the most sever concerns are almost NIL when oxygen hits theses viruses, unless you have an open mouth sore, even then air to virus is least harmful other then no air. SUCH AS... I have had times whereas my client has had health issues to cause blood in condom! Is this chlamydia? or is this " torn tissue?", is this urinary track blockage? Now what if that condom broke? Would I start this thread? NO I WOULD NOT, because if I felt at risk, I would go immediately to emergency room at the hospital and say I may have been at risk. Then would have to deal with the outcome of this.

I don't see it as secrecy, simply what the buyers market here has dictated. Canadian clients expect bb daty and many take convincing to actually use a dental dam. Here in Ottawa I have only had one client request the use of a dam before we've met in the last decade. I can't speak for other providers but that indicates to me that it just isn't that genuine a concern for most hobbyists. Unless of course it goes wrong as this thread has indicated. I'm going to clarify something that seems to have escaped some. How often does a provider insist a client go down on her? Think about it. Daty is performed for the client, not the provider during a first, second or even a third apptointment. I have yet to meet a provider that says "My guys have to go down on me." Most of the providers in my circle would prefer not to have guys perform daty until there is some connection and trust. In my experience, a woman has to be able to relax in order to enjoy it which seldom happens at the onset of this dynamic and I also believe it should only happen at her request. I consider daty a consumer driven service when it's listed on a menu and often an appointment will hinge on whether or not it's provided; many men decline when they are told it's safe service only. If there was genuine risk management going on, clients would realize the chance of menses and the dam would be requested regardless of whether or not a provider admits to being on her cycle or not. To me this is a case of having your cake and eating it too. From a practical standpoint I simply don't see it going both ways. If you want unprotected daty, then you assume the worst possible risk is present and accept it or you use protection. Until there are legislated health and safety practices in place (which most of the industry seems resistant to according to the bbbj thread), the fact remains that a man never knows what is happening in his providers reproductive organs and the onus is on him if he wants to perform orally. If daty is that important to him, he should insist that precautions are used or accept the consequences of his decision if the results are less than he desired. Anything else is simply abdicating responsibility... cat

When the money is given to the Provider it becomes Her money. When it is taken back after the fact it is considered stealing. Humiliated and robbed. Wow.

If you actually thought it through, you would see that is a tremendous ask. If risk aversion is your goal, you don't perform unprotected daty I'm to assume? As we have had the oral sex "risk" discussion ad nauseum here and the resounding response from most hobbyists is that they will make their own decisions regarding safe oral sex all the while the actual weight of the risk is carried by the SP. Now the shoe is on the other foot the tone and response is decidedly different. With a bbbj, the risk is carried by the provider and I genuinely believe most who provide it only so so because of the negative financial impact if one doesn't offer it. We already share the most intimate parts of ourselves with our clients, now it's expected we disclose our menstrual cycles as well? Perhaps we should keep photos of our enemas discharges so greek freaks can be assured we prepared to their satisfaction? This is why I have never offered a menu or consent to see clients who demand one. I agree to nothing in advance which leaves me with the option of guiding the session to ensure I only engage in activities I know to be safe with my guests. Not all ladies have that luxury with their client base. Given the feast and famine nature of the business, there are many who can't afford to lose 20-25% of her yearly income. I'd like to see what men would do if they had to take a 25% a year pay hit for a bodily function. Especially when it never coincides with the other things we have to take time off for; like being out of work for a urinary track infection or yeast infection. Which btw is also an almost monthly occurrence for many of us due to our work and we physically can't work thru it. Or any of the other things like the flu and cold epidemics we are exposed to daily that "real" jobs have paid, legislated sick days for which we are not entitled to. The reality is that sex workers have been using sponges for as long as sex workers and sponges have been around. My stance on this is safe play saves. Until you know and trust someone, use barrier protection for all acts that may exchange body fluids. It isn't rocket science, just a piece of rubber and if you don't want to use one, then be prepared for the unexpected...

After reading this thread for the last few days, I think most if not all the folks here (myself included) feel sorry for the SP in question. I have a feeling that the OP probably realizes that he could have been over reacting with what he said he did by the fact that he went back and edited out that particular para. When one encounters something unexpected like blood during a sex act, everyone could react differently including being shocked. I mentioned ( probably too hastily) in my earlier post (#7) that I was shocked too. But in actual fact, my cool head ;) prevailed in that I did not react hastily - I simply showed them ( the SPs) the stains. My experiences didn't involve sponge, by the way. The two ladies were actually more shocked and were very embarrassed. I comforted them, washed up and came back to continue the sessions (without certain activities obviously). I even posted recos to thank them for the overall very enjoyable sessions - without mentioning the incidents. My original donations stayed with them and I gave them a good tip as well. Reading the whole thread, I would say I've learned many new things. If I could summarise, these will be - many ladies have the need to work through their periods - a sponge could be used to prevent the flow and allow them to continue working - the consensus is that clients will like to be informed ahead of time - the time of month could sometimes arrive unexpectedly.. - and when it does, it should be handled with compassion since this is more like an accident and it is a natural biological process One last thing, to those who do not think we pay ladies to hang out, I am one of those who actually did and will continue to. I enjoy social times like going out for lunch, dinner, a stroll in the park, a bike ride and even skating and skiing.

How is this any different than a man doing DATY and the SP starting her period unexpectedly? Would you react the same way? She didn't know her period was starting (not all women have regular periods, FYI). This has happened before and honestly, no big deal. Mature men recognize that this is a fact of life and don't get all worked up about it and storm out and short a provider the money she's owed. I get the hygiene aspect, I do, but are you seriously trying to tell me this is worse than the cheese dick I've experienced where I had to literally swallow my own vomit to keep going? Let's be real here. One is a hygiene crisis and one is simply a fact of life. This seems to be an offense based on the fact that she didn't tell you she was ragging it. Sorry, none of your business. You're not owed a warning either. How an escort chooses to conduct her business is her business. Not all women can afford to take up to a week off of work. And I've sponged it tons of times in my six years of working. I'm sorry this happened to you, but in the grand scheme of things it's an anomaly.

I am not going to comment on the main issue at hand but I will address the following: Nobody wants to pay "any of us" just to "hang out"? lol Actually, just so you know, and speaking from experience, the so-called legal loophole you are talking about is called GFE companionship which many ladies offer, myself included; many gentlemen like to partake in experiences that involve a whole lot more than just a list of acronyms with sex acts while spending time with a lady. Some even schedule social dates that don't even included any intimacy. Imagine that ;)

In my experience, the only way a sponge will dislodge is thru aggressive, deep fingering... cat

The 4th post in this thread quoted the entire original post. So if someone has come to this discussion late and wonders what Jessica is talking about, go there. On topic, my take is Life Happens. If you play at this for a long time, something like the OP's experience is bound to happen. Oh, and you'll get farted on mid-DATY. Have a chuckle at the absurdity of life and move on. And leave the donation.

Imo, a true gentleman would not bring this onto a board but that's just me despite the fact that you didn't disclose her name. This is something that is a natural occurrence and what if she happened to just get her period at that moment? Would you still treat her the same way? Yes, lots of woman use the sponge while on their period and most of us can't afford to take a week off. I am fortunate not to have long heavy periods anymore. More like 3 days now. Usually during this time I will feel not in good spirits anyways and take time off because I'm not in the mood. However, I've used them and if inserted correctly no one can detect it or blood for that matter. The only way for it to be noticed would be through forceful, painful fingering to the extreme which I don't allow or if not inserted properly. Nothing usually gets past that sponge. Never once did I have this happen to this degree but I did start my period while with a client and I was never treated this way. What happened for this to dislodge like that? If people want to think this is dishonesty then that's their opinion. Will I punish a guy because he just urinated and wants a bj? No I wouldn't embarrass them like that. I would do what's necessary to make sure they are fresh. It is your decision to either stay or leave and you have your opinion about menstural periods but I don't think there was a need for such dramatics. I think this could have been handled a lot better. Did you ever think for one moment how she felt? The word humiliated comes to mind. Perhaps she has no choice but to work during this time and never intended for this to happen. Instead of solely thinking how you think she possibly tricked or betrayed you for cash, think about the other person for a moment. This isn't just any unsatisfactory customer service complaint at a store, restuarant, etc. We're talking about a private intimate transaction between two people and it should be handled delicately. Not so much now.

My thoughts, I may catch some flak for this but I think if you are offering your time AND your body, it is only proper and professional to tell the client when your monthly appears and give him the respect of choosing what he wants to do. When you do not disclose this information, you are essentially taking away that person's choice and in this manner, their informed consent to sexual services. That is not a risk I am willing to take with someone for the sake of a few bucks. I do wish the OP would have kept in his post the part about taking the money back. Taking that out of the original post seems a little shady in my opinion.

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