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Thank you for all of your input on this topic I do appreciate it This individual is not a Lyla member This has been happening on another site And I do agree with not entertaining the situation and just laying low on it for now I am one for positive vibes and making positive connections and for us as women being there for each other and empowering each other especially in this industry

I agree with everyone here, you should be the better person. Avoid reading or acknowledging any of their comments, and try not having it get to you (Easier said then done I know). No point taking the bait and escalating the situation. Eventually they will come off looking unprofessional. Without a reaction it should all go away in due time, hopefully. The Best course of action is if they get a lawyers letter for slander, but that may not be possible or practical all the time. Regarding Ice4fun's point, I agree that we should be challenging bullies, but this type of bullying should be dealt with a bit differently... in my humble opinion. -

I will choose my thoughts and words very carefully as I too can relate to this situation. Whether it is done online and even via email or PM's, we either always see/read it or get told about what slanderous things are being written or said. It is very hard not to respond online or contact that person. We are human and the first thing when someone attacks us is to defend ourselves. What I have learned is you can't have a civil conversation with someone of that mentality and it's like communicating with a rock. It does make you question their motives and want to ask why but truthfully in my experience it's useless to even bother. You have a wonderful community of friends, fellow companions who also understand and have dealt with being the target of simply put a mean spirited person. You know who you can confide in and that you have a safe place to vent, there is no denying that these things are hurtful and upsetting. Don't ever let someone try to break your spirit and that is what I feel the motive in my situation among other distasteful things was and currently is based on. You are an amazing, beautiful, kind person and keep your head held high, do not give anyone that type of power over you and shake it off. Easier said, I know but this is beneath you. The best thing you can do is ignore and contact the sites where this slander and harassment is being posted to have it removed. This is cyber bullying and a crime. All my love!! xoxo

Take the high road and ignore them. Karma will come around and bite them in the ass!!!

I would suggest you take the high road and not discuss it (ie names etc) publically on Lyla. If you see a post on Lyla use the Report Abuse icon so Mod can deal with the post If on other boards, the site likely has a similar mechanism to report offensive posts. But giving public attention to the comments actually works counterproductively, it gives life to this person's trash talk Now if the talk falls in the realm of libel, contact a lawyer...but again, keep it between you, the lawyer and the writer of the libelous material. If obsessive writings, as in stalking, contact the police It can be frustrating but should be kept off the board Good Luck RG

As the creator of this thread it was about time I posted a highlight, not that I haven't had any but this kind of highlight when no one else is involved and remind me how happy I am are the ones that make me want to share with everyone so here it goes ... My cleaning/getting things organized day became my dancing around my place day (not in my underwear this time though) I put music on to get inspired to clean and I got inspired but not for what I had planned and then for some meditation, at least I did put some stuff away ... There's always time to take care of other things but taking care of the soul should always come first so I don't consider it time wasted :) Now I have to get off my butt and start doing the housework!!

NortherOntGuy's advice is probably wise but more and more I am starting to think we should be challenging the bullies who hide in the shadows and make peoples lives unbearable ... they do it because they can get away with it. Just my Opinion

THIS WONDERFUL WEATHER!! :) :) Posted via Mobile Device

Had the good fortune earlier this week to revel in an hour-long training duo with Julia and Skylar Heart. What a bounty of blondes they were together! Their interaction was wonderful to see and their teamwork in the shower and during my massage was wonderful to feel. As I have already recommended Skylar elsewhere (and continue to hold her in high esteem) in this post I am concentrating on Julia's contributions to making this such a remarkable experience. Julia came into the room and introduced herself with confidence and charm. She is a breathtakingly beautiful woman and she engaged easily in conversation with me. She disrobed effortlessly and my eyes found it easy and rewarding to travel up and down her tall, lean frame from the toes to her face and her flowing blonde hair. Her legs are long and held my attention. Her fingers are also long and she used those quite professionally and pleasurably to massage both Skylar and myself. Julia has some body jewelry which serves to accentuate her taut abdomen and breasts. Julia sensitively found what would maximize the experience for me and engaged fully in all the activities which occurred over the hour. I enjoyed her personality and was aware of her presence and participation every minute from her introduction to her final hug. Although Julia is new to massage, and has only just completed her training, I recommend her to you unreservedly. She has a great MA career in front of her. I was privileged to share some time with her and hope to do so again in the future.

Quickly searched the boards and was surprised to find no mention of this. Highly recommended read for: -Exceptional clients (clients with special needs/accommodations) -Providers looking to understand why accommodations are necessary and how to deal with them. -Providers looking to understand the holistic nature of their craft There are many resources out there, the majority of which are academic in nature and plagued by meticulous vernacular. Give Don Shewey a read. He has published a series of articles related to the subject. He describes an SI as follows: I like to say that sacred intimates combine the roles of priest, prostitute, and psychotherapist. In other words, they approach sexuality with the understanding that it's related to soul work and to spirituality. They use mindfulness and integrity to help people identify, embrace, and practice desire as holy, sexual embodiment as an expression of the soul. They hold the body as sacred and view erotic energy as a crucial component of human life and spiritual health. Their primary intention is that of healing -- and by healing I mean not just addressing the wounds to the spirit and the flesh caused by sexual abuse, addiction, or disease but also acknowledging that the fun and the pleasure, the vitality and the divine mystery of sex have nourishing properties in and of themselves. That's a message that easily gets lost in a culture that is as ambivalent or sex-negative as ours. Sacred intimacy has a relationship to sex therapy as it developed in the second half of the 20th century with the work of Masters & Johnson and Helen Singer Kaplan, who performed a great service by bringing accurate information about sex to the American public and developed effective treatments for sexual disorders. Sacred intimates may or may not treat dysfunctions, and they generally work from a wellness perspective, not fixing problems but encouraging and expanding sexual joy. Although it would seem like psychotherapy is the field most appropriate for sexual healing, in practice many psychotherapists are terrified of dealing with sexuality, either because they have their own unresolved sexual conflicts or they are afraid of legal liabilities. How often do psychotherapists acknowledge that they themselves have sex lives? How often do they share information about erotic resources or facilitate detailed explorations of masturbation or sexual fantasies? Today psychotherapists are intensely focused on boundaries and shy away from sexuality lest they be perceived as provocative, seductive, or harassing. However, it's possible that deflecting or avoiding sexual issues reinforces shame and cultural repression" Taken from Don Shewey's article "The Sacred Intimate-- An integrative approach to sexual healing"

What should you do when another companion obsesses over you and tries to slander you on line with lies or just trash talk? Ignore it or deal with it but in what way Just looking for opinions Very much appreciated

Ribs! They've been cooking slowly all day!!

Even though I know the Habs lost last night in overtime, I'm getting ready to watch the game (I missed it last night :( ). I heard it was an excellent game and both Price and Bishop played an incredible game! Congrats to Tampa BUT GO HABS GO! :)

There are many yuks about our way of life, our expressions, our habits. All laughs seem to come from our American neightbours. Can't blame 'em. We are a funny bunch, aren't we? Had some very friendly experiences in the UK. They seem to like us for some reason. What makes you Canadian? Do you like being polite? Do you say "sorry" every 2nd word? Do you end every sentence with "eh"? Can you hide being Canadian? Can you disguise being Canadian by wearing sunglasses? I can't hide it apparently. People can see my Canadianess from outer space. Oh well eh. Americans can't believe we don't lock our doors or have bars on our windows.

Happy birthday. I hope it's the best.

Finally got my income tax sent in, thank god there was a 5 day extension. Only problem was they didn't take enough in my installments.

Happy birthday. Hope you are having a fantastic day.

Throwing some shrimp on the BAR-B mates! :)

Tonight, Beef tips wrapped in bacon:) All farmer fresh!! Fiddle heads, this years first batch! Roasted sweet potatoes! YUM:)

Wishing you a very Happy Birthday, Kate, and a satisfying year ahead.

I have used Mirage and enjoyed my experience. I don't believe they ever advertise on here, although I may have missed it. They are very professional and easy to deal with. I used to use Pink Kitty. I haven't used them in awhile. They kinda disappeared and now they're back, but none of their current ladies really appeal to me, so I haven't tried them recently. But the women were always nice.

A most happy birthday Kate; I hope its special b/c you surely are. xoxoxo

Happy Birthday! Hope its Great!

Happy Birthday Kate.... May your day be amazing....

A huge Happy Birthday to you, Kate! :)

Happy Birthday! All the best on your birthday!

happy birthday Kate. have a great day

Happy Birthday Kate Enjoy your special day RG

Happy birthday! Hope it's a great one.

Happy Birthday to the very beautiful and sophisticated Kate! Hope your day is how a Birthday should be spent, with lots of friends, great food, sunshine and love!

Happy Birthday Kate have a good one

Happy Birthday Kate, have a great one! :D

A very wonderful birthday day to you. Hope you find many special smiles today!

Drinking green tea with great disappointment as I was hoping Pacquiao was going to win:(

I laughed when I read this thread as just the other evening when I went to a movie someone had bumped into me and I said sorry, lol. However, I have many American relatives and haven't really ever noticed a difference between our behaviors. I think people are people and in most cases reactive. If you're nice they'll be nice, be rude and that's likely what you'll receive back. I am happy to be Canadian though:)

thank you for posting this it speaks to the point or one of them which I was trying to make in my "why aren't doctors supporting sex workers". Our sexual health is as important as our mental and physical health, they are intertwined and support one another. How anyone relates to and discusses these are important. As ch6radio states though in todays society there is still a fear in experiencing/discussing pleasure. Sex is still a taboo topic, so sad.

What I've noticed especially about living in Ottawa as opposed to other cities ( lived in Toronto for a while) is that we are more considerate by holding the door when going in or out of a store or letting someone through in traffic. In my past experiences, when Americans realized I lived in Canada, they either think you live in an igloo or are very friendly because they've spent time here and know how we are as a whole. I've heard from ladies who toured there that American men like when they come down to visit. I remember watching a piece when I was going to school hosted by Rick Mercer ( This Hour Has 22 Minutes) "Talking to Americans". Apparently George W. Bush didn't know much about us either. lol. I'm not bashing Americans but just found it humorous. Prime Minister Tim Horton.. LMAO! Going to France, they like Canadians there as well. I've been to Germany and had a good experience there as well as a Canadian. We're like another version of neutrality. We are like Switzerland!

Waiting for the boxing fight to start: Mayweather VS Paquiao :)

Watched Netflix with my kids, and we went for 2 long dog walks as it was beautiful outside - low key but excellent day !

It's that look in her eye, the movement of her touch, that's able to corrupt you into thinking of all sorts of lustful thoughts, when those thoughts were the furthest thing from your mind just a few short seconds before.

Well we can agree to disagree. It goes to interpretation. You and a few others read it as being one thing I read it as simply a comment. I then stated my turn off. To close a thread though because some interpret a post differently isn't necessary, but I'm not the one who decides either.

Well then why talk about something you don't know what you're talking about. His post came across, to me as bragging about his longer dates and condescending towards those who book shorter dates. The original post was about clients who book shorter dates and then spend a lot of time in the shower at the end of the date. I4F in what I also read as a condescending post towards those who book shorter dates, posted first he doesn't know what he's talking about and then goes on about his longer dates and how a client should conduct himself in shorter dates. I quote him copied/pasted "I kinda think that if a guy chooses a quickie booking of 30 minutes or less he should accept that it does not include a show after or he should ensure that the fun activities are completed at least 10 minutes before the end of his time." This advice coming from a guy who doesn't book shorter dates and by his own admission "First I should say that I have never booked a half hour appointment so it could fairly be said that I have no idea of what I am talking about but here goes anyway." Now a respected board member, mr green who does book shorter encounters and knows what he is talking about tells how he conducts himself in a shorter date. His is the opinion that has a value for the original post. As for Emily's post, hardly condescending. It was answering I4F's post wondering why a swipe taken at him. I4F post in tone and writing to those who book shorter dates, even telling us he doesn't know what he's talking about...now that was the height of condescension. If I4F didn't want an answer to his question as to why a swipe taken at him first don't post a condescending post directed to those who book shorter dates. Second if he is going to post, then talk about the topic at hand, don't brag about his longer dates, which have nothing to do with the topic, and third, don't even ask why he is being swiped at. If you ask the question, don't be surprised if you get an answer you don't like A rambling over cup number one RG

I think of seduction as the ability for an individual to cause another to fall under their "spell" via their sensuality, charms, looks, or something special that has caught that persons attention. To cause someone to want you in a physical way. It can be a dance of chemistry and connection. To be seduced by someone is to be intrigued by, attracted to and cause a need to have. It is best when it happens naturally but many will use their wiles and ability to seduce to get what they want. I can't say that I've ever been seduced nor have I tried to seduce, although I've been by told some that some of my pictures do that on their own:)

End of Regulation Time with HABS and Lightning tied at 1... both goaltenders playing Great... you can't beat overtime hockey in the playoffs. Unfortunately the Lightning score early in the second overtime to win Game 1... That means both Canadian Teams are down a game in round 2... time to turn it around in Game two.

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"Seduction isn't making someone do what they don't want to do; seduction is enticing someone into doing what they secretly want to do already" Benjamin T. Russell Whether it be through delightful, thought provoking conversation, holding hands while taking a stroll along the beach or that brief moment before your lips touch and your hands caress each other for very first time. I think the secret is the ability to let down ones guard willingly without judgement or reservation. Jas.

Welcome back, Lili. Heard great things about you, and will have to see for myself shortly.