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In light of a recent post concerning a member going through the toughest part of life-losing a loved one. I thought I would start a thread that hopefully will help those of us going through or who have gone through the grieving process. I realize this is a tough and personal subject as we all grieve differently but in the hopes that this thread will bring comfort to some I ask you to share your ways of getting through the grieving process. In my time of need I wrote alot of poetry, went on alot on very long walks, talked alot to friends, family, to anyone who would listen. I just tried to keep busy because when I found myself alone or still I would feel to much pain. This thread is meant to support those who have lost a loved one-human or pet-love is love.

OK maybe not my life but........ So I decided a little while ago that I would contribute a post on my experience as a newbie, learning the ropes as a hobbyist in the escort biz. My initial thought was that I would wait until I had a few experiences before I wrote it. As this is not a recommendation post, i changed my mind and thought it would be best to do it a soon as I can after my first experience. I'm hoping this may help other Newbies but remember, as is our pursuit of the SP/MA on this site, my experiences, needs, desires may vary from yours. So for a couple of years now, I've been online looking around. I'm married and never really knew what i wanted to do. First I went to a few sites that are supposed to be adult oriented hook up sites. Even ones that are geared to the married crowd. None of these sites seemed to pan out. The last year or so, I starting looking at BP and the escort section. I saw some very nice ads but I was always concerned with what was actually out there. I hear things from shows or around. Guys making appointments, showing up, beaten up for their money or not getting what or who they wanted, ect. Also I had a poor perception of this The other issue is always money. For the most part I can be on a tight budget. Bills, Kids and my other hobbies come first. However, recently, my desire to pursue this really increased. I starting looking at BP more thouroughly. Still some of those nagging concerns were there. But as I looked around, i started taking notice of a couple of SPs who mentioned CERB. I didn't know exactly what it was but I didn't feel like going to yet another site. Maybe a couple of weeks later, I finally said, screw it what is this CERB Well if that wasn't the best move ever. I jumped right in. Created that membership, looked around, read what I could. I learned a great deal. More importantly, I started to feel more comfortable.The reviews, Cowboys Diary even made me more comfortable with BP. So the concern is still monetary. I can't usually just drop $200-$300. At the same time, I'm not looking for the quickie $80-$100 rates either. This hobby is expensive. (Just a quick note: I have no issue with what a SP charges. It's a Niche market with security risk ect and you are more than welcome to set your desired rate, what you feel comfortable doing an so on. But my ability to pay those rates can be a challange. A challange I hope I can overcome on a semi regualr basis) Now luck would have it that it is tax season and I got back a chunk of change. Another issue is finding the time. Between work, family time, playing hockey ect, when could I get away. Well it isn't as big an issue as i make it out to be but I can't just go and see a SP when ever I feel like it (ie I'm really horny). I had big plans/dreams for this. Take some of that new found money and try and see 4 or 5 or 6 SPs in the next month or so. I also added a new weekly budget item to raise the funds on a regular basis. We call it the well encrypted "Misc" fund. Well plans don't always work out the way you want them. First off daddy needs a new set of golf clubs. So you see, I'm in a bind. I can't see all the girls I wanted to. I think I'm actually a really nice guy. I feel bad that I may choose this SP but not that SP. It is really difficult. Now money still may play a part in my selection. There is a range that most of the SPs seem to have. Usually no more than an $80 difference. The $300 and up range is too much for me. There are a couple I wouldn't mind seeing so one day, I may save up for them but there are too many SP's at a better rate. that way I can see more So finally the day is coming. I have my excuse to get away and now I have to decide which one. Certainly I have my own insecuriities. I am over weight (Although being tall and a bit athletic I've been told I carry it well ;) ). Also a little hairy. I know this is a service industry but I still am a bit shy about my looks. But as I look around and see reviews, I finally set up the time and day. So the one thing i am worried about now is the whole built up anticipation. In my own fantasy world, I picture this going a certain way. (And I'm sure I thought I would be god like). Well reality never matches fantasy. I'm going to be disappointed or worse, she is. Well I had to give myself a good talking too. Go in, relax, enjoy the hour for what it is, not what you fantasize it to be. Finally, just know, she will take good care of you I won't go into any details about my first encounter except to say that it was everything I could hope it would be. (And I'm pretty sure I was god like ;) ) My only problem now is, do I continue with the slightly too large list of SP's I want to meet or do I just keep going back to the same one because it was awesome

I scrub my entire body once a week with a homemade mix of organic olive and coconut oil, brown sugar and essential oils of my choice. It literally makes your skin glow, silky to touch, flawless and make it look 5 years younger. The oil nourishes your skin and the sugar scrubs it, while the essential oils bring a therapeutic effect. I told this to one of my gent, and now to every visit this is our ritual to mutually scrub our body :) We go in my huge roman tub, light the candles and put Buddah Bar music in the background. The view of our bodies covered in oil under this subtle and warm light is quite exciting. The body-to-body massage is a pure delight! Once we are done, our skin is really sensitive from the exfoliation, which enhances every kisses and caresses. Mmmm! My favorite essential oils for this type of sensual play are a mix of ylang-ylang, sandalwood, coriander, orange and black pepper.

My best prank happened to be the one I pulled this morning here on cerb. I'm still laughing at how many people fell for it! lol http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?p=443243#post443243

Aside from hobbying and masturbation, what is your secret indulgence of all time? My secret indulgence is watching the "The Real Housewives" series. Not just one... all of them and I never miss an episode. I admit it now! LOL!

In early September 2012, there was a point that I actually thought that post 5000 was never going to happen. In fact, I wasn't really sure that morning would happen, at least for me. Labour Day weekend is supposed to be eventful. It's when we say goodbye to summer and get ready for the colder months ahead. Pack away the summer stuff and bring out the long sleeves. Close down the cottage. Make plans for the air conditioner and the patio furniture. My labour day weekend began with a sense of draining. I had no energy. Walking was an effort. A shower required a nap after. Drying my hair took my breath away. I knew something was wrong, but my stubbornness said, "sleep it off, it's been a tough summer and you are just run down." It was more than that. I had a major heart attack. It was weird... no sudden chest grasping pain... just a sense of draining... like superman with kryptonite. That's when CERB stepped up. I mean it. CERB saved my life. Isabella Gia and Barrhaven Woody came over and took me to the hospital. They waited with me in the waiting room and stayed there until they knew I was being cared for. But it didn't stop there. I was in hospital for a week. Woody came to visit. Isabella came to visit and then came again with home cooked food. Cat and one of her kittens came to see me daily. Bethany, Phaedrus, Luxe and Alger all came bearing cups of coffee, muffins and most importantly, love. Alger left work early to come and pick me up at the hospital to take me home. When I got there, Boomer and Mister T had made food and left it in my fridge. Angela had gone to get my prescriptions. There were messages from Annessa, Nicolette, Gabriella, Samantha, EMB, Meg, Sara, Malika and Dorinda... and a very special message from Amelia ;) I was in tears. You have no idea how much I love my CERB people. It's more than that though. My CERB people are not just relegated to a small hidden part of my life. They are central. I am actually tearing up writing this... but they are happy tears... I have had so many visitors and so many messages It's hard to mention everyone... dammit. There are so many people that have made a difference and still make a difference in my life. You all make a difference whether you think so or not. So to everyone I have mentioned above and these few more, I give my thanks, my love and my friendship. Areez, Wendigo, Jazzitup, The General, AreJayEll, Lee Richards, Andy of Halifax, Toine, Spud, Notch, RG, Melly, Touch, RoyalFun, Scott, Steve, Silverado, Lone Skater, Mr Nice ... great guys. The best. Passion Vitto, Julie Wilde, Georgiana, Nathalie, Sami, Nikki Thomas, Emily, Emma, Cindy, Peachy, Soleil, Penelope, Katherine, Sophia, Alyssa, Cleo, Jasmine J, Jazy, Kimmy, Evelyne, Kianna, Chantal, Claire, Berlin, Alexxandria, Shortcake, GeGe, Alanna, Kerri, Ava ... damn... there are so many.... but you ladies in particular fill my life with joy every day. I wish I could write the name of every person that has made this time less difficult.... but threads have a finite amount of space... and I am getting sleepy. If I missed a name it wasn't out of spite... it's because I am old. Anyhow... this thread is for you. You have made my life worth living in these past few months and years... you make me smile, you make me laugh and you make me want to share a bit of myself with all of you. And I am going to say it, unabashedly, unashamed and without any hesitation. I love all of you.

As a new member I have to agree with Wellie and Isabella. Being new on a site does not make you un-trustworthy as is implied. I have just found this site today and do not know anyone on here. How do I build my Lyla reputation up without it taking forever? Still new to this so please feel free to reply with any helpful info.

I am surprised this is still going on and on and on.... After I read Emilys' blog, I didn't need to read anymore on the subject. She is eloquent and insightful.

Hi Jenni First, welcome to CERB and joining our community :-) To build your reputation, contribute to the various threads. Make posts, participate. It is a way for people to get to know you. And remember,not everyone agrees on everything, but as long as your posts are respectful, and positive contributions you'll do fine. Also, don't sweat the reputation points, you'll find as long as your making positive contributions, you'll get points, either from getting a post nominated, or receiving a comment/reputation point or getting thanks Good luck And again, welcome to the CERB community RG

I'm okay with the "Hi" text but please don't text me at 1 am after you have woken me up. You really want to think I'm going to carry on a convo half asleep and pissed off? This happened last night and took me forever to go back to sleep even though I had the phone on silent. I could hear the vibration where it was charging on the floor. If you're texting me "Hi", please ask if it's the lady you're look for and then get straight to the point if you have questions or would like to book an appt.. I don't mean this in a rude way but sometimes we are doing other things and contrary to what some people might believe, we don't sit around looking pretty all day waiting for someone to call us. I don't like each individual text of "Do you offer this?" and then 10 other texts with a laundry list of services. This is so time consuming you just may as well call me but some guys just do this to waste an SP's time. Then those guys are branded as a WOT in my eyes. For those who actually do want an appt, just getting to the point is the best way.

And if you want an interactive, super hot duo....me and Nicolette! :)

For my skin this..... For the big head this...... clean shaven ........ For my other head down there this ..... and this ;)

Going to Randall's later tonight to look through a gazillion wall paper books to choose some wall paper for my new place!!!!!! I am talking real excitment :milleunenuit:

There is also Nicolette Vaughn-she is in Orleans too :) http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=127680

Nope, there's something about waxing that makes me cringe. That said, I do keep the boys shaved real nice and clean. Been shaving the fellas for quite a few years now and have not had any accidents or injuries. I use a high quality disposable and a nice heavy shave gel. Then, after the shower, moisturize the area with a good skin lotion. Presto! Nice soft smooth skin :) I recommend shaving around 12 to 24 hours in advance of a session, and usually do it the day before. Why? I like to shave nice and close, and inevitably you will cause some skin abrasion or some miniscule nicking and damage, which you might not even notice. Giving some time allows the skin to heal over nicely, which gives me some added piece of mind in terms of any skin-on-skin contact, like when she has my balls in her mouth. :) Word of caution about moisturizing the area.. If you do so, make sure you shower again BEFORE your intimate time with the lady. Some years ago, I learned that some moisturizers contain enough oil base to cause condom failure!! After the second time this happened, I realized that the residual moisturizer was causing condom breakage. Thankfully we had no bad health consequences, but it was a lesson for me.

Good Hygiene always makes for a very nice time. Good Hygiene + Manscaping = My clients hitting the absolute highest mark on my YMMV scale. Always makes for an awesome time.

If I may interject, I love manscaping! Makes for better blowjobs. Hehe. And for razor burn or those pesky itchy red bumps, there is a product called "Bikini Zone" that works wonders.

I met with this wonderful lady for the first time this weekend. Wow, she is truly amazing! I seemed to have been on a run with younger girls lately and I think I had forgotten how nice it is to spend time with a mature, intelligent lady who really knows how to treat a client. We started with a very relaxed, get to know each other while we enjoyed coffee, moved on to an incredible session in the bedroom and then followed up by more great unrushed conversation. A repeat is definitely in the cards.

Hello Gentlemen, -My name is Maya,im a greek olive lol,tanned olive skin, 125lbs,5'3,long curly black hair. -Im an Xxperienced MA,fun,down to earth,open minded -I am also Xperienced in Toy play...Prostate Xxxplosion!! Pm me! -Rates for Toy Action: 30mins with door fee 150 total-200 hr total!!!- My weekly schedule Monday 330 11pm Thurs 330-11pm Friday 11-11pm Sat 10-9pm Sun 10-9pm Contact number: 613-274-7073 Upscale,Licensed,Private Showers,Free Parking,discreet location. ----Hot New MA ServicesPm me for info!! ----Je parle francais aussi---- Thank you for viewing my profile and hopefully ill meet you soon for some filthy fun Bisou,MAYA XOX view the full image. .Click this bar to view the full image. __________________ __________________ __________________ __________________ Call Angel's Touch 613-274-7073 to book your sexy time

Soliel and Emily are well worth seeing. Giterdun

The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything they just make the most of everything that comes along their way. Never allow someone to be your priority while you're just their option.

Perhaps you should direct these providers to the STI health nurse or experts. I can't remember the last time any expert said to not use lube in the condom, in fact everything I had read or seen says that it is recommended. It helps not just with sensation, but helps the integrity of the condom to not get breakage. I can't imagine an sp not finding out the facts about this. What they can NOT use is oils or oil based lotions in this manner. Additional Comments: I was also going to say that the topic originally was about bbbjs in general, and also about asking do sps feel pressured to provide them. I take this also to apply to sps who provide them due to this pressure as well as sps who do not provide them being pestered for them even after they have said it is not available. If every second enquiry is asking if bbbjs are available, any sp is eventually going to figure out that if the answer was 'yes' every time, she'd most likely get more appointments. It also reminded me, when someone said that cbjs should cost less than bbbjs, well, here's the thing, out here at least. bj only sessions tend to be not just the cheapest service available, they are most often done bbbj. 40 bucks, 50, maybe 60, come in, get off, get out. So how much less is a cbj only session supposed to cost? Another thought came to me reading some of the comments here, which basically is if you as a client do not want an sp to provide bbbjs only because she feels pressured to do so (not that she would ever let you know that), then stop asking for them. When you contact her, don't ask, just accept what is provided. If she offers it, turn her down and ask for a cbj. If you really are uncomfortable with an sp's motives for providing any higher risk activity, then be that guy who doesn't do it, doesn't ask for it, doesn't accept it. See what happens. And fwiw, lets see what happens to the laws around prostitution in Canada. Licensing is getting to be more common, regulations of the business may not be far behind. If/when that happens, you can bet the number one thing covered by regulations is Occupational Health and Safety, and there is no way that uncovered services of any kind is going to be allowed, meaning only that if it is it won't be advertised and it won't be something people can ask for before showing up for the appointment. (given that services that are not permitted will likely still be available that is, what should change is what is in ads)

I value my health too much to want anything bare backed and would prefer a provider that has the same attitude. I think there is a growing complacency about STDs in society.

I remember the days when a manly man used bargain bin shampoo and soap. We now increasingly see hair, skin care and anti-aging products geared specifically toward men. Guys and gals share your miracle products as well as those used by your SO. PS if anyone has a miracle hair and skin regime for those of us with dry hair and skin, I would be grateful!

I like the Moore Mud bath collection for the bath and body. I've tried many bath products and find a mud bath to be the best I've experienced for my skin and overall well being. I've shared in this bath with guests from time to time and have been told it's relieved them from pain as well. My favorite is the pine with it's intoxicating scent and the mud is much fun to get dirty clean with. I've tried many hair products and have realized more expensive is not better. I'm now a fan of anything from Loreal as it cleans and makes my hair much softer. I have long mid back hair that tends to be more fragile. I'm currently using Arginine Resist from Loreal. For my beauty routine inside out I take Genuine Health Greens plus daily glow for skin care and Nutricap for my hair care. Plus lots of water keeps my skin hydrated.

Don't feel bad Lee, I've watched Grey's ever since the first season. I'm also a devoted fan of Dancing with the Stars. Aside from the idiot box I indulge in daily meditation and a weekly visit to a local RMT, needed or not.

Greetings Daily I use a Calvin Kline body wash And Redkin shampoo After surgery I used both coconut oil and aloe from the plant To help heal the scars I tend to use hemp cream on my feet! Theliquor

I have an image stuck in my head from a lady I have seen before who had thigh high boots and a leather skirt and no panties, I wish she would have kept the boots in bed.

A big old bag of Sour Patch Kids for my sugar fix....everybody's doing it !!!

I like Lee because he knows how to graciously admit when he's been had. :lol:

Tuesday Lexi 10-4 aka "Sexy Lexi" Nicky 10-7 aka "Nicky in Paradise" Kennidi 10-5:30 aka "Kennidikummings" Taylor 3:30-11 aka "Taylor_xo" Jenna 5-11 aka "Jenna69" Kelly 6:30-11 aka "Kelly2010" www.angelstouchmassage.ca NEW WEBSITE with PICS & Schedule :smile: 3 rooms, 3 sexy ladies on per shift! Private Dance shows available upon request! Click here to see NEW pics of room: http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/album.php?albumid=3340 New Sexy Pics of our Hotties http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/member.php?u=52117 Full Body Relaxation Massage Single Massage: --------30 minutes $50. --------45 minutes $60. --------60 minutes $80. Couples Massage: 1 Attendant --------30 minute $60. --------45 minute $70. --------60 minute $90. Duo/Couples Massage:2 Attendants --------30 minute regular $100. on special for $80. --------45 minute regular $120. on special for $100. --------60 minute regular $160. on special for $130. ------HST included in prices. Longer Sessions available and @ Discretion of MA ------ Tips Accepted------ ATM on site------Spacious Rooms with Private Showers------ NEW LOCATION: 65 Bentley 613-274-7073 Kelly Recommendations http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=120424 Kennidi Recommendations http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthr...?ltr=K&t=62190 Jenna Nicky Lexi Kelly Taylor Kennidi

She has been in the business for years. Married, clean, pretty good appearance and service. She will do absolutely everything. Bbbj, good massage, full service. I went once, never repeated, but, if you like 40 year old milfs , she is perfect for you. Playboy, natural breasts, in decent shape, average looks. Overall, a pretty good experience...just a little too old for me.

Old Dog, you are my Yoda. Congratulations on 5,000+ posts of humour and wisdom with a dose of humility and humanity. I look forward to reading the next 5,000.

I've read many of those posts and I can't remember a single mean word. Thanks for being so positive, thoughtful, interesting and sexy!

Fluorescent pink jeans from The Gap. Had to, they were 30% off today.

Congratulations to you Christy on reaching a 1000 + posts!

http://www.touchofeuphoria.com PM me if interested and I will tell you who would be a great match. Good Luck

I loooove tan lines! I just dont undurstand why alot of women think they need to get rid of them to be sexy. Tan lines just remind you that your naked friend is showing you her beautiful private parts.

Why is it that when I looked out the window this afternoon I saw snow flying?? Dear Omnipotent weather god... it's FUCKING APRIL. Stop!!! Thanks, OD.

If they advertize as an agency type service and they can't put in the effort to set up a web page, you really can't expect much. Maybe I'm wrong and this will generate a response from some who run or who are involved with agencies but cumon....not much of an add.....all they have is a photo of a phone number.

I like Touch for his great taste in his choice of pictures!

The supreme happiness of life is the conviction that we are loved. Victor Hugo

I've had 2 cerb members advise me.......wasn't a pleasant experience...pm for more details

Of course the only 100% safe sex is no sex, but I would say that any health professional who makes one feel frowned upon for their "lifestyle" is not a professional at all. Judgement only adds to the stigma surrounding sexual health and is a major reason why people avoid getting regular testing, only helping these things to continue to spread. It is not a doctors or nurse's job to pass judgement upon your activities. For those interested in non-judgemental, confidential, discreet sexual health services, the city of Ottawa offers free walk in services for: confidential STI testing, counselling, contraception, STI treatment, immunization, and ample loads of reliable and trusted resource material. They also have very helpful nurses who are friendly, non-judemental and willing to answer any questions you may have. I posted about the Ottawa Sexual Health Clinic a little while back, with more information and what you can expect. Read more about it here: http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=117436

Lover here..... but sometimes i feel i was born in January LOL

I think its a big mistake to fall into the pressure to BBFS. The issues out there today with STD's, pregnancies and the impact it can have on family and friends...its not worth it. We engage with escorts, it still should be with respect to them and their bodies, mind and souls as what we want them to do the same to us in the bedroom which is to treat us with respect. They are some of the sweetest people I have met who are only there to fund their education, families and their long term careers and are doing something they enjoy. It doesn't mean they should be abused in any way.

I always felt that those that want or demand this type of service are actually already infected, angry that they are, and want to spread it around. Conversations I've had are typically "you don't know ME from a hole in the ground, you know I work in this industry, why would you think I am clean?????" I know I am clean, I get regular testing, but they don't know that. So, I go with the assumption that they are infected and stay as far away from them as possible. I am also noticing an increace in clients that don't even think they have to pay extra for this service. I should automatically give them this service because they are so special...WTF I have a neighbour who was on a break from her boyfriend. She wanted to meet new guys, and would actually go see strangers, give bbbj, cim, and bbfs because in her words "it tastes so good, and I can't get pregnant". I was horrified that she seemed to think this type of behavious was not dangerous and I had to give her a lesson in STI 101. She ended up getting back with her boyfriend, and of course he found the videos she made of these various guys she was giving it away to. It seems that there is a mentality out there that "I can't get it, so I will do what I want". Thank you OP for starting this thread. I know many sps that really can't believe how things have changed and the pressure we feel to give services we don't want to do because if we don't we won't get clients. I say, if it means I will never see another client because I want to live to be a horny OLD woman, then at least I still have my fingers and toys and water pressure to help me out. Stay safe everyone - don't do something you realize will jeapordize your life and wellness. xoxo meaghan

When I run across a thread like this I just want to find the nearest wall and bash my head against it a few times. Guys - this is not rocket science! When you contact someone, generally you want something. Being as how the number of certified mind readers is demonstrably low, you need to verbalize a bit. If you are contacting a provider, that narrows things down a bit regarding what you want. But you still have to expand on "Hi." If you are a "Hi." guy or, to me, worse, an "Available? Rate? Location?" guy, pretend you are a grownup and, state, in complete sentences (noun and verb - adjectives optional), what you really want to say. I guarantee your life will be much better. As will the women's.

I receive PMs from board members saying hi but most of them introduce themselves and let me know they aren't looking to pursue an appointment, they just wanted to say hello. I never have an issue with that. The ones that say "hi" or "hello" only are a mystery because I don't know if you want to open a dialogue on business or if it's a friendly hello. The easiest way to clarify is to introduce yourself and say why you are contacting me, then I know if I need to send you an introduction or just say hi back. It's important to remember this is our livelyhood and while we are a very friendly bunch, time is of the essence and sorting thru the waste of times to find the ones that are going to book an appointment is time consuming and frustrating if we have to painfully extract the nature of the communication. We don't mind a nice "hello" or "hi" if its couched with the reason behind it... cat

I sincerely apologise for his name / handle being mentioned in that post. In my curiousity to find out more info on this particular SP using my Cerb connections I will admit I have made a few errors in judgement and should have exercised better discretion. I will PM Gacco with my apologies as well and next time will exercise better judgement. Just finished sending my apologies and I hope my fellow Cerb members will forgive my lapse in judgement and may I add I certainly was not trying to " bully " anyone and if that's how it came across i do really feel bad and have certainly will be more careful to think before I speak . I[ve been on Cerb for sometime and have made some wonderful friends who I trust in what they tell me and want them to nkow they can still feel thay way towards me despite of this.